Three kids "dating" at once?

[Anonymous]

Long story short, the kid up the street has had a transformative pandemic. She went from she to they to he and back to they and now has a girlfriend (?) that also identifies as a they and have pulled a girl who identifies as a "he" into the mix. I learned all this when she was getting me caught up at a Halloween Bonfire and other than "Oh. Hmm. That's nice. Well, I'd like to meet them sometime. Uh, say hello to your brother for me" I had no idea what to say because I didn't understand what I was hearing.

Is group dating a thing now? I'm starting to feel old and confused!

[Anonymous]

Thruples are a thing.

[Anonymous]

Who cares, it’s your neighbor’s kid. Just say “that’s great” and move on with your life.

[Anonymous]

Aw, poly babies! Not super new, but it's now a lot more mainstream than it used to be I think? Also, remember these are tweens/teens, so they're exploring different identities. It sounds like the kid you know is currently identifying as non-binary, their girlfriend is non-binary, and their boyfriend is trans. It's entirely possible all three kids will grow up to non-binary and polyamorous or cis and straight and monogamous or anything in between.

There's nothing wrong with your response; just give them the same kind of interest in their relationship as if they were still identifying as she and telling you about a boy they were seeing.

[Anonymous]

How old are they? Having sex? Hope not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Aw, poly babies! Not super new, but it's now a lot more mainstream than it used to be I think? Also, remember these are tweens/teens, so they're exploring different identities. It sounds like the kid you know is currently identifying as non-binary, their girlfriend is non-binary, and their boyfriend is trans. It's entirely possible all three kids will grow up to non-binary and polyamorous or cis and straight and monogamous or anything in between.

There's nothing wrong with your response; just give them the same kind of interest in their relationship as if they were still identifying as she and telling you about a boy they were seeing.

This. Don’t make a mountain out of a molehill.

1) relations at this age tend to be short-lived.
2) throuples at any age tend to be short-lived.

[Anonymous]

Lol they don’t even know what they are at this age. It’s all so sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lol they don’t even know what they are at this age. It’s all so sad.

No sadder than curious, exploring teenagers always been. They’ll be fine.

OP, act unshockable even if you are shocked, and go about your day. What they’re really exploring when telling you is if you are an adult who they can trust.

[Anonymous]

I'm assuming this kid isn't yours?

I'm so glad to not have to deal with this. If I did, I would not allow any dating much less group dating. Doesn't have to do with your pronouns, but you obviously aren't mature enough to understand any of it. You can have friends and that's it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm assuming this kid isn't yours?

I'm so glad to not have to deal with this. If I did, I would not allow any dating much less group dating. Doesn't have to do with your pronouns, but you obviously aren't mature enough to understand any of it. You can have friends and that's it.

Good luck with that, Mr. Capulet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm assuming this kid isn't yours?

I'm so glad to not have to deal with this. If I did, I would not allow any dating much less group dating. Doesn't have to do with your pronouns, but you obviously aren't mature enough to understand any of it. You can have friends and that's it.

Good luck with that, Mr. Capulet.

+1

If you forbid, they will just sneak around.

And you have no idea how old these teens are. Not allowing a 16 or 17 year old to date is weird.

[Anonymous]

They're 11! It's not my kid. Yes, I am pretty unflappable and a lot of the kids confide in me, a thing that I treasure.

Why is it my business? It's not, but having my own child who is not too much younger, I like to keep up with the trends!

[Anonymous]

OP again! "Thruples"! I like it. Also sounds like a game that could involved colored, plastic discs. Thanks, brain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lol they don’t even know what they are at this age. It’s all so sad.

No sadder than curious, exploring teenagers always been. They’ll be fine.

OP, act unshockable even if you are shocked, and go about your day. What they’re really exploring when telling you is if you are an adult who they can trust.

This is an awesome approach with adults too!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP again! "Thruples"! I like it. Also sounds like a game that could involved colored, plastic discs. Thanks, brain.

Your brain is a fun place. Wheeeeee