Posting on Facebook where kid is going -Yes or No

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A mom I know (a generally sweet person despite her MLMness) has a college senior who made the dean's list. I wonder if this will ever end?

I just have to think, if that sort of information is something you don’t want to see, perhaps the better thing to do is unfriend this person, or at a minimum, unfollow them. She’s clearly not someone you genuinely care about.

Bless your heart.

[Anonymous]

Have we become so sensitive and resentful that we can't see other people's happiness unless we also have the same? Why can't we congratulate the lucky one instead?

We all tried our hands and for too many reasons someone got the reward first. We don't know about our own results yet, maybe good or maybe disappointed. We hope we will be as lucky as the one but understand we may be disappointed. So what? I say congratulations to those who announce it. Anyone who worked hard to achieve a result he was shooting for, he deserves a public showing of excitement. Whoever would feel hurt by others' success will be hurt anyway down the road.

[Anonymous]

OK had to come back and share. I am one of the PPs that said share the school you will attend, but not all the acceptances.

This dad just posted that his son was accepted to his alma mater (a school I never heard of) and then went on to list the other 7 schools he got into claiming so far he is 8 for 8. Then he went on to say he is till waiting for two more decisions and he is going to have a hard decision to make when the time comes. So this was more of an update, not an announcement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OK had to come back and share. I am one of the PPs that said share the school you will attend, but not all the acceptances.

This dad just posted that his son was accepted to his alma mater (a school I never heard of) and then went on to list the other 7 schools he got into claiming so far he is 8 for 8. Then he went on to say he is till waiting for two more decisions and he is going to have a hard decision to make when the time comes. So this was more of an update, not an announcement.

Just thinking out loud here. There may be many reasons why people post the information. I know I post for far different reasons than others, but most people do not know that.

Why not let him and his son have their moment. What is so wrong with that? It sounds like some of you want to police everything that is said and done by others to protect your feelings, not theirs and perhaps not others.

Some recipients on the other end of facebook may want to see the choices. You never know. But if you grow to tired of it, then you can always stop following him or remove him from your facebook.

It seems like you want it both way, to control what he posts or complain if it's not what you want to see. Am I right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OK had to come back and share. I am one of the PPs that said share the school you will attend, but not all the acceptances.

This dad just posted that his son was accepted to his alma mater (a school I never heard of) and then went on to list the other 7 schools he got into claiming so far he is 8 for 8. Then he went on to say he is till waiting for two more decisions and he is going to have a hard decision to make when the time comes. So this was more of an update, not an announcement.

Just thinking out loud here. There may be many reasons why people post the information. I know I post for far different reasons than others, but most people do not know that.

Why not let him and his son have their moment. What is so wrong with that? It sounds like some of you want to police everything that is said and done by others to protect your feelings, not theirs and perhaps not others.

Some recipients on the other end of facebook may want to see the choices. You never know. But if you grow to tired of it, then you can always stop following him or remove him from your facebook.

It seems like you want it both way, to control what he posts or complain if it's not what you want to see. Am I right?

No, it's just tacky to list each and every school. And it is also insensitive. My kid got into some top schools that his friends did not get into. I was not about to post all the schools he was admitted to for that and other reasons. I did post the school he ultimately ended up attending and that was enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OK had to come back and share. I am one of the PPs that said share the school you will attend, but not all the acceptances.

This dad just posted that his son was accepted to his alma mater (a school I never heard of) and then went on to list the other 7 schools he got into claiming so far he is 8 for 8. Then he went on to say he is till waiting for two more decisions and he is going to have a hard decision to make when the time comes. So this was more of an update, not an announcement.

Just thinking out loud here. There may be many reasons why people post the information. I know I post for far different reasons than others, but most people do not know that.

Why not let him and his son have their moment. What is so wrong with that? It sounds like some of you want to police everything that is said and done by others to protect your feelings, not theirs and perhaps not others.

Some recipients on the other end of facebook may want to see the choices. You never know. But if you grow to tired of it, then you can always stop following him or remove him from your facebook.

It seems like you want it both way, to control what he posts or complain if it's not what you want to see. Am I right?

No, it's just tacky to list each and every school. And it is also insensitive. My kid got into some top schools that his friends did not get into. I was not about to post all the schools he was admitted to for that and other reasons. I did post the school he ultimately ended up attending and that was enough.

Okay. To each his own.

[Anonymous]

It’s weird to list every school. I’ve only seen one post like that. Yeah, one excited post about their final decision is exactly the kind of thing people want to see and share. It becomes obnoxious though when you work it into half your future posts. I know your kid is at Harvard now and I’m happy for him. Squeezing in Cambridge and bringing it up every time you mention him is gross. Deans List letters are gross-let go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s weird to list every school. I’ve only seen one post like that. Yeah, one excited post about their final decision is exactly the kind of thing people want to see and share. It becomes obnoxious though when you work it into half your future posts. I know your kid is at Harvard now and I’m happy for him. Squeezing in Cambridge and bringing it up every time you mention him is gross. Deans List letters are gross-let go.

Well, it all depends on your Facebook friends. For me, it’s mainly family. Only one or two school friends. I figured if they were okay about posting their achievements over the years, then I have the green light as well.

