I’m really sad about who my son is
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Anonymous
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I don’t even know where to start. As parents, we were loving, involved, provided opportunities for an excellent education, sports, music, tutors etc. We are kind, well informed, healthy, parents. Pursued therapy and medication as appropriate. My daughter turned out great.
My son is now 17 and Smokes marijuana regularly (those who haven’t dealt with this please don’t go into where do they get it, the money etc. they find a way) Does bare minimum at school Has a crappy attitude Quit all his sports Has a terrible temper (think holes in walls) Doesn’t exercise Vapes/smokes Eats horribly Isn’t very motivated Is immature Risk taker Adhd - takes medicine during school day Some learning disabilities, not major I am at a loss and trying not to give up on him, but it’s been years of trying to get him good help, support, trying to enforce boundaries and the list goes on. I’m just tired and incredibly sad about this. |
Anonymous
Military school? Not joking. |
Anonymous
| There are some reasons I can’t go into for why that’s not an option |
Anonymous
| Get him off the pot - better behavior may follow. Your house rules = no pot. |
Anonymous
| What are the things you like about your son? |
Anonymous
| Fork Union—worked for my son at an earlier age. |
Anonymous
| ADHD drugs can lead to addictions. The kid is given amphetamines and is self medicating with pot. It's toxic, it's not his fault. |
Anonymous
| Take him to talk to the military recruiters. Army. Navy. Air Force. Marines. |
Anonymous
| Have him get a part time job. |
Anonymous
He has a medical condition that prevents service |
Anonymous
| A side affect of ADHD drugs is depression. Kids his age can buy pot easier than they can buy booze. It may not be his drug of choice but only choice. |
Anonymous
| I'm so very sorry OP. I don't have solutions for you, but just a big hug. |
Anonymous
| Religious organizations. Temple. Church. Youth groups. Services. It is about learning values and ethics and giving back to the community and havaing a purpose. |
Anonymous
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He’s self-medicating with pot. Treat his underlying issues (probably anxiety and depression) and he won’t need to be stoned daily.
And no, the armed forces don’t want him. They don’t want trouble kids and no longer need cannon fodder. I’m from a military family and am married to a man who spent 20 years in the Marines. Those days of “Parris Island will straighten him out.” are over. |
Anonymous
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He does sound massively depressed. Whether it's a cause of effect of his behavior is not clear.
What about an outdoor program for a few months? |