S/O I am a nanny AMA

[Anonymous]

We have had other threads from nannies before but I posted my current daily routine in the Summer Activities thread and there were a lot of follow-up questions.

My current nanny family has 5yo twin boys. I have been with then since birth (hired in second trimester). I work 6:30am-8pm Monday-Friday, then 6:30-8:30 or 9:30 on weekend days. There is also an afternoon sitter who works 2-9 on weekends. One parent is a lawyer at a white shoe firm and the other in finance.

[Anonymous]

Wow that’s a lot of hours. How much do you get paid and what are your benefits?

[Anonymous]

How old are you, what is your post secondary education and do you want to have your own kids some day?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow that’s a lot of hours. How much do you get paid and what are your benefits?

$20 base rate but more like $24 if you average out all the OT

3 weeks paid vacation of my choosing, 5 sick days, 5 national holidays, they buy all my gas since I drive their kids in my car. Currently they buy some of my groceries too since I do the grocery shopping and live in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old are you, what is your post secondary education and do you want to have your own kids some day?

Mid-30’s. College dropout (was studying English, History and Theatre at a small LAC and didn’t know what I wanted to be when I grew up 3 years into school so I took some time off to nanny. Over a decade later I am still doing it! I would love to be a mom some day, but I can’t see myself being a single mom and I am fat so probably not going to happen for me.

[Anonymous]

If you finish your degree in Early Childhood Education, you could be getting $30 an hour base with your experience. Please think about it, OP. You could do a lot of it online.

You sound like a natural nanny! You just need the paper to really get ahead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you finish your degree in Early Childhood Education, you could be getting $30 an hour base with your experience. Please think about it, OP. You could do a lot of it online.

You sound like a natural nanny! You just need the paper to really get ahead.

Are you a teacher?

[Anonymous]

Do you think you'll stay on as a house manager when the kids get older? What's you plan for the next 5 years?

[Anonymous]

And please work on your self compassion and self care. Everyone is lovable without regard to body type.

[Anonymous]

Wow, your are there every waking hour. Are those children parented at all by their mother or father? Or are you essentially tasked with raising them to be good humans?

[Anonymous]

PP again. You're body is beautiful, no matter your size. And you give love all day to those children so you are in a wonderful karmic position to receive it for yourself!

[Anonymous]

Do you (or the weekend nanny) go along with the family on weekend outings?
My spouse grew up UMC in a developing country and has told me that was normal for his family with their multiple live-in nannies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old are you, what is your post secondary education and do you want to have your own kids some day?

Mid-30’s. College dropout (was studying English, History and Theatre at a small LAC and didn’t know what I wanted to be when I grew up 3 years into school so I took some time off to nanny. Over a decade later I am still doing it! I would love to be a mom some day, but I can’t see myself being a single mom and I am fat so probably not going to happen for me.

Your work schedule and lack of time/ability to socialize is likely making a catch 22 situation. You are heavier as you don't have a life. You don't have a life as you are heavier. I'd try to negotiate less hours and to have that afternoon nanny pick up the slack. Do they have a home gym and will they let you use it? Aren't they off for all the other federal holidays/why do they make you work? You sound like you need more time to work on yourself. They are lucky to have you.

[Anonymous]

Thank you for this thread.

If you don't mind me asking, if the family is more economically privileged than you are, do you have any feelings about that/does it affect your relationship with the family in a way that wouldn't happen if they weren't more economically privileged?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thank you for this thread.

If you don't mind me asking, if the family is more economically privileged than you are, do you have any feelings about that/does it affect your relationship with the family in a way that wouldn't happen if they weren't more economically privileged?

Are you a troll? Of course, the family is more ‘economically privileged’ than she is - she’s a nanny working around the clock for pathetic wages for a lawyer and a finance vulture. I don’t know about you, but that would certainly affect my relationship with the family.