Also, some first gen or big family types do this. Not as bragging rights but as a source of pride. For some families, getting a college education is such a big step. Why not be proud.

We will do it our way. It’s not always about the neighbors or carpool/mom friends.

[Anonymous]

I am blessed with many friends and they are all over the country and beyond. Sometimes Facebook is the only communication for a longtime, and I am happy when they post any accomplishment of their kids, whether it is a college admission, a winning game, or a good haircut. I like it, I like to see it, and it makes me happy.

I recommend y’all try that.

[Anonymous]

I posted on FB when my kid told me it was okay to post. Which was after she posted in IG a few days after ED acceptance to a Tier 1 VA State college. I did something like:

Congratulations to Larla who was accepted to College early decision and will be a member of #mascot2026. She will be studying Major and playing Instrument. We are so excited to see what the next phase of her life has in store.

She knew in December and not May. So, that’s when she told people. Other parents will announce as you know.

I think you post when your kid says you can post— December, April or never.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OK had to come back and share. I am one of the PPs that said share the school you will attend, but not all the acceptances.

This dad just posted that his son was accepted to his alma mater (a school I never heard of) and then went on to list the other 7 schools he got into claiming so far he is 8 for 8. Then he went on to say he is till waiting for two more decisions and he is going to have a hard decision to make when the time comes. So this was more of an update, not an announcement.

Just thinking out loud here. There may be many reasons why people post the information. I know I post for far different reasons than others, but most people do not know that.

Why not let him and his son have their moment. What is so wrong with that? It sounds like some of you want to police everything that is said and done by others to protect your feelings, not theirs and perhaps not others.

Some recipients on the other end of facebook may want to see the choices. You never know. But if you grow to tired of it, then you can always stop following him or remove him from your facebook.

It seems like you want it both way, to control what he posts or complain if it's not what you want to see. Am I right?

No, it's just tacky to list each and every school. And it is also insensitive. My kid got into some top schools that his friends did not get into. I was not about to post all the schools he was admitted to for that and other reasons. I did post the school he ultimately ended up attending and that was enough.

I really relate to that dad’s pride and excitement, but IMO Facebook isn’t the place to share all of that. My own DC is 7 for 7 with acceptances right now, with merit aid at all but one, and is still waiting on a few more decisions. One of her acceptances is somewhere that every other classmate she’s heard of was deferred. Am I proud and relieved? Absolutely. Have I put this up on FB? Absolutely not. We are sharing admissions updates with the grandparents and my siblings (who don’t have kids) because it feels great to share with someone, and they’re as delighted as we are. But it would come off as obnoxious on FB, especially for friends whose kids have applied to many of the same schools with varying success. In May I’ll share a little update on where she’s headed in the fall. Anyone who wants to know more can ask me face to face.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s weird to list every school. I’ve only seen one post like that. Yeah, one excited post about their final decision is exactly the kind of thing people want to see and share. It becomes obnoxious though when you work it into half your future posts. I know your kid is at Harvard now and I’m happy for him. Squeezing in Cambridge and bringing it up every time you mention him is gross. Deans List letters are gross-let go.

Well, it all depends on your Facebook friends. For me, it’s mainly family. Only one or two school friends. I figured if they were okay about posting their achievements over the years, then I have the green light as well.

Also, some first gen or big family types do this. Not as bragging rights but as a source of pride. For some families, getting a college education is such a big step. Why not be proud.

We will do it our way. It’s not always about the neighbors or carpool/mom friends.

None of these examples are from first gen families. It’s just obnoxious after the initial announcement. You can even share pics of them without mentioning Harvard, Yale, or Cambridge- it’s possible. Larla is enjoying her first snowstorm vs Larla is enjoying her first snowstorm at Yale. Cringe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s weird to list every school. I’ve only seen one post like that. Yeah, one excited post about their final decision is exactly the kind of thing people want to see and share. It becomes obnoxious though when you work it into half your future posts. I know your kid is at Harvard now and I’m happy for him. Squeezing in Cambridge and bringing it up every time you mention him is gross. Deans List letters are gross-let go.

Well, it all depends on your Facebook friends. For me, it’s mainly family. Only one or two school friends. I figured if they were okay about posting their achievements over the years, then I have the green light as well.

Also, some first gen or big family types do this. Not as bragging rights but as a source of pride. For some families, getting a college education is such a big step. Why not be proud.

We will do it our way. It’s not always about the neighbors or carpool/mom friends.

None of these examples are from first gen families. It’s just obnoxious after the initial announcement. You can even share pics of them without mentioning Harvard, Yale, or Cambridge- it’s possible. Larla is enjoying her first snowstorm vs Larla is enjoying her first snowstorm at Yale. Cringe.

I am not on board with people posting multiple acceptances, but get over yourself. If someone wants to post a photo of their kid doing something at their new school and you don't like it, simply unfollow. I post photos of our visits to my kid's top 20 school as well as some fun photos/videos of him singing solo in the choir at his school and always name the school. If you don't like it, scroll along, unfollow or unfriend.

[Anonymous]

Just post where your kid is going. It’s obnoxious to post all the schools he or she got accepted to. It’s equivalent to people posting their Christmas tree and showing off all their presents. Just don’t.

[Anonymous]

Touring the schools are one thing. Posting every acceptance is tacky.