Pretending to be Southern

[Anonymous]

I think a lot of PPs are missing the point. The issue here is trying to control the kids and make them speak or act a certain way. Isn’t life hard enough these days. Let the kids develop their speech and dialect naturally. If your DH wants to speak this way I would just humor him, but I wouldn’t allow him to “correct” you or the kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Rural central PA is essentiallyKentucky.

I don't think he is pretending. If he grew up in rural central PA (which is essentially Kentuky) he is speaking Rural central PA.

I've lived and worked in VA, NC, and SC and everyone used the term BBQ. I'd call cookout more of a mid Atlantic term.

[Anonymous]

Some people tend to adopt the accent of where they live more than others. I met a woman from Pennsylvania living in Richmond, VA, and she had an "Old Richmond" accent even though we didn't hang out with old wealthy types. Then she moved to England and came back with an English accent.

I just don't think my tongue takes on new accents very easily. I can't even do a good approximation of the NJ accent I grew up with now that it's melded into some nondescript newscaster accent. I think people who are good at learning new languages and/or are musical are generally better at accents. And it may not be a conscious choice but a very subconscious choice to assimilate.

Look up Eric Singer accents/dialects on YouTube for some interesting lessons on dialects.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH insists that we raise our children to speak like they are southern. I love the south and the southern culture, but we live in Northern Virginia. People don't speak that way here. My DH is just a poser. Whenever I am telling a story or visiting with other moms, my DH will interrupt me to correct a term I use if it isn't southern. For example, if I refer to a BBQ, he steps in and says "cook out". If I use the word "mom", he steps in and says "momma". All the flipping time. I should add he was raised is rural Pennsylvania and no one else in his family uses southern terms. I have progressed from giving him the evil eye to telling him how unattractive his behavior is and that enough is enough. Bless his heart!

Rant over.

Next time he does that, let everyone present know you are his sister.. Refer to his "momma" as "our momma", etc. That should shut him up pretty fast.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Rural central PA is essentiallyKentucky.

I don't think he is pretending. If he grew up in rural central PA (which is essentially Kentuky) he is speaking Rural central PA.

I've lived and worked in VA, NC, and SC and everyone used the term BBQ. I'd call cookout more of a mid Atlantic term.

+1
Also agree w/PP who mentioned that people are missing the point. She says DH is constantly interrupting her, that is just rude. DH sounds immature and impressionable, based on OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH insists that we raise our children to speak like they are southern. I love the south and the southern culture, but we live in Northern Virginia. People don't speak that way here. My DH is just a poser. Whenever I am telling a story or visiting with other moms, my DH will interrupt me to correct a term I use if it isn't southern. For example, if I refer to a BBQ, he steps in and says "cook out". If I use the word "mom", he steps in and says "momma". All the flipping time. I should add he was raised is rural Pennsylvania and no one else in his family uses southern terms. I have progressed from giving him the evil eye to telling him how unattractive his behavior is and that enough is enough. Bless his heart!

Rant over.

Born and raised in the DC area and nobody I know says BBQ, we all say cookout. However, it's weird af that he corrects you. What has motivated him to be this way? Does he have a fascination with movies based in the south or something? So odd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP did your husband go to VA Tech by any chance? My friend went there - grew up in Woodbridge without any hint of interest in the south, came out of Tech talking like goddamned Foghorn Leghorn.

The waaaaaay I just laughed out loud!!!

[Anonymous]

This thread is from October 2021.

[Anonymous]

Weirdest post ever - like WTF? And that’s saying a lot for DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m from the Deep South. I would recognize a fake accent and fake speech pattern and wonder what was wrong with the speaker. Tell your DH he isn’t fooling anyone. You don’t become southern. A cat could have kittens in an oven but it wouldn’t make them biscuits.

Lol. Now this post IS southern and shows you can’t just fake it.

[Anonymous]

Agree to it and play OMD on volume 8 as you cook up some shrimp and grits. Pop collar optional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Rural central PA is essentiallyKentucky.

Pennsyltucky….

[Anonymous]

I just think he is insecure. He wants to play the genteel Southern gentleman and emulate his golf/work buddies who have family wealth. He thinks if his daughters responds with “yes, ma’am and yes, sir,” go to church and cotillion and conduct themselves as little ladies, he will feel at ease in his world. It isn’t all that different from the endless preppy and Wasp threads.