PP here. Trust me, I am not a troll, and I do think that like minded people tend to stick together. The percentage of cheaters in my circle may be different than in yours. But I stand my my estimate that 90% of men are faithful. Of course nobody ever will know the real statistic; it is not something that can be tracked accurately. |
Same with women |
Yup. It makes them feel better about their poor decisions. I know I haven't cheated. And I would literally bet my life that my DW has not cheated. And I would have high confidence in the people in our friend group. Surround yourself with people you want to be like. |
It’s not that it makes them feel better they are just like one another: shitty liars with no integrity and poor character. They use each other as alibis to facilitate the cheating and to strategize and analyze the affair relationship and brag about their AP’s dong and put his wife down …”girl, you are so much better than her”. Classless whores tend to hang together because decent people don’t want to hang out with that trash. |
I agree. I've been happily married for 30+ years and never cheated. I'd like to think most men and women don't. |
So your marriage is different than ours - we don’t lie to each other, and since we have specifically discussed cheating and our friends, he would be lying if he didn’t tell me. He might tell me he didn’t want to talk about it if he was told in confidence. My DH also does not need to worry about scrutiny on guys’ weekends or porn, because I have zero problem with either (and after 30 years have a lot of trust in him). |
+1 |
| Cheat at what? Wordle? Orgasle? |
well we'd have a bigger problem then but ok. |
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In my unfortunate experience, 1 in 2 couples I know have had some sort of infidelity.
I know couples were: - The guy slept with someone as the relationship became serious and then he repented and they reconciled. They are now happily married with a baby. - The couple got married young and the guy serially cheated on his wife even though she is a home maker and the mom of his two kids. I have no idea if she knows but they appear to be happily together. - The guy cheated on his wife with multiple women but they reconciled and seem happy now - The guy serially cheated on his wife of 15 years and she took him back and they seem happily together now |
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Neither of us is in a job where we travel.
But, after 25 years, I did. I told him immediately. I thought we were ok but then he did (twice), and blamed it on my cheating. Also, I caught him in the act. That was fun. Anywho, we worked it out - hard core worked it out and it took years. There were 3-4 years where I thought there is NO WAY this will work and it was all based on the lack of trust. But it did. We recommitted to each other. Now, things are different. We actively work on our relationship and are each other's best friends. I am at the point in this where I can say I'm glad it happened. We would not be where we are now if it hadn't. We wouldn't have done the work on ourselves and our relationship. Full trust came back after about 7 years. For us, it was worth it to slog through it. I think many people cheat because many people are unhealthy themselves, that's where it stems from. I know in my case, I just let life happen to me. I wasn't intentional about anything, I couldn't have told you my values, etc. I had to be very clear about how I wanted to live. Most people aren't. And that's where the cheating comes in. I think it happens a LOT! |
if you are a man who needed another good reason to cheat, if you have an affair you are having it with some who presumably knows you are married and doesn’t mind crapping on your wife. Seriously what kind of woman would go there? |
a lot of these women are married too so he's crapping on their husband also. the type that go there: selfish, immoral lying losers |
They often are googling the wife and her friends and cyber stalking her too. They become obsessed with someone else's husband. It's really sick when there are kids and family there. They will look at his phone when he's in the bathroom or sets it down and get all of that information. Then, they will over analyze the situation with their sicko friends and actively wish ill harm to the wife so they can have their *dream* man. Sickness. Mentally ill people. |
Yep. Not my crowd at all, but I know the type. |