Three kids "dating" at once?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

So what if they are 11?! My daughter had her first "boyfriend" at 12.
Obviously that didn't last long. She is now 17 and has been dating someone for the past year. They went away this weekend and I'm ok with it. Grow up!

You aren’t “grown up” because you allow your 17 year old DD to go out of town with her boyfriend. I’m plenty grown up and none of daughters would ever even ask to do this because they know it’s inappropriate and not something any of their friends are doing, either. I’m sure you are the same mom who hosts drinking parties in your basement, and may even buy the alcohol. You may think you are the cool, enlightened mom but I guarantee that lots of other moms just think you are a crappy parent.

Mom sounds more like checked out than "grown up". I don't plan to be so permissive when my daughter is a few years older. Don't care if I'm the "cool mom" or not. Or else has pretty low standards and expectations for her daughter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They’re eleven? Is it common for eleven-year-olds to have girlfriends/boyfriends these days? All the kids in my life are much younger so I don’t have a sense of what the tween norms are now.

No. It's not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

So what if they are 11?! My daughter had her first "boyfriend" at 12.
Obviously that didn't last long. She is now 17 and has been dating someone for the past year. They went away this weekend and I'm ok with it. Grow up!

You aren’t “grown up” because you allow your 17 year old DD to go out of town with her boyfriend. I’m plenty grown up and none of daughters would ever even ask to do this because they know it’s inappropriate and not something any of their friends are doing, either. I’m sure you are the same mom who hosts drinking parties in your basement, and may even buy the alcohol. You may think you are the cool, enlightened mom but I guarantee that lots of other moms just think you are a crappy parent.

Mom sounds more like checked out than "grown up". I don't plan to be so permissive when my daughter is a few years older. Don't care if I'm the "cool mom" or not. Or else has pretty low standards and expectations for her daughter.

Checked out or the type that likes to be besties with their kids and knows all the friends' business and is up to date on all the latest kid gossip.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If teens poly dating had been a thing in 1987-1990, my life would have had less drama than it did due to my friends and I falling for the same guys repeatedly.

I doubt it - the opposite - likely much worse jealousy when one gets more attention or favor …

Except not. Jealousy exists in all relationships, at least in poly situations people are open about their feelings and needs.

[Anonymous]

Totally healthy and normal. You had better not question this.

Or else.

[Anonymous]

Um, did you tell the kids parents they shared this with you?

Think the teenager was trying to show adults how edgy they are. Just ends up sounding pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

So what if they are 11?! My daughter had her first "boyfriend" at 12.
Obviously that didn't last long. She is now 17 and has been dating someone for the past year. They went away this weekend and I'm ok with it. Grow up!

You aren’t “grown up” because you allow your 17 year old DD to go out of town with her boyfriend. I’m plenty grown up and none of daughters would ever even ask to do this because they know it’s inappropriate and not something any of their friends are doing, either. I’m sure you are the same mom who hosts drinking parties in your basement, and may even buy the alcohol. You may think you are the cool, enlightened mom but I guarantee that lots of other moms just think you are a crappy parent.

How am I a "crappy parent"?? Yes my daughter is open with me. I sure all your daughters are doing that behind your back and you all have no idea!!
Just go on their instagrams and you will maybe realise.
My daughter is nearly an adult. She posted a picture of herself and her bf in a bath tub (just legs nothing else) yes shocker it happens. I didn't go loose my mind. We just had a conversation about being responsible. Which is the way to do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They’re eleven? Is it common for eleven-year-olds to have girlfriends/boyfriends these days? All the kids in my life are much younger so I don’t have a sense of what the tween norms are now.

No. It's not.

+1

Most 11 year olds I know are still in elementary school zone…even if they’re in middle school, they’re still sweet and pretty innocent. But, damn. The 13 year olds are completely brash know-it-all’s who like to school adults on sexuality, cultural issues and social justice. And yes many whites girls are gay or bi 🤨

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

So what if they are 11?! My daughter had her first "boyfriend" at 12.
Obviously that didn't last long. She is now 17 and has been dating someone for the past year. They went away this weekend and I'm ok with it. Grow up!

You aren’t “grown up” because you allow your 17 year old DD to go out of town with her boyfriend. I’m plenty grown up and none of daughters would ever even ask to do this because they know it’s inappropriate and not something any of their friends are doing, either. I’m sure you are the same mom who hosts drinking parties in your basement, and may even buy the alcohol. You may think you are the cool, enlightened mom but I guarantee that lots of other moms just think you are a crappy parent.

How am I a "crappy parent"?? Yes my daughter is open with me. I sure all your daughters are doing that behind your back and you all have no idea!!
Just go on their instagrams and you will maybe realise.
My daughter is nearly an adult. She posted a picture of herself and her bf in a bath tub (just legs nothing else) yes shocker it happens. I didn't go loose my mind. We just had a conversation about being responsible. Which is the way to do it.

Yeah, no. This is why you say no to your teen daughters and dating. Allowing her to go away for the weekend with her boyfriend at 17? You are nuts. How about encouraging her to focus on her academics instead of posting selfies with her bf in a bathtub? I would be so embarrassed if my daughter did that.

[Anonymous]

I miss the days when these kids just joined the drama club.


+1000

Another 10,000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If teens poly dating had been a thing in 1987-1990, my life would have had less drama than it did due to my friends and I falling for the same guys repeatedly.

I doubt it - the opposite - likely much worse jealousy when one gets more attention or favor …

Except not. Jealousy exists in all relationships, at least in poly situations people are open about their feelings and needs.

Nice theory. In practice, a majority of people who have tried polyamory said it made them feel too possessive/ jealous or insecure …. Also, I personally know women in these situation who lost out big time and had no legal protections for their times together … I am sure not encouraging my teen to consider this lifestyle eventually …


https://www.newsweek.com/polyamorous-relationship-one-nine-americans-study-1594618

[Anonymous]

Letting your 17 year old daughter go away with her boyfriend is whack. Can they even check into a hotel as minors? Or, let me guess, the boyfriend is 25 and mom is cool with that too.

[Anonymous]

I read these threads and I really wonder who these people are…..

I can’t imagine being okay with my 11 yo in a thruple, or sounding delighted that my 17 yo was posting soft porn?!?

I have to imagine some of these are trolls… what in h*ll are your 20s for anymore?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Letting your 17 year old daughter go away with her boyfriend is whack. Can they even check into a hotel as minors? Or, l
et me guess, the boyfriend is 25 and mom is cool with that too.

He just started college so not a big deal. You guys are so oblivious to what teenagers do now days. So in reality you guys are the crappy parents. Keep up times have changed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

So what if they are 11?! My daughter had her first "boyfriend" at 12.
Obviously that didn't last long. She is now 17 and has been dating someone for the past year. They went away this weekend and I'm ok with it. Grow up!

You aren’t “grown up” because you allow your 17 year old DD to go out of town with her boyfriend. I’m plenty grown up and none of daughters would ever even ask to do this because they know it’s inappropriate and not something any of their friends are doing, either. I’m sure you are the same mom who hosts drinking parties in your basement, and may even buy the alcohol. You may think you are the cool, enlightened mom but I guarantee that lots of other moms just think you are a crappy parent.

Mom sounds more like checked out than "grown up". I don't plan to be so permissive when my daughter is a few years older. Don't care if I'm the "cool mom" or not. Or else has pretty low standards and expectations for her daughter.

Pp is the type of mom that secretly hopes one of dd’s male friends tries to make a move on her.

There is a lot of overlap between “cool moms” and moms that hook up with hs junior/senior boys.