Pretending to be Southern

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Anonymous wrote:Your husband sounds so bizarre, OP. Annoying too.

I’m Southern. FWIW, I know how plenty of people who call their mothers Mama but also plenty more who call their mothers Mom, Mother. Mama is not the most prevalent and it seems weird your husband is stuck on that term. And I have never heard anyone southern call a backyard get together w grilled food a cookout. They absolutely call it a BBQ. And BBQ is ALSO synonymous w pulled pork, as others have noted. It is used to describe backyard parties and the actual BBQed food itself.

I'm from the south with relatives scattered through several states. All our get togethers were called cook outs. BBQ is a delicious food item, not what we call our outdoor reunions. It also took me several years to stop calling every carbonated beverage a coke. Saying hey to everybody and using y'all took more years to drop. I've lost the southern accent unless I'm tired and have to say two words together with "ill" in them. I can not say "ill will" without one of them becoming an eeeel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP did your husband go to VA Tech by any chance? My friend went there - grew up in Woodbridge without any hint of interest in the south, came out of Tech talking like goddamned Foghorn Leghorn.

That would be so funny to see.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your husband sounds so bizarre, OP. Annoying too.

I’m Southern. FWIW, I know how plenty of people who call their mothers Mama but also plenty more who call their mothers Mom, Mother. Mama is not the most prevalent and it seems weird your husband is stuck on that term. And I have never heard anyone southern call a backyard get together w grilled food a cookout. They absolutely call it a BBQ. And BBQ is ALSO synonymous w pulled pork, as others have noted. It is used to describe backyard parties and the actual BBQed food itself.

+1
I'm also Southern and the only person I knew who used "mama" growing up was from an extremely rural area and was a very flamboyant (closested) gay man. It's an affectation.
Did your husband "learn" how to be Southern by watching re-runs of Dallas?
Your husband is acting very strangely.... I would put up with that nonsense for all of 20 seconds before I told him he was a lunatic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP did your husband go to VA Tech by any chance? My friend went there - grew up in Woodbridge without any hint of interest in the south, came out of Tech talking like goddamned Foghorn Leghorn.

To be fair, some might call Woodbridge the South of the North(ern Virginia).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your husband sounds so bizarre, OP. Annoying too.

I’m Southern. FWIW, I know how plenty of people who call their mothers Mama but also plenty more who call their mothers Mom, Mother. Mama is not the most prevalent and it seems weird your husband is stuck on that term. And I have never heard anyone southern call a backyard get together w grilled food a cookout. They absolutely call it a BBQ. And BBQ is ALSO synonymous w pulled pork, as others have noted. It is used to describe backyard parties and the actual BBQed food itself.

I'm from the south with relatives scattered through several states. All our get togethers were called cook outs. BBQ is a delicious food item, not what we call our outdoor reunions. It also took me several years to stop calling every carbonated beverage a coke. Saying hey to everybody and using y'all took more years to drop. I've lost the southern accent unless I'm tired and have to say two words together with "ill" in them. I can not say "ill will" without one of them becoming an eeeel.

Wowwwwwwwww, you are very special.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My DH insists that we raise our children to speak like they are southern. I love the south and the southern culture, but we live in Northern Virginia. People don't speak that way here. My DH is just a poser. Whenever I am telling a story or visiting with other moms, my DH will interrupt me to correct a term I use if it isn't southern. For example, if I refer to a BBQ, he steps in and says "cook out". If I use the word "mom", he steps in and says "momma". All the flipping time. I should add he was raised is rural Pennsylvania and no one else in his family uses southern terms. I have progressed from giving him the evil eye to telling him how unattractive his behavior is and that enough is enough. Bless his heart!

Rant over.

Maybe low country SC isn't southern to him, but mom was mom and the term cookout was never used. BBQ was a synonym for pulled pork, but you could use it interchangeable with inviting people over to throw meat on the grill

This. I’m from Memphis and have never used cookout. BBQ is the standard for all things grill related, from the food to having people over.

[Anonymous]

Years ago, a family friend raised in rural, central Pennsyltucky met and married a British man she met while on a study abroad.

The couple moved back to her hometown and she began her elementary teaching career, speaking in a new, affected, fake accent. Her students couldn’t understand her and her principal apparently had to step in and to tell her to revert to her “real” accent.

Anyway, OP - I think your DH is in the same category of pretentiousness here…

[Anonymous]

PP 7:17… I guess I’m triggered!

Also knew a slew of high school girls (Fairfax County native) who “went South” to college (Clemson, Alabama, Ole Miss) and between high school graduation and return to homecoming or Thanksgiving, they all returned with fake accents, “Heyyyyyy, y’all” and “eyem ayatt Clim-sin, y’all…” just so over the top and fake.

