Pretending to be Southern

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Anonymous wrote:My DH insists that we raise our children to speak like they are southern. I love the south and the southern culture, but we live in Northern Virginia. People don't speak that way here. My DH is just a poser. Whenever I am telling a story or visiting with other moms, my DH will interrupt me to correct a term I use if it isn't southern. For example, if I refer to a BBQ, he steps in and says "cook out". If I use the word "mom", he steps in and says "momma". All the flipping time. I should add he was raised is rural Pennsylvania and no one else in his family uses southern terms. I have progressed from giving him the evil eye to telling him how unattractive his behavior is and that enough is enough. Bless his heart!

Rant over.

OMG OP. I so wish I could witness, this is a riot, his Southern fetish. LMAO!!!

"Momma"

Tell me it ain't real. Momma? lol!!

Can he do other role play instead, like Dungeons and Dragons?

How could you even be expected to go along with this with a straight face? Yes to D and D as an alternative. He can hole up in the basement for a few hours every week.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's poseur.
- foreigner.

OP is correct with poser. I have never seen anyone use poseur. Poseur is esoteric at best, but technically okay in circles of French descent. https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/poser

I think either way is fine. I see a lot of people on DCUM write "en vogue", when "in vogue" would do just as well.

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Anonymous wrote:This must be a troll. I don't understand this at all.

I don't know anyone who says cookout. It's BBQ. But I'm from TX, not the South[b], so maybe it's different there but never heard that.

I will say that while I have hints of Texas-isms in my speech I don't force that on my kids. My kids speak like they're from NOVA, which is how it should be. How odd.

Pssst Texas is the South.

OP, it sounds like a mental disorder.

Yeah, so you missed the part where it says, I"m from Texas, not the South explicitly in the post, huh?

No, he was correcting the PP. Wasn't that obvious?

Texas was part of the Confederacy. It's the south. I know Texans take pride in being unique, or thinking they are, at least, [b]but to the rest of the country, they're part of the South, geographically, culturally, and politically.

That's because you're too lazy to understand nuance in culture. The cultures are not the same at all. But if you're not really familiar with either, you wouldn't be able to identify the differences.

Uh huh. You know, people who grew up in Montgomery County, MD, and Arlington, VA, insist that there are dramatic differences between the two counties, they'd never live in the other one, yada yada yada. To the rest of the thinking world, they're exactly the freakin' same.

That little parable seems relevant here.

NP. No, this is wrong. Your example of MD vs VA is too granular. I grew up in the Midwest, don't differentiate those two, and yet I know that there is a vast difference between Texas and the Deep South, despite the fact that geographically, yes, they are both in the southern part of America.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH insists that we raise our children to speak like they are southern. I love the south and the southern culture, but we live in Northern Virginia. People don't speak that way here. My DH is just a poser. Whenever I am telling a story or visiting with other moms, my DH will interrupt me to correct a term I use if it isn't southern. For example, if I refer to a BBQ, he steps in and says "cook out". If I use the word "mom", he steps in and says "momma". All the flipping time. I should add he was raised is rural Pennsylvania and no one else in his family uses southern terms. I have progressed from giving him the evil eye to telling him how unattractive his behavior is and that enough is enough. Bless his heart!

Rant over.

So weird but I do want to share that I have an aunt-in-law who was raised in Falls Church and you'd think she was born at Tara. It's so effin' fake and I"m real Southerner (New Orleans) and it sort of pisses me off but she's insane so I let it go.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My mom's family is southern. My mom calls an even where you put hamburgers on the grill a "barbeque". She also calls the cuisine that consists of pulled meat with sweet tomato-based sauce on it "barbeque".

And we call our mothers "mom". Except me, I am "mommy" to my kids. I don't think anyway has used "mama" past the age of two.

I think your husband is weird. But most husbands are weird in some way, and this is relatively benign.

DP. Just addressing part of your post, not OP's husband's problem, but: Your family does "mom" but that's your family. Our family (NC) has used "Mama" for generations--like, back into the mid-19th century--and I am "Mama" to my young adult child and always will be. It's cool whatever any family chooses, just don't assume what one family does is what others choose to use. Most of my peers (I'm Southern) used mom for their mothers and are mom themselves to their kids, and that's fine. But Mamas do still exist.

Now, if the OP's husband wants OP to call him her "Daddy," that's just....weird![/quote]

Hey, don't judge! As you said, "it's cool whatever any family chooses."

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Anonymous wrote:My DH insists that we raise our children to speak like they are southern. I love the south and the southern culture, but we live in Northern Virginia. People don't speak that way here. My DH is just a poser. Whenever I am telling a story or visiting with other moms, my DH will interrupt me to correct a term I use if it isn't southern. For example, if I refer to a BBQ, he steps in and says "cook out". If I use the word "mom", he steps in and says "momma". All the flipping time. I should add he was raised is rural Pennsylvania and no one else in his family uses southern terms. I have progressed from giving him the evil eye to telling him how unattractive his behavior is and that enough is enough. Bless his heart!

Rant over.

OMG OP. I so wish I could witness, this is a riot, his Southern fetish. LMAO!!!

