Was my doctor hitting on me?

[Lovelylady]

I was having some problems with headaches that my doctor thought could be neck related. I said my old physical therapist said there might be something wrong with my T3 vertebrae. (I meant to say C3 but I told him T3 by accident).

He went to examine me but didn't say anything about the exam before doing so. He went behind me (to the side) as I was sitting and moved my long hair off my back, sweeping it over one shoulder. Then he sort of massaged both sides of my shoulder blades just in one area. He did this for about 15-20 seconds in silence. I don't even know what he would be looking for or if this represented an examination of the T3. All he said was that I had good posture, and then he told me an exercise I could do.

By the way, he was touching my bare skin because my top had a bit of a low back to it (it was summer and normally my hair would cover my back). Maybe he just felt comfortable with me because I have known him for some time? However, there has been a bit of a flirty vibe from him in general (being touchy-feely, squeezing my shoulder, giving me compliments, telling me he enjoys my company, that I'm a nice person, lots of eye contact, etc.).

This doctor is my PCP (GP). I have NO way of knowing whether this was a legitimate exam or if he was actually HITTING on me! The other things he's done (giving me hugs and compliments) have added to my confusion. Your thoughts?! I especially welcome thoughts from medical professionals.

[Anonymous]

I think you are reading WAYYYYYYYY too much into this. This "massage" was likely checking out your shoulder blades, shoulder, neck, and collar bone for any abnormalities.

[Anonymous]

I think he was innocently flirting with you but don’t read too much into it. My GP always tells me I look great, says “you’re so funny.”. I think some people just have that type of personality and it’s playful banter. No big deal.

[Anonymous]

How did he give you a hug?

[Anonymous]

Do you wish he was flirting with you? You've hung on to this story since last summer? It sounds like the first few minutes of a doctor porn video.

[Anonymous]

With usename like "Lovelylady" you must think highly of you. Get a life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you wish he was flirting with you? You've hung on to this story since last summer? It sounds like the first few minutes of a doctor porn video. [/quote

I was thinking the same thing. From OP's username, it sounds like she is the kind of woman who thinks men who are being polite (or in this case, doing their jobs) find her irresistible.

[Anonymous]

An almost 0 chance he's going to risk his medical license to hit on your during the course of an examination. If he wanted to hit on you he would ask you out.

[Anonymous]

If your instinct is telling you something - then by all means do not ignore it!!

It is rarely, if ever wrong.

I think your M.D. IS subliminally flirting w/you.....
But he is intentionally not doing anything obvious in order to keep his side of the street clean.

If it makes you uncomfortable get another Dr.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you are reading WAYYYYYYYY too much into this. This "massage" was likely checking out your shoulder blades, shoulder, neck, and collar bone for any abnormalities.

+1
It’s called an examination. Isn’t that what you went here for?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you are reading WAYYYYYYYY too much into this. This "massage" was likely checking out your shoulder blades, shoulder, neck, and collar bone for any abnormalities.

+1
It’s called an examination. Isn’t that what you went here for?

Perhaps not.

[Anonymous]

There are so many women that are nothing special and think the whole male universe is flirting with you. I have no idea if your doctor was actually flirting with you, but just consider the fact that he sees plenty of other patients (probably better looking than you) so the chances that he was