Three kids "dating" at once?

[Anonymous]

Herpes is alive and well among teens in Moco, sadly.

[Anonymous]

OP, I don't know what to tell you. I think the fact that society has normalized these activities to the extent that it's now accepted by kids, is sick to be honest. These are kids and barely have the emotional capacity to date one person, what more with two at once. Be glad it's not your kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I don't know what to tell you. I think the fact that society has normalized these activities to the extent that it's now accepted by kids, is sick to be honest. These are kids and barely have the emotional capacity to date one person, what more with two at once. Be glad it's not your kid.

Why is it "sick"? I don't think 11 year olds need to be dating in general, but what makes this "sick" as opposed to couples where one or both of them cheat?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I don't know what to tell you. I think the fact that society has normalized these activities to the extent that it's now accepted by kids, is sick to be honest. These are kids and barely have the emotional capacity to date one person, what more with two at once. Be glad it's not your kid.

Why is it "sick"? I don't think 11 year olds need to be dating in general, but what makes this "sick" as opposed to couples where one or both of them cheat?

I never defended cheating either. Frankly, a reasonable person would never put themselves through the emotional rollercoaster of being part of a "throuple." There's always someone who will get hurt and someone else who holds the most power. People with healthy self-esteem don't have patience or time for that B.S. and kids especially have no business going through something like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They're 11! It's not my kid. Yes, I am pretty unflappable and a lot of the kids confide in me, a thing that I treasure.

Why is it my business? It's not, but having my own child who is not too much younger, I like to keep up with the trends!

11 year olds do weird things when dating. I remember my “boyfriend” at 11 - I had never spoken to him before, a friend asked him out for me, we avoided each other like the plague after we became a couple, and 5 days after agreeing to be my boyfriend his friend told my friend he didn’t want me to be his girlfriend anymore. It’s just a weird age.

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Anonymous wrote:They're 11! It's not my kid. Yes, I am pretty unflappable and a lot of the kids confide in me, a thing that I treasure.

Why is it my business? It's not, but having my own child who is not too much younger, I like to keep up with the trends!

11 year olds do weird things when dating. I remember my “boyfriend” at 11 - I had never spoken to him before, a friend asked him out for me, we avoided each other like the plague after we became a couple, and 5 days after agreeing to be my boyfriend his friend told my friend he didn’t want me to be his girlfriend anymore. It’s just a weird age.

I did not allow my 11 year old to date. But honestly, I might have been ok with this kind of dating.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm assuming this kid isn't yours?

I'm so glad to not have to deal with this. If I did, I would not allow any dating much less group dating. Doesn't have to do with your pronouns, but you obviously aren't mature enough to understand any of it. You can have friends and that's it.

Good luck with that, Mr. Capulet.

hahah. That is brilliant.

Side note: disengage, as a high school friend from a hippie town turned parent said. Disengage! For your sake and theirs.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm assuming this kid isn't yours?

I'm so glad to not have to deal with this. If I did, I would not allow any dating much less group dating. Doesn't have to do with your pronouns, but you obviously aren't mature enough to understand any of it. You can have friends and that's it.

Good luck with that, Mr. Capulet.

hahah. That is brilliant.

Side note: disengage, as a high school friend from a hippie town turned parent said. Disengage! For your sake and theirs.

Huh?

That is crazy. Engage and talk to your teen/ tween … a lot of current dating norms are not safe especially For girls

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They're 11! It's not my kid. Yes, I am pretty unflappable and a lot of the kids confide in me, a thing that I treasure.

Why is it my business? It's not, but having my own child who is not too much younger, I like to keep up with the trends!

11 year olds do weird things when dating. I remember my “boyfriend” at 11 - I had never spoken to him before, a friend asked him out for me, we avoided each other like the plague after we became a couple, and 5 days after agreeing to be my boyfriend his friend told my friend he didn’t want me to be his girlfriend anymore. It’s just a weird age.

I did not allow my 11 year old to date. But honestly, I might have been ok with this kind of dating.

Oh, my parents had no idea. We wouldn’t have dared to try to go on an actual date. It was just an at-school thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I don't know what to tell you. I think the fact that society has normalized these activities to the extent that it's now accepted by kids, is sick to be honest. These are kids and barely have the emotional capacity to date one person, what more with two at once. Be glad it's not your kid.

Mental illness is being normalized by society.

Who do you blame for this trend?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I don't know what to tell you. I think the fact that society has normalized these activities to the extent that it's now accepted by kids, is sick to be honest. These are kids and barely have the emotional capacity to date one person, what more with two at once. Be glad it's not your kid.

Why is it "sick"? I don't think 11 year olds need to be dating in general, but what makes this "sick" as opposed to couples where one or both of them cheat?

These aren't open relationships where there is technically no cheating and the do things one-on-one with both girlfriends at separate times. These are relationships where all 3 kids are dating one another at the same time, so imagine them all holding hands at once or all making out at once. That's a weird social construct and definitely not something we need to accept as normal for middle school kids.