My Vermont-born and raised mom spent her senior year of high school in Alabama and somehow never developed an Southern accent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH insists that we raise our children to speak like they are southern. I love the south and the southern culture, but we live in Northern Virginia. People don't speak that way here. My DH is just a poser. Whenever I am telling a story or visiting with other moms, my DH will interrupt me to correct a term I use if it isn't southern. For example, if I refer to a BBQ, he steps in and says "cook out". If I use the word "mom", he steps in and says "momma". All the flipping time. I should add he was raised is rural Pennsylvania and no one else in his family uses southern terms. I have progressed from giving him the evil eye to telling him how unattractive his behavior is and that enough is enough. Bless his heart!

Rant over.

Actually, he just sounds like a jerk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH insists that we raise our children to speak like they are southern. I love the south and the southern culture, but we live in Northern Virginia. People don't speak that way here. My DH is just a poser. Whenever I am telling a story or visiting with other moms, my DH will interrupt me to correct a term I use if it isn't southern. For example, if I refer to a BBQ, he steps in and says "cook out". If I use the word "mom", he steps in and says "momma". All the flipping time. I should add he was raised is rural Pennsylvania and no one else in his family uses southern terms. I have progressed from giving him the evil eye to telling him how unattractive his behavior is and that enough is enough. Bless his heart!

Rant over.

Actually, he just sounds like a jerk.

Agree. Native Charlestonian here. It's pretty funny that he claims to raise OP's children as Southern so they can learn manners and hospitality. What he is doing is the opposite of good manners!! Because if he had truly good manners, he wouldn't interrupt you or correct you. The idea is that you make some feel comfortable, welcome, especially when/even if they don't know how to act.

Good manners are subtle-- you don't know they were there until they are gone.

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Anonymous wrote:I too would like to pick up an accent. Something like the folks in Letterkenny have. Just would have to work on my chirpin’ skills.

F**k you Jonesy. Your mom shot c*m straight across the room and killed my Siamese fighting fish. Threw off the PH levels in my aquarium!"

F$$$ you, Shoresy!

Love that show.

+1 Shoresy is genius!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This must be a troll. I don't understand this at all.

I don't know anyone who says cookout. It's BBQ. But I'm from TX, not the South, so maybe it's different there but never heard that.

I will say that while I have hints of Texas-isms in my speech I don't force that on my kids. My kids speak like they're from NOVA, which is how it should be. How odd.

+1

Another Texan here

While I don’t consider Texas to be Southern, people around here seem to think it is. I agree that Texans would talk about BBQs, not cookouts.

Occasionally, I’ll slip a Texas expression into conversation for a laugh, and have on rarer occasions said something regional, without realizing it wasn’t common usage everywhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This must be a troll. I don't understand this at all.

I don't know anyone who says cookout. It's BBQ. But I'm from TX, not the South, so maybe it's different there but never heard that.

I will say that while I have hints of Texas-isms in my speech I don't force that on my kids. My kids speak like they're from NOVA, which is how it should be. How odd.

+1

Another Texan here

While I don’t consider Texas to be Southern, people around here seem to think it is. I agree that Texans would talk about BBQs, not cookouts.

Occasionally, I’ll slip a Texas expression into conversation for a laugh, and have on rarer occasions said something regional, without realizing it wasn’t common usage everywhere.

+1. This HAS to be a troll

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Better than teaching them African-American Vernacular English. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/African-American_Vernacular_English

It’s awful to hear “educated” blacks slaughter the English language.

Example 1 - “What had happened…”
Example 2 - Phome instead of phone.
Example 3 - “Can I aks you a question?”

Example 3 is an all time favorite. 🤦‍♂️

Where this random comment come from? Anything to shoehorn your racism into a conversation I guess.

No, my intention was not to be racist. Tired of hearing some POC slaughtering everyday words and language. Even worse is “educated” or POC in well respected positions unable to properly pronounce common words and sentences.
My apologies…

My husband and his family are from long island. They mispronounce words all the time. He is highly educated. Idk what it's technically called.... but smart educated people mispronounce words too. Has nothing to do with how much melanin in their skin

Ps.... you are a jerk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What on earth lmao (from a North Carolina native). Can you mention that people with Southern accents are often assumed to be stupid? It's why I lost mine. Sometimes I miss it, but I think losing it has gained me some IQ points in the eyes of others.

Same here, although I do agree with OP's spouse about BBQ vs cook out. That's just being accurate. LOL