"Momma"

Tell me it ain't real. Momma? lol!!

Can he do other role play instead, like Dungeons and Dragons?

How could you even be expected to go along with this with a straight face? Yes to D and D as an alternative. He can hole up in the basement for a few hours every week.

Do you think he's been a very bad boy? Does he want Mamma to spank him? If yes, must she wear the pearls while swiping the willow branch that he just picked...makin' sure it's green?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My mom's family is southern. My mom calls an even where you put hamburgers on the grill a "barbeque". She also calls the cuisine that consists of pulled meat with sweet tomato-based sauce on it "barbeque".

And we call our mothers "mom". Except me, I am "mommy" to my kids. I don't think anyway has used "mama" past the age of two.

I think your husband is weird. But most husbands are weird in some way, and this is relatively benign.

DP. Just addressing part of your post, not OP's husband's problem, but: Your family does "mom" but that's your family. Our family (NC) has used "Mama" for generations--like, back into the mid-19th century--and I am "Mama" to my young adult child and always will be. It's cool whatever any family chooses, just don't assume what one family does is what others choose to use. Most of my peers (I'm Southern) used mom for their mothers and are mom themselves to their kids, and that's fine. But Mamas do still exist.

Now, if the OP's husband wants OP to call him her "Daddy," that's just....weird![/quote]

Hey, don't judge! As you said, "it's cool whatever any family chooses."

Real Southerner again. I call my husband Daddy sometimes but only when I want him to do something and no, not in bed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m from the Deep South. I would recognize a fake accent and fake speech pattern and wonder what was wrong with the speaker. Tell your DH he isn’t fooling anyone. You don’t become southern. A cat could have kittens in an oven but it wouldn’t make them biscuits.

Lol!!

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Anonymous wrote:Tell him if he wants to be southern, he will have to give up the scrapple, Lebanon bologna, and chow-chow. And no gravy on his chicken and waffles, your strictly a maple syrup-with-fried chicken-and-waffles family now.

He may reconsider.

Wait, what? Scrapple is very Southern. At least, back in NC where I'm from, it's still very much on menus today. Not a thing of the past. Alas.

The origin of scrapple is Pennsylvania.

And? It's still eaten in the south, made in the south (as well as PA I'm sure) and on the menu in a lot of restaurants in the south. I've never seen it on a restaurant menu in the DMV which is much closer to, and I'd venture to say inhabited by more people from, Pennsylvania. Well, I think I've seen it on a menu at a supposed "southern-style diner" around here but that's it. PA and southern states can both claim it. One for origin, one for still consuming it in 2021....

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Anonymous wrote:I'd go all in. Get yourself some of those old fashioned Southern Belle dresses, complete with parasol and giant hat, adopt a Southern accent, and talk only in Southern phrases. Keep at it all day, every day until he gives in.

Not OP, but: I love your mind.

Do this, OP. Go full Scarlett O'Hara on him.

Or, go all Flo from Mel's diner on him.

Yes. A few iterations of "Kiss mah grits!" nice and loud might get him to stop his nonsense.

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Anonymous wrote:This must be a troll. I don't understand this at all.

I don't know anyone who says cookout. It's BBQ. But I'm from TX, not the South[b], so maybe it's different there but never heard that.

I will say that while I have hints of Texas-isms in my speech I don't force that on my kids. My kids speak like they're from NOVA, which is how it should be. How odd.

Pssst Texas is the South.

OP, it sounds like a mental disorder.

Yeah, so you missed the part where it says, I"m from Texas, not the South explicitly in the post, huh?

No, he was correcting the PP. Wasn't that obvious?

Texas was part of the Confederacy. It's the south. I know Texans take pride in being unique, or thinking they are, at least, [b]but to the rest of the country, they're part of the South, geographically, culturally, and politically.

That's because you're too lazy to understand nuance in culture. The cultures are not the same at all. But if you're not really familiar with either, you wouldn't be able to identify the differences.

Uh huh. You know, people who grew up in Montgomery County, MD, and Arlington, VA, insist that there are dramatic differences between the two counties, they'd never live in the other one, yada yada yada. To the rest of the thinking world, they're exactly the freakin' same.

That little parable seems relevant here.

As is the saying: Everything is relative. Both counties now have a lot of residents who moved there from other places. It’s likely that the two places and cultures are a lot more similar than they used to be, and reflect the influences of transients. There used to be quite a bit of difference between the two, particularly for some minorities. Even within the counties there are regional differences.

And yes, things change. PG, as an example, shifted from tobacco farms to areas with large populations of highly educated Black professionals. Transients in what they call the DMV might not know, notice, or even care about this, much less be able to discern differences in accents.

As an aside, I go to cookouts where sometimes barbecue is served. Northerners notice my Southern accent and Southerners think that I talk like someone from Up North. I put hot sauce on my grinders!

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Bless his heart.

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Anonymous wrote:Bless his heart.

+1 😆 yep

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I'd be concerned about mental illness and I'm not joking. There's nothing normal about this.

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If the white people from the state threw in with the Confederacy, it's a southern state.