Does anyone else get jealous of divorced friend’s custody schedule?

[Anonymous]

YES!! There is a mom of 2 that moved in down the street. They do 5 on 5 off and I envy seeing her play with the kids but then have coffee on a morning walk with her dog a few days later. She is reading a book on the front porch while the kids are gone. I wish I was her some days. But I couldn't afford our neighborhood after divorce and likely would have a 2 bedroom apartment in a not preferred area so even with divorce my life would not be hers. But man, she works for the school so she also has summers off and let me tell you some days I dream.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:YES!! There is a mom of 2 that moved in down the street. They do 5 on 5 off and I envy seeing her play with the kids but then have coffee on a morning walk with her dog a few days later. She is reading a book on the front porch while the kids are gone. I wish I was her some days. But I couldn't afford our neighborhood after divorce and likely would have a 2 bedroom apartment in a not preferred area so even with divorce my life would not be hers. But man, she works for the school so she also has summers off and let me tell you some days I dream.

If you have a husband who you would feel comfortable leaving your kids with for 5 days, why can’t you figure out how to walk the dog by yourself? What is the barrier?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Eh, don't be jealous. It was hell getting to this point. I get some free time; all it took was ripping my home, kids, soul, finances, and mental health apart. If you look at me now and think I'm happy and peaceful, understand the effort it took to get here. I'd prefer a healthy intact marriage, but that wasn't a choice.

Yes! I do get 50/50 and I get to relax but that came at a price.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:YES!! There is a mom of 2 that moved in down the street. They do 5 on 5 off and I envy seeing her play with the kids but then have coffee on a morning walk with her dog a few days later. She is reading a book on the front porch while the kids are gone. I wish I was her some days. But I couldn't afford our neighborhood after divorce and likely would have a 2 bedroom apartment in a not preferred area so even with divorce my life would not be hers. But man, she works for the school so she also has summers off and let me tell you some days I dream.

If you have a husband who you would feel comfortable leaving your kids with for 5 days, why can’t you figure out how to walk the dog by yourself? What is the barrier?

DP. I can think of a lot of things: He’s not home/at work. He’s busy doing something around the house and can’t watch the kids. He wants to come on the walk and bring the kids.

Also, the fantasy isn’t having 30 minutes to yourself, but having days where you can really delve into something at work or actually recharge or get your hair cut without having to work it out with someone else.

[Anonymous]

DW thinks she would be super mom — except for all the boring daily stuff (food, laundry, bed times, etc.). She would definitely fall apart with 60 days of starting a 50/50 schedule. I would thrive and tremendously enjoy planned, focused, quality time with my kids during my 50%. However, I doubt the kids would thrive, and so here together we stay…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DW thinks she would be super mom — except for all the boring daily stuff (food, laundry, bed times, etc.). She would definitely fall apart with 60 days of starting a 50/50 schedule. I would thrive and tremendously enjoy planned, focused, quality time with my kids during my 50%. However, I doubt the kids would thrive, and so here together we stay…

And yet you married and had kids with her! Hmm...

[Anonymous]

No. I love spending time with my kids and DH. It goes so fast. And when I need a break or a weekend away with my close girlfriends I take it.