my DD was just suspended for vaping on school grounds

[Anonymous]

Oh, but vaping smells and taste so goooood.

So much better than the smell of cigarettes or weed.

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Anonymous wrote:She knows vaping is illegal. She knows she's not supposed to do it at school. A friend invited her to smoke in the hall. So, of course, she accepted. I'm at a loss.
A lot of her friends vape in parks around the school.

Just reiterate the school's view as your own. Tell her to do better.

Sounds like she needs some not bad-influence "friends."

Make sure she's on a OK path and has more positive influence friends otherwise this can snowball badly.

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Anonymous wrote:Some children suffer from anxiety; and they self-medicate to cope with being the victim of a mental illness.

Isn’t suspension a little harsh?

And whatever happened to second chances?

Get therapy then and improve your habits. Easier to do as a teen than as a 40 yo delinquent trying to blame their unmanaged mental illnesses they haven't even gotten a full neuropsych DX on.

[Anonymous]

Is vaping illegal? My kids have no interest, but are under the impression it’s just stupid, not illegal. That is, they think it is illegal for under 18ers to buy, but not to use. (Though obviously the pot ones would be illegal in Maryland.)

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Anonymous wrote:She knows vaping is illegal. She knows she's not supposed to do it at school. A friend invited her to smoke in the hall. So, of course, she accepted. I'm at a loss.
A lot of her friends vape in parks around the school.

Teenagers are dumb. You're living just one example.

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Anonymous wrote:Some children suffer from anxiety; and they self-medicate to cope with being the victim of a mental illness.

Isn’t suspension a little harsh?

And whatever happened to second chances?

Welcome to Zero Tolerance. Who cares if it's completely over the top and doesn't actually work? At least it makes a good soundbite for the "IT'S CALLED PARENTING!" crowd.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thank you for this. the friend was also suspended. He admits he brought the vape.
She does have ADHD and an adjustment to meds might be warranted--thank you.
That said, as someone posted, it's STUPID and careless and I'm just so angry and sad. The school is very strict. If it were cigarettes, they'd suspend, too.
I'm thinking about consequences, including having her visit another school during her suspension.

There would be A LOT of consequences at my house during that suspension period. No screens. No books. No door closed. A room search. Lots and lots of housework and yard work. She'd also be getting a pat down before she heads back to school, and I would be accompanying her to the door of school.

Why no books? I would kill for my kid to actually be bored enough to pick up a book.

My kid would receive the following consequences.

1) Doors come off the hinges in their room
2) They would have to write a paper on the dangers of nicotine
3) They would go to rehab if it's bad
4) Phone is confiscated
5) Laptop for schoolwork only and in a public place with parental supervision
6) Random drug tests
7) Random searches of room/backpack, etc.
8) Car privileges revoked

For vaping at school? Fascist.

[Anonymous]

OP your kid is the kid who fails out of HS who fails out of junior college and then is found dead at 30 in Los Angeles. I've seen this, I've lived it. This is how it starts.

Only you can change it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is vaping illegal? My kids have no interest, but are under the impression it’s just stupid, not illegal. That is, they think it is illegal for under 18ers to buy, but not to use. (Though obviously the pot ones would be illegal in Maryland.)

I’ve just searched— vaping is not illegal in Maryland.

[Anonymous]

Vaping has such a weird image. Why do kids want to be associated with it? All of the college kids I knew that vaped weren’t ones that weren’t doing too great.

Why is it so popular here?

[Anonymous]

Weird, when I was in HS in the late 80s we had a
Smoking breezeway between the front and back hall of the school. Staff and students would have a smoke between classes.

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Anonymous wrote:First I've heard of a school who gives a crap about vaping, if only they all did, maybe kids would take it more seriously.

This is 100% on parents. Stop expecting us to do your job .

[Anonymous]

You knew her friends did it in parks prior to this incident. You should have found her new friends then.

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Anonymous wrote:First I've heard of a school who gives a crap about vaping, if only they all did, maybe kids would take it more seriously.

This is 100% on parents. Stop expecting us to do your job .

Mine doesn't vape, just complained about how much the bathrooms and change rooms stink like vape. I guarantee you if the same group of kids vaped in one of the bathrooms of my house everyday it would surely be my problem. Teachers look the other way, all the time.

What kind of teacher thinks schools should have permitted drug use zones? Kids do it at school with friends and avoid getting caught by parents. And because they get away with it all the time.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First I've heard of a school who gives a crap about vaping, if only they all did, maybe kids would take it more seriously.

This is 100% on parents. Stop expecting us to do your job .

Mine doesn't vape, just complained about how much the bathrooms and change rooms stink like vape. I guarantee you if the same group of kids vaped in one of the bathrooms of my house everyday it would surely be my problem. Teachers look the other way, all the time.

What kind of teacher thinks schools should have permitted drug use zones? Kids do it at school with friends and avoid getting caught by parents. And because they get away with it all the time.

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