Posting on Facebook where kid is going -Yes or No

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When you are dropping them off in the Fall OP. That's when you post.

How is that any different?

It puts some distance between when friends are disappointed and seeing your post.

It also take off pressure if a kid gets of a waitlist as they won't have to backtrack their earlier announcement.

[Anonymous]

Your friends. Your FB. You do you OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of course! I've been looking forward to making this post for years. (Agree with others - no mention of scholarship, no "turned down 15 other schools," etc. Just a cute picture of your kid wearing the sweatshirt.)

Pathetic.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is so strange to me. I want to know where kids of friends go. I don't want to know all acceptances, but I love seeing the children in their sweatshirts and excited looks on their faces.

Maybe it is because I don't have a senior yet (DD is a sophmore), but I would like to think that I can be happy for others without being jealous. I know my daugher isn't a superstar, but I also know that there are enough colleges out there that she will be fine. And I sure hope she is excited even if it is not a top-tier college.

I also love seeing vacation pictures even when I can't afford one and happy couples even while I am divorced. I like sharing and seeing happiness.

You don't get it. Posting stuff like this doesn't make others "jealous." It nauseates them. They laugh at you. They feel sorry for you. They don't get "jealous."

You must hate your friends.

Other pp, glad you have nice friends who appreciate each other, not catty gossips disguised as "friends."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is so strange to me. I want to know where kids of friends go. I don't want to know all acceptances, but I love seeing the children in their sweatshirts and excited looks on their faces.

Maybe it is because I don't have a senior yet (DD is a sophmore), but I would like to think that I can be happy for others without being jealous. I know my daugher isn't a superstar, but I also know that there are enough colleges out there that she will be fine. And I sure hope she is excited even if it is not a top-tier college.

I also love seeing vacation pictures even when I can't afford one and happy couples even while I am divorced. I like sharing and seeing happiness.

You don't get it. Posting stuff like this doesn't make others "jealous." It nauseates them. They laugh at you. They feel sorry for you. They don't get "jealous."

You must hate your friends.

Other pp, glad you have nice friends who appreciate each other, not catty gossips disguised as "friends."

You put that stuff on FB, and here's the truth.

1. A few relatives and very close friends care.

2. The overwhelming majority don't give a flying fig and scroll right past it.

3. The remaining folks laugh at you or pity you.

You're kidding yourself if you think the proportions are any different than this.

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Anonymous wrote:We are excited that 'Jane' will be attending Radford in the fall vs We are excited that "Jane" will be attending Princeton in the fall??

Why do people need to apologize about their child going to Princeton? My child will not be going to Princeton, but I can still be happy for those that got the school they wanted - Princeton or otherwise. Our neighbor's child is going to Yale. Very happy about it.

Why are you "very happy" that your neighbor's kid is going to Yale? I'll tell you why -- because that kind of stuff is very important to you. That's how you measure people. Odd.

Do you have any actual friends? You don’t seem to understand how friendships work, on even a most basic level.

I actually have many. And I manage to keep them by not bragging about my kids on social media.

I can understand that, but isn't that the point of FB to provide the going ons of you and your family?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We are excited that 'Jane' will be attending Radford in the fall vs We are excited that "Jane" will be attending Princeton in the fall??

Why do people need to apologize about their child going to Princeton? My child will not be going to Princeton, but I can still be happy for those that got the school they wanted - Princeton or otherwise. Our neighbor's child is going to Yale. Very happy about it.

Why are you "very happy" that your neighbor's kid is going to Yale? I'll tell you why -- because that kind of stuff is very important to you. That's how you measure people. Odd.

Do you have any actual friends? You don’t seem to understand how friendships work, on even a most basic level.

I actually have many. And I manage to keep them by not bragging about my kids on social media.

New poster. PP said that they were very happy for their friend and their friend’s kid’s exciting news. Supporting and celebrating and being happy for your friends is indeed how friendships work.

Also, sharing news on Facebook is not bragging. It’s why many people are on Facebook in the first place. So they can hear about and share in the exciting news of their friends. There are definitely many downsides of Facebook, but one of the huge upsides is how it enables people to stay in touch with a much larger network of friends than most could have managed in the past, and share in their ups and downs. If you don’t like to do that, suit yourself.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:At a minimum, as a kind thing to do, wait until May when the dust has settled. There are lots of hard-working and great kids out there who are not getting into the college of their choice.

Ideally, wait until move-in day at the dorm.

Why? What if your long-lost friend who you worked with 20 years ago before you became a SAHM and your friend moved across the country also has a child who is gong to be a classmate of your kid. Let’s say it’s at a big school like Michigan, where they might never meet or, at least they might never know that their moms were old friends if they did meet. Wouldn’t it be nice to connect them over the summer? Maybe they’ll become friends too!

