Posting on Facebook where kid is going -Yes or No

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When you are dropping them off in the Fall OP. That's when you post.

Bullshit. You do you. Others are doing themselves. We all agreed to play the social media game. You do you.

[Anonymous]

YES! Absolutely post! I want to celebrate with you! I love seeing what my friends’ kids are doing! I don’t care if it’s an Ivy, a state school, a tech school, community college, military, gap year…., whatever. I’m happy for you and for your kid!

Leave off any financial info. Talking about money is always tacky.

[Anonymous]

We have a lot of family spread out both all over the US, and in a few different countries. So when our kids have given the green light we've announced where they're going. We have a lovely, close family who happily sends care packages and visits the kids when they're in the area. This is an easy way to let everyone know "hey, if you're in the Boston area, reach out to Julia."

[Anonymous]

Yea, there's just no stopping mommas living through their kids and wanting the whole world to know.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is so strange to me. I want to know where kids of friends go. I don't want to know all acceptances, but I love seeing the children in their sweatshirts and excited looks on their faces.

Maybe it is because I don't have a senior yet (DD is a sophmore), but I would like to think that I can be happy for others without being jealous. I know my daugher isn't a superstar, but I also know that there are enough colleges out there that she will be fine. And I sure hope she is excited even if it is not a top-tier college.

I also love seeing vacation pictures even when I can't afford one and happy couples even while I am divorced. I like sharing and seeing happiness.

You don't get it. Posting stuff like this doesn't make others "jealous." It nauseates them. They laugh at you. They feel sorry for you. They don't get "jealous."

I have some news for you, anything you post on FB nauseates someone and makes them laugh at you. You are either off FB or you can post where you kid is going without having any second thoughts about it.

[Anonymous]

We are excited that 'Jane' will be attending Radford in the fall vs We are excited that "Jane" will be attending Princeton in the fall??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are excited that 'Jane' will be attending Radford in the fall vs We are excited that "Jane" will be attending Princeton in the fall??

Why do people need to apologize about their child going to Princeton? My child will not be going to Princeton, but I can still be happy for those that got the school they wanted - Princeton or otherwise. Our neighbor's child is going to Yale. Very happy about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are excited that 'Jane' will be attending Radford in the fall vs We are excited that "Jane" will be attending Princeton in the fall??

Huh? It's the college Jane is attending. Whichever.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Haven't there been enough "don't do it" posts on here to remove any doubt that the better course is not to do it? Or are your compulsion to share your kid's accomplishments with the world so overpowering that you just HAVE to do it anyway?

I'm sorry but this is just stupid. If I'm friends with someone on FB, I'm interested enough in their life to be happy to know where their kid is going to college. If you can't handle that information, don't follow that person on FB. Simple enough.

This. Mentioning aid and massively decorated beds are both awful but telling people where your kid is going is FINE.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are excited that 'Jane' will be attending Radford in the fall vs We are excited that "Jane" will be attending Princeton in the fall??

Why do people need to apologize about their child going to Princeton? My child will not be going to Princeton, but I can still be happy for those that got the school they wanted - Princeton or otherwise. Our neighbor's child is going to Yale. Very happy about it.

I'm PP. That was my point. Facebook IS tacky. Isn't the point to tell friends what's going on in your life? I guess those offended are probably jealous and/or consider school destinations a competition.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are excited that 'Jane' will be attending Radford in the fall vs We are excited that "Jane" will be attending Princeton in the fall??

Why do people need to apologize about their child going to Princeton? My child will not be going to Princeton, but I can still be happy for those that got the school they wanted - Princeton or otherwise. Our neighbor's child is going to Yale. Very happy about it.

Why are you "very happy" that your neighbor's kid is going to Yale? I'll tell you why -- because that kind of stuff is very important to you. That's how you measure people. Odd.

[Anonymous]

Look, here's what happens. Mom wants to share. Mom wants to brag. Mom knows deep down it's a little pathetic. So mom solicits advice, where it's confirmed that it's pathetic. Then mom gets defense and turns on the messenger.

This is the "college admissions" forum. It's always going to attract a disproportionate percentage of that kind of mom.

[Anonymous]

PP here. I mean defensive obviously.

[Anonymous]

OP, I'd wait until more kids are settled and graduation is closer. Then a tasteful, "we survived the college admissions gambit and got our kid to the finish line" post with a "excited for Jane to head off to Blah U in the fall" seems more appropriate.

Too many kids are too stressed right now. Wait until May.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes for a single celebratory post when kid has decided where they will be attending. No to mention of merit aid and no to posting for every acceptance. I enjoy seeing where the kids are heading in May.

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