How old is too old to adopt as a single woman?

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. You are too old to adopt an infant and it is repugnant that you think nothing of buying another human being.

What caused your damage?

NP. There is validity in this comment blunt as it may seem. Look at OP's original post, half of which is: "Fully prepared to pay for a private placement and birth mother's expenses."

And she "prefers" an infant as though she is shopping for a particular pair of shoes.

Didn't spend a single word on her willingness to sacrifice anything other than money for said child, nor her emotional and spiritual journey to get to this point where she thinks she can be a loving and involved parent.

Again. What is your damage? You are digging & poking for for a hostile response. Go haunt another board you ghoul.

Ghouls are those who treat children like a pound of flesh that can be purchased. It seems OP hasn't even explored foster care which would be more applicable IMO.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. You are too old to adopt an infant and it is repugnant that you think nothing of buying another human being.

What caused your damage?

NP. There is validity in this comment blunt as it may seem. Look at OP's original post, half of which is: "Fully prepared to pay for a private placement and birth mother's expenses."

And she "prefers" an infant as though she is shopping for a particular pair of shoes.

Didn't spend a single word on her willingness to sacrifice anything other than money for said child, nor her emotional and spiritual journey to get to this point where she thinks she can be a loving and involved parent.

I think it’s obvious. The person adopting a child, it’s already pretty nobel. Her whole life raising this child will be a sacrifice!
What’s up with you people? Motherhood is not easy even with biological children.

There are very few infants to go around for lots of people who want to adopt, I wouldn't consider that particularly "nobel." Adopt an older child with lots of known special needs from foster care would be.

I think OP, that if you are ok with not being the infants bio-mom (I mean really really ok with it, as in lots of soul searching) and you are willing to meet the child wherever they are at in life, even if their abilities are.nit anything like you.ornyour spouses, an adoption will go well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would you be open to pregnancy via an egg or embryo donor?

Adoption can take a long time. I know single friends who started the process at 45 and are still waiting at 47, 48.

A donor may be a faster path to becoming a parent, especially if you are worried about your age.

This is a faster and cheaper way. But do you REALLY want an infant at age 47? All this will take at least a year.

[Anonymous]

My friend just adopted twin boys (one with special needs). Friend is 54, and she already has 3 kids. She has a lot of money and is married though.

[Anonymous]

We did donor and conceived twins born when we were 45. They are great kids with few problems but I would not do it again.
Although we were healthy athletes from long lived families both of us became ill in our mid 50s. My husband died at 65 rare for his family and I am disabled. You never know what life will throw at you but statistically past 55 is much more likely. So we had twins in ES. Also sandwiched with the parents.
That’s why the adoption agencies are unlikely to help you. But good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. You are too old to adopt an infant and it is repugnant that you think nothing of buying another human being.

What caused your damage?

NP. There is validity in this comment blunt as it may seem. Look at OP's original post, half of which is: "Fully prepared to pay for a private placement and birth mother's expenses."

And she "prefers" an infant as though she is shopping for a particular pair of shoes.

Didn't spend a single word on her willingness to sacrifice anything other than money for said child, nor her emotional and spiritual journey to get to this point where she thinks she can be a loving and involved parent.

Again. What is your damage? You are digging & poking for for a hostile response. Go haunt another board you ghoul.

Ghouls are those who treat children like a pound of flesh that can be purchased. It seems OP hasn't even explored foster care which would be more applicable IMO.

Is this what you tell people who want or have bio children?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. You are too old to adopt an infant and it is repugnant that you think nothing of buying another human being.

What caused your damage?

NP. There is validity in this comment blunt as it may seem. Look at OP's original post, half of which is: "Fully prepared to pay for a private placement and birth mother's expenses."

And she "prefers" an infant as though she is shopping for a particular pair of shoes.

Didn't spend a single word on her willingness to sacrifice anything other than money for said child, nor her emotional and spiritual journey to get to this point where she thinks she can be a loving and involved parent.

Again. What is your damage? You are digging & poking for for a hostile response. Go haunt another board you ghoul.

Ghouls are those who treat children like a pound of flesh that can be purchased. It seems OP hasn't even explored foster care which would be more applicable IMO.

Is this what you tell people who want or have bio children?

Look, people who can have kids naturally have options that can't be taken away from them (ie., sex that leads to a child). People who can't have kids naturally have fewer options, and they are regulated, because the needs of the child are more important than the desires of the putative parent. This isn't fair, but it's life. No one is entitled to a child. TBH, I think most biological parents shouldn't be parents, either. But there's nothing anyone can do about it, at least not prior to birth.

[Anonymous]

This is the agency website someone I know used to adopt an infant. https://www.lifelongadoptions.com/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We did donor and conceived twins born when we were 45. They are great kids with few problems but I would not do it again.
Although we were healthy athletes from long lived families both of us became ill in our mid 50s. My husband died at 65 rare for his family and I am disabled. You never know what life will throw at you but statistically past 55 is much more likely. So we had twins in ES. Also sandwiched with the parents.
That’s why the adoption agencies are unlikely to help you. But good luck.

Sorry about your DH, but I feel like I get a lot of support from my kids. Can't imagine not having them especially if DH died. And in a few years I'll probably have grand-kids so the family is expanding.

[Anonymous]

I can't imagine not adopting my daughter at 42. I had zero interest in pregnancy and birth.

My parents, friends, co-workers, and boyfriends were more than supportive. I don't think i ever really purchased anything -- my "group" gave me everything I needed and more. I got the best baby in the world and the best support.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My preference is to adopt an infant. Is this realistic at age 46? Fully prepared to pay for a private placement and birth mother's expenses.

You are too old. Children are a lot of work.

Single or old, pick one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We did donor and conceived twins born when we were 45. They are great kids with few problems but I would not do it again.
Although we were healthy athletes from long lived families both of us became ill in our mid 50s. My husband died at 65 rare for his family and I am disabled. You never know what life will throw at you but statistically past 55 is much more likely. So we had twins in ES. Also sandwiched with the parents.
That’s why the adoption agencies are unlikely to help you. But good luck.

Sorry about your DH, but I feel like I get a lot of support from my kids. Can't imagine not having them especially if DH died. And in a few years I'll probably have grand-kids so the family is expanding.

Uhhh... people are not supposed to be getting support from their children... I'm assuming they're teens or young adults. That's more than a little F-ed up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Would you be open to pregnancy via an egg or embryo donor?

Adoption can take a long time. I know single friends who started the process at 45 and are still waiting at 47, 48.

A donor may be a faster path to becoming a parent, especially if you are worried about your age.

This is a faster and cheaper way. But do you REALLY want an infant at age 47? All this will take at least a year.

She most likely will not be placed with an infant in a year, not unless she is receptive to a special needs baby. There are married couples in their 30s who have been waiting for years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't imagine not adopting my daughter at 42. I had zero interest in pregnancy and birth.

My parents, friends, co-workers, and boyfriends were more than supportive. I don't think i ever really purchased anything -- my "group" gave me everything I needed and more. I got the best baby in the world and the best support.

This, but married. You can be young or old and die young. These arguments are silly.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand the previous post. Is she supposed to get a mail-order husband if she wants a baby to raise? Sounds like she has a better situation than anyone posting on here.

If I had it to do over I would leave the husband out of it. I too have a wonderful support system but my husband was not one of them.