my DD was just suspended for vaping on school grounds

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Anonymous wrote:First I've heard of a school who gives a crap about vaping, if only they all did, maybe kids would take it more seriously.

This is 100% on parents. Stop expecting us to do your job .

Mine doesn't vape, just complained about how much the bathrooms and change rooms stink like vape. I guarantee you if the same group of kids vaped in one of the bathrooms of my house everyday it would surely be my problem. Teachers look the other way, all the time.

What kind of teacher thinks schools should have permitted drug use zones? Kids do it at school with friends and avoid getting caught by parents. And because they get away with it all the time.

No teacher thinks there should be permitted drug use zones. But where’d the kids get the money for the vapes? Why don’t their parents know they have them? Are we a rehab or a juvenile facility or a school? How am I supposed to teach 120 kids when I’m constantly policing vapes? Parents need to handle this in THEIR HOMES

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Anonymous wrote:She knows vaping is illegal. She knows she's not supposed to do it at school. A friend invited her to smoke in the hall. So, of course, she accepted. I'm at a loss.
A lot of her friends vape in parks around the school.

I'm sympathetic with the go along to get along, at that age. But she broke the rules. End of story.

And as for "parks around the school" surely you understand that is different than "in the hall" of the school.

I hope this is a learning opportunity for you and her, on many levels. GL.

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Anonymous wrote:It's definitely deserving of being grounded etc. It was dumb. But teens are dumb and do careless things. I'm sure a few of us on here smoked cigarettes as teenagers, but have quit and gone on to become successful, healthy adults. This isn't the end of the world.

It is ridiculous how many teens are vaping these days. In and out of school.

I agree. It is not the end of the world. However, if my kid gets caught there would be huge consequences at home!

I did it in the hallway in seventh grade 30+ years ago (cigarrettes). We did not get caught by the school but by a friend's parent who read her journal. We were not allowed to hang out together for awhile, and when we were finally allowed, I was thoroughly embarrassed to be around her parents. I am an upstanding citizen and contributing member of society. Give her consequences, but dont be so hard that she will be afraid to approach you some day when she has a real problem

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She knows vaping is illegal. She knows she's not supposed to do it at school. A friend invited her to smoke in the hall. So, of course, she accepted. I'm at a loss.
A lot of her friends vape in parks around the school.

A lot of kids vape in the bathrooms at my kids' school in Fairfax County. Same goes for my nephew's school in Loudoun County.

And I honestly think the schools have turned a blind eye to the issue.

Kids know the consequences. I would be livid.

We haven’t turned a blind eye. But vaping is PERVASIVE. Nearly every kid has a nic. We would operate more like a juvenile detention than a school if we had to address every GD vape. Basically at this point only the marijuana cartridges are the focus although if a kid is dumb enough to drop their vape or charge it in class yeah they’ll get written up. But seriously, this is a PARENT issue. YOU make sure your kid doesn’t have a vape. We cannot police 1600 kids with vapes and get anything else done.

I know it was big around 2017-2018, but it seemed to have gone out of style a few years later.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She knows vaping is illegal. She knows she's not supposed to do it at school. A friend invited her to smoke in the hall. So, of course, she accepted. I'm at a loss.
A lot of her friends vape in parks around the school.

A lot of kids vape in the bathrooms at my kids' school in Fairfax County. Same goes for my nephew's school in Loudoun County.

And I honestly think the schools have turned a blind eye to the issue.

Kids know the consequences. I would be livid.

We haven’t turned a blind eye. But vaping is PERVASIVE. Nearly every kid has a nic. We would operate more like a juvenile detention than a school if we had to address every GD vape. Basically at this point only the marijuana cartridges are the focus although if a kid is dumb enough to drop their vape or charge it in class yeah they’ll get written up. But seriously, this is a PARENT issue. YOU make sure your kid doesn’t have a vape. We cannot police 1600 kids with vapes and get anything else done.

I know it was big around 2017-2018, but it seemed to have gone out of style a few years later.

It seemed to and then it came back over the pandemic when they were… at home with their parents. Now it’s worse than ever. And look, I am NOT the person who blames all teenage behavior we deal with at school on parents. But vaping is 100% in the territory of what parents need to be dealing with. Search their bags, rooms, you can smell it for God’s sake. Don’t send them to us so they can sit in our class bleary eyed or obsessively ask to use the bathroom and stay gone for 15-20-25 minutes vaping with their friends. They can barely go 10 minutes at school without hitting the nic so there’s no way you’re not in some way seeing that at home if you’re paying attention to them at all.