Primping for DH- is this abnormal??

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Anonymous wrote:That’s weird haha im a millennial so maybe it’s a generational thing.
Are you only doing it for your husband? Or is it a self care prep to be with adults kind of a thing? What if you have a crappy day do you still feel the need to do it?

OP here I’m 32 so I don’t really think it’s generational. If I was going out to run errands and not in a hurry or meeting with another adult I’d probably get ready in the same way. If I was feeling really sick I wouldn’t do it and there are of course times when I don’t have the time and I don’t give it any thought. The whole “freshening up” process probably takes 2 min so it’s not that involved.

Old married lady (30 years) here and if the bold is truly the case, you're good to go, OP. Don't let your friends' attitudes make you second guess this as if you were playing a 50s housewife--you aren't, re: the bold above. Back in the Before Times pre-pandemic I would have done a little something before meeting friends or going to an appointment, maybe. Brushed the hair, maybe put on some lipstick, changed to some different clothes to feel fresher and mark the boundary between "I'm home and doing housework/working at home/whatever" and "I'm out here seeing the banker, volunteering at teen's school, seeing a friend I see maybe twice a year." And when there's no time or inclination --that's OK too.

You're fine.

But do see "The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel" first episode. You'll laugh so hard at her nighttime routine.

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Anonymous wrote:That’s weird haha im a millennial so maybe it’s a generational thing.
Are you only doing it for your husband? Or is it a self care prep to be with adults kind of a thing? What if you have a crappy day do you still feel the need to do it?

You summed it up with one word, millennial…

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People on here are making a bigger deal out of this than it is. It’s not weird to want to look presentable before leaving the house or before your spouse comes home if you’ve been home all day.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s weird haha im a millennial so maybe it’s a generational thing.
Are you only doing it for your husband? Or is it a self care prep to be with adults kind of a thing? What if you have a crappy day do you still feel the need to do it?

You summed it up with one word, millennial…

Are you talking about the millennial pp that doesn’t do it or the millennial OP who does?

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I find it hard to believe that a SAHM with three kids under 4 has time to put her makeup on at all.

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My DH is conservative, so that he wouldn't want me in crop tops and short shorts around the kids. The other stuff sounds fine. Do whatever makes you feel good, OP. I never wear makeup at home, but that's me.

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Anonymous wrote:I find it hard to believe that a SAHM with three kids under 4 has time to put her makeup on at all.

She makes time. I don't understand not ever caring to look nice for your partner.

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Anonymous wrote:I find it hard to believe that a SAHM with three kids under 4 has time to put her makeup on at all.

I’ve never really understood this sentiment. I have three kids and a very simple makeup routine. I’ve never found it difficult to find 10 minutes to get ready in the morning while the kids are playing or eating breakfast. Not everyone wants to do this but I enjoy getting ready for the day this way.

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Anonymous wrote:Since people do seem to have a lot of concerns regarding my loungewear: No, I don’t wear anything that I feel is inappropriate for my 4y/o or younger kids to see me in. I usually pair high waisted leggings with a fitted v neck or crop top and a tee shirt with shorts (not booty shorts). My goal is to look presentable and show off my body a bit but nothing I’m wearing would be out of place at a gym or yoga class.

I do not brush my hair and throw on lip gloss to prevent DH from cheating. He looks really attractive when he comes home from work in his suit and I like to look attractive, too. Maybe I am just more vain than my friends and some of the pps. I genuinely take joy in looking in the mirror and feeling like I look cute.

Also, still a woman.

I don’t know why pps are clutching their pearls over you wearing figure flattering clothes and are acting like you are caring for your kids while wearing lingerie. People on dcum can be such prudes. I also wear leggings that make my butt look good. I like them and DH does too.

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The reactions on here are weird. OP, I think there is ZERO downside to spending a few minutes to touch up before seeing your husband.

IMO this is pretty easy- I’m much pickier about loving my clothes now than I used to be. So I don’t buy crewneck, v necks look better. In colors I know flatter me. Brush my teeth, put on mascara, concealer, lip gloss.

Haters- honestly 5 minutes to freshen up & keeping your Mani/ pedi makes a difference.

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I am as feminist as it gets and I say: who cares?

I dont' do this myself, but I was thinking... if it's "weird" to get ready for your husband who is it not weird to get ready for? I was just thinking, I don't think it is terrible to brush hair and makeup before going grocery shopping, seeing friends... I don't feel the NEED to get ready for my husband but what's wrong wit hit?

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Anonymous wrote:That’s weird haha im a millennial so maybe it’s a generational thing.
Are you only doing it for your husband? Or is it a self care prep to be with adults kind of a thing? What if you have a crappy day do you still feel the need to do it?

One most millennial response ever. Even includes the word self care. These kids slay me.

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I think it is a sign of a healthy marriage that you still want to take time to look nice for your husband OP. 💄

A little effort goes a long way.

I think that if you have infants and/or toddlers it is tough to take any time for yourself.
However if your kids are older than it is perfectly normal to want to look good for your better half.

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I put on my sexiest pair of FMP’s and bend over the kitchen table right before he walks in the door…

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OP, I do the same and I work FT (from home). It's healthy and wonderful! It's wayyyy too common in this country for women to resign themselves to "just a mom" roles after having kids and forget their marriage and their looks. Good for you.