Posting on Facebook where kid is going -Yes or No

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Anonymous wrote:We are excited that 'Jane' will be attending Radford in the fall vs We are excited that "Jane" will be attending Princeton in the fall??

I get the distinction. My son was admitted ED to an Ivy and we told close friends/family. He was class of 2020 from high school. At first, he wanted to keep it low key since ED can be brutal to many kids, and then the world shut down. I aways found it hard to state it in a way that didn't seem like boasting (particularly with so much hardship at that particular time). He felt the same way. When he graduated, I posted some pictures of drive through graduation with one picture that showed his school choice. That said, I have no issue with friends sharing the final choice of school on FB. It is a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. Don’t. It’s really tacky. If you want, post a sweet picture on drop off day in the fall.

+100.

[Anonymous]

Going to college is a life milestone, just like getting a job, getting married, and having kids. If you don’t care about the milestones of the kids of your Facebook “friends” then perhaps you should get off FB, or at least curate your friend list.

People should absolutely be comfortable sharing this news on FB, including the specific school that their kid is attending. It’s in fact one of the best things about Facebook, being able to share news like that. And it can lead to so many collateral benefits and new, real-life connections and relationships.

[Anonymous]

At a minimum, as a kind thing to do, wait until May when the dust has settled. There are lots of hard-working and great kids out there who are not getting into the college of their choice.

Ideally, wait until move-in day at the dorm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. Too much personal info in the hands of others.

What exactly would "others" do with the information that your kid has been accepted to a college? My mail carrier knows exactly which schools my kid has been accepted at too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At a minimum, as a kind thing to do, wait until May when the dust has settled. There are lots of hard-working and great kids out there who are not getting into the college of their choice.

Ideally, wait until move-in day at the dorm.

Why? What if your long-lost friend who you worked with 20 years ago before you became a SAHM and your friend moved across the country also has a child who is gong to be a classmate of your kid. Let’s say it’s at a big school like Michigan, where they might never meet or, at least they might never know that their moms were old friends if they did meet. Wouldn’t it be nice to connect them over the summer? Maybe they’ll become friends too!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When you are dropping them off in the Fall OP. That's when you post.

How is that any different?

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The thing I like best about this message board is that it helps me see how strange some people are when they can offer their views in anonymity.

It’s so bizarre that people are advocating against using Facebook for one of its principal intended purposes of sharing important and exciting news with your Facebook friends.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it is unkind to post acceptances while so many kids are still waiting to hear. It adds to the stress level for these kids and it seems so unnecessary and tone-deaf. If you really can't contain the excitement, then just privately contact your friends/family if you think they need to know right now.

Eh, I think this is true for those who are waiting on Ivy and high selective college acceptances. My kid is going to a run of the mill university. I don't care about seeing friends kid's acceptances.

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Anonymous wrote:At a minimum, as a kind thing to do, wait until May when the dust has settled. There are lots of hard-working and great kids out there who are not getting into the college of their choice.

Ideally, wait until move-in day at the dorm.

Why? What if your long-lost friend who you worked with 20 years ago before you became a SAHM and your friend moved across the country also has a child who is gong to be a classmate of your kid. Let’s say it’s at a big school like Michigan, where they might never meet or, at least they might never know that their moms were old friends if they did meet. Wouldn’t it be nice to connect them over the summer? Maybe they’ll become friends too!

I didn't post this advice but I think it makes sense. Between the original acceptance and then actually showing up on campus and starting school, things can change. More accetances roll in, kids change their minds,

[Anonymous]

I like one simple post. I LOVE to hear what my friends' kids are up to. But a simple, "So thrilled for Larla ... she's going to be a Pitt Panther!" is plenty. I don't need to know her scholarship, or that she turned down so many other offers, or that she makes the dean's list.

[Anonymous]

Of course! I've been looking forward to making this post for years. (Agree with others - no mention of scholarship, no "turned down 15 other schools," etc. Just a cute picture of your kid wearing the sweatshirt.)

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Anonymous wrote:We are excited that 'Jane' will be attending Radford in the fall vs We are excited that "Jane" will be attending Princeton in the fall??

Why do people need to apologize about their child going to Princeton? My child will not be going to Princeton, but I can still be happy for those that got the school they wanted - Princeton or otherwise. Our neighbor's child is going to Yale. Very happy about it.

Why are you "very happy" that your neighbor's kid is going to Yale? I'll tell you why -- because that kind of stuff is very important to you. That's how you measure people. Odd.

Do you have any actual friends? You don’t seem to understand how friendships work, on even a most basic level.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We are excited that 'Jane' will be attending Radford in the fall vs We are excited that "Jane" will be attending Princeton in the fall??

I get the distinction. My son was admitted ED to an Ivy and we told close friends/family. He was class of 2020 from high school. At first, he wanted to keep it low key since ED can be brutal to many kids, and then the world shut down. I aways found it hard to state it in a way that didn't seem like boasting (particularly with so much hardship at that particular time). He felt the same way. When he graduated, I posted some pictures of drive through graduation with one picture that showed his school choice. That said, I have no issue with friends sharing the final choice of school on FB. It is a big deal.

Here's the thing: it really isn't. Your son played it right, though.

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Anonymous wrote:We are excited that 'Jane' will be attending Radford in the fall vs We are excited that "Jane" will be attending Princeton in the fall??

Why do people need to apologize about their child going to Princeton? My child will not be going to Princeton, but I can still be happy for those that got the school they wanted - Princeton or otherwise. Our neighbor's child is going to Yale. Very happy about it.

Why are you "very happy" that your neighbor's kid is going to Yale? I'll tell you why -- because that kind of stuff is very important to you. That's how you measure people. Odd.

Do you have any actual friends? You don’t seem to understand how friendships work, on even a most basic level.

I actually have many. And I manage to keep them by not bragging about my kids on social media.