Primping for DH- is this abnormal??

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a sahm. I obviously get ready in the morning (simple hair, light makeup, casual clothes) but I also do a little refresh before DH comes home. Usually this is just brushing hair, touching up makeup and maybe changing into something a little more comfortable but more revealing than my daytime outfit (short shorts, cropped tank, low cut v neck etc). I do not feel any pressure or expectations from DH regarding any of this.

Anyway, I was talking to a few friends and it was brought up that I did this. They pressed for details and thought the whole thing was totally weird and silly, especially considering that DH sees me au natural at night and in the morning. I didn’t think this was a strange thing to do but my friends completely roasted me. What do you think dcum? Do you do this? Is this strange?

This post was written by a man. Women do not talk about clothing like this.

Yeah that bolded section is sus. "Just a married mom of three little kids taking a quick 2 minutes to put on my booty shorts and cropped tank top before DH gets home, what's weird about that?"

I'm surprised OP didn't say they thrown on a pair of stilettos too

Np I am a sahm and I practically live in leggings and cropped tanks and I sometimes even wear shorts. I’m not getting why this part is so unbelievable?

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Newsflash: It's not 1950 anymore, Betty!

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Op — haters are gonna hate. What, you are kind, thoughtful, and appreciate your husband? You’re stupid. What, you want to make him happy and think he wants to make you happy too? You naive idiot.

Don’t let the Debbie Downers of DCUM get to you. Annoy them all by being happy, having a great relationship with your husband, and daring to do little things to make him happy — and know that he is grateful for your efforts!!!

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Anonymous wrote:OP. Just to be clear, I do this and didn’t think it was odd until my friends called me out saying it was weird. I absolutely do not think every woman should be doing this or that a woman can’t be sexy and attractive without primping.

And like I asked you way back on page 1 when I thought you actually may be a real poster and not an incel trying to stir up shit if you like doing it who the hell cares if anyone thinks it's weird?

If we all told you it was weird, would you stop doing it?

I am really, really not an incel. This truly was just a thread asking a question out of curiosity; is what I’m doing fairly normal or uncommon. It seems like it’s somewhat uncommon, although a few posters do also get ready to see other adults, including their DH. I can see how this could turn into a discussion on the unrealistic expectations men have of women (esp given all of the toxic messaging women get about “snapping back” after pregnancy and “letting themselves go”) but it was not my intention to do this at all. My DH has seen me at my physical best and worst and everything in between and has always loved and doted on me. Personally, I get ready for him because, as a sahm with young kids, it makes me feel sexy and put together after a long day of being a tired mom. I’m sure plenty of women wouldn’t want to do this and that’s completely up to them to do what makes them happy.

OMG. You dress like this in front of your kids. No child wants to see their mom’s a$$ hanging out of her shorts. And crop tops? Who wears these after 25? I can’t imagine making dinner for my children in booty shorts and a crop top.

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It’s unusual but completely benign imo
Whatever helps you guys in your love life!

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a sahm. I obviously get ready in the morning (simple hair, light makeup, casual clothes) but I also do a little refresh before DH comes home. Usually this is just brushing hair, touching up makeup and maybe changing into something a little more comfortable but more revealing than my daytime outfit (short shorts, cropped tank, low cut v neck etc). I do not feel any pressure or expectations from DH regarding any of this.

Anyway, I was talking to a few friends and it was brought up that I did this. They pressed for details and thought the whole thing was totally weird and silly, especially considering that DH sees me au natural at night and in the morning. I didn’t think this was a strange thing to do but my friends completely roasted me. What do you think dcum? Do you do this? Is this strange?

This post was written by a man. Women do not talk about clothing like this.

Yeah that bolded section is sus. "Just a married mom of three little kids taking a quick 2 minutes to put on my booty shorts and cropped tank top before DH gets home, what's weird about that?"

I'm surprised OP didn't say they thrown on a pair of stilettos too

Np I am a sahm and I practically live in leggings and cropped tanks and I sometimes even wear shorts. I’m not getting why this part is so unbelievable?

Yes, but do you wear booty shorts and brush your hair, and throw on a little makeup just before DH comes home? Do you feel the need to tell your friends about this? How about internet strangers? Do you dind it a fasvinating detail that your husband sees you naked ?

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Anonymous wrote:OP. Just to be clear, I do this and didn’t think it was odd until my friends called me out saying it was weird. I absolutely do not think every woman should be doing this or that a woman can’t be sexy and attractive without primping.