You seemed obsessed with this notion your kid will find the kid of a long-lost friend. In this scenario in your head, do they date and then get married and the whole extended family spends holidays at a ranch in Wyoming?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is so strange to me. I want to know where kids of friends go. I don't want to know all acceptances, but I love seeing the children in their sweatshirts and excited looks on their faces.

Maybe it is because I don't have a senior yet (DD is a sophmore), but I would like to think that I can be happy for others without being jealous. I know my daugher isn't a superstar, but I also know that there are enough colleges out there that she will be fine. And I sure hope she is excited even if it is not a top-tier college.

I also love seeing vacation pictures even when I can't afford one and happy couples even while I am divorced. I like sharing and seeing happiness.

You don't get it. Posting stuff like this doesn't make others "jealous." It nauseates them. They laugh at you. They feel sorry for you. They don't get "jealous."

Surely this is a troll? Why would your friends of FB feel sorry for you that your kid is going to college? It is a big moment for the entire family. Similar to posting about HS graduation? Isn't this the point of social media, if you care to partake?

[Anonymous]

I’m no longer on Facebook but it wouldn’t bother me. I’d rather see that than people offering their skewed political views or trying to sell me cheap jewelry.

Maybe post a picture at graduation with something indicating we are excited to see ___ enter the next chapter of his life at __.

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Anonymous wrote:We are excited that 'Jane' will be attending Radford in the fall vs We are excited that "Jane" will be attending Princeton in the fall??

Why do people need to apologize about their child going to Princeton? My child will not be going to Princeton, but I can still be happy for those that got the school they wanted - Princeton or otherwise. Our neighbor's child is going to Yale. Very happy about it.

Why are you "very happy" that your neighbor's kid is going to Yale? I'll tell you why -- because that kind of stuff is very important to you. That's how you measure people. Odd.

Do you have any actual friends? You don’t seem to understand how friendships work, on even a most basic level.

I actually have many. And I manage to keep them by not bragging about my kids on social media.

I can understand that, but isn't that the point of FB to provide the going ons of you and your family?

I have never in my life posted a single picture of any of my considerably accomplished kids announcing an accomplishment. I could fill social media up with them if I wanted to.

My social media posts are dogs, babies, and unflattering and self-deprecating pics of myself. That's all anybody really needs to see to know the "goings on" of me and my family.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:At a minimum, as a kind thing to do, wait until May when the dust has settled. There are lots of hard-working and great kids out there who are not getting into the college of their choice.

Ideally, wait until move-in day at the dorm.

Why? What if your long-lost friend who you worked with 20 years ago before you became a SAHM and your friend moved across the country also has a child who is gong to be a classmate of your kid. Let’s say it’s at a big school like Michigan, where they might never meet or, at least they might never know that their moms were old friends if they did meet. Wouldn’t it be nice to connect them over the summer? Maybe they’ll become friends too!

You seemed obsessed with this notion your kid will find the kid of a long-lost friend. In this scenario in your head, do they date and then get married and the whole extended family spends holidays at a ranch in Wyoming?

You’re not answering the question, but reconnecting in ways like this is one of the primary reasons many people are on Facebook.

And it’s not a scenario in my head or an obsession of one pp, I have several friends where similar stories in fact happened. Maybe your network is small and this wouldn’t happen for you, but free to actually answer if you wish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m no longer on Facebook but it wouldn’t bother me. I’d rather see that than people offering their skewed political views or trying to sell me cheap jewelry.

Maybe post a picture at graduation with something indicating we are excited to see ___ enter the next chapter of his life at __.

That's about as cliche as a Hallmark card.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is so strange to me. I want to know where kids of friends go. I don't want to know all acceptances, but I love seeing the children in their sweatshirts and excited looks on their faces.

Maybe it is because I don't have a senior yet (DD is a sophmore), but I would like to think that I can be happy for others without being jealous. I know my daugher isn't a superstar, but I also know that there are enough colleges out there that she will be fine. And I sure hope she is excited even if it is not a top-tier college.

I also love seeing vacation pictures even when I can't afford one and happy couples even while I am divorced. I like sharing and seeing happiness.

You don't get it. Posting stuff like this doesn't make others "jealous." It nauseates them. They laugh at you. They feel sorry for you. They don't get "jealous."

Surely this is a troll? Why would your friends of FB feel sorry for you that your kid is going to college? It is a big moment for the entire family. Similar to posting about HS graduation? Isn't this the point of social media, if you care to partake?

I assure you, I am not a troll. I'm speaking for what I really think is the Silent Majority. Posting a graduation pic of Larla is great; announcing where she is going to college and how "proud" you are is not.

[Anonymous]

No. Most definitely not. It is very immature and makes you look very bad.