And like I asked you way back on page 1 when I thought you actually may be a real poster and not an incel trying to stir up shit if you like doing it who the hell cares if anyone thinks it's weird?

If we all told you it was weird, would you stop doing it?

I am really, really not an incel. This truly was just a thread asking a question out of curiosity; is what I’m doing fairly normal or uncommon. It seems like it’s somewhat uncommon, although a few posters do also get ready to see other adults, including their DH. I can see how this could turn into a discussion on the unrealistic expectations men have of women (esp given all of the toxic messaging women get about “snapping back” after pregnancy and “letting themselves go”) but it was not my intention to do this at all. My DH has seen me at my physical best and worst and everything in between and has always loved and doted on me. Personally, I get ready for him because, as a sahm with young kids, it makes me feel sexy and put together after a long day of being a tired mom. I’m sure plenty of women wouldn’t want to do this and that’s completely up to them to do what makes them happy.

OMG. You dress like this in front of your kids. No child wants to see their mom’s a$$ hanging out of her shorts. And crop tops? Who wears these after 25? I can’t imagine making dinner for my children in booty shorts and a crop top.

Her alleged kids are under 4 so they're likely oblvious to her booty hanging out.

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Anonymous wrote:Newsflash: It's not 1950 anymore, Betty!

Nah! If OP wants to do it, that's great, I just don't understand her need to tell everyone about it.

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OP, I realized I never answered your question: it's not as weird as primping for your AP.

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This is an obvious male troll.

On the other hand, I am a female poster who thinks crop tops are great so even a troll post is right now and then. That said “her” description of her clothing is so obviously written by a man I’m surprised it didn’t make a buzzfeed list...

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I mean clearly it seems like overcompensating. Do you think it'll keep you a kept woman longer? Keep him from straying?

As a friend I would totally think something was going on with your marriage to make you feel insecure. But I wouldn't say anything.

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Anonymous wrote:This is an obvious male troll.

On the other hand, I am a female poster who thinks crop tops are great so even a troll post is right now and then. That said “her” description of her clothing is so obviously written by a man I’m surprised it didn’t make a buzzfeed list...

Nothing against crop tops, or even wanting to "dress up for your man" if that's your thing, but yeah this is fake.

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Anonymous wrote:That’s weird haha im a millennial so maybe it’s a generational thing.
Are you only doing it for your husband? Or is it a self care prep to be with adults kind of a thing? What if you have a crappy day do you still feel the need to do it?

OP here I’m 32 so I don’t really think it’s generational. If I was going out to run errands and not in a hurry or meeting with another adult I’d probably get ready in the same way. If I was feeling really sick I wouldn’t do it and there are of course times when I don’t have the time and I don’t give it any thought. The whole “freshening up” process probably takes 2 min so it’s not that involved.

I’m 34 and I do this. I reapply lipstick and freshen up blush and hair before I pick the kids up from school, too. Or when I go to the grocery store or when I visit the neighbors or my DH comes home. I don’t think it’s weird, but then again, I was kind of shocked at the poster who doesn’t wear makeup at all on dates.

38 and same. I don’t just do it for DH, I freshen up and look put together whenever I go out in public or am expecting someone over to the house, including other mom friends.

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Since people do seem to have a lot of concerns regarding my loungewear: No, I don’t wear anything that I feel is inappropriate for my 4y/o or younger kids to see me in. I usually pair high waisted leggings with a fitted v neck or crop top and a tee shirt with shorts (not booty shorts). My goal is to look presentable and show off my body a bit but nothing I’m wearing would be out of place at a gym or yoga class.

I do not brush my hair and throw on lip gloss to prevent DH from cheating. He looks really attractive when he comes home from work in his suit and I like to look attractive, too. Maybe I am just more vain than my friends and some of the pps. I genuinely take joy in looking in the mirror and feeling like I look cute.

Also, still a woman.

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Anonymous wrote:The same women telling her it's weird and she's strange are also the ones that will tell women their husbands cheat because they let themselves go. Sigh.

I know someone who did all this and her husband still cheated one does not + the other.

Of course not, but every shitty woman on her responds with: did you let yourself go? Did you get fat? Did you nag, stop having sex?

No, no, no, no. When a person cheats it’s what’s wrong with them and it can happen to anyone. If they are going to cheat they will, and you have no control so that illusion can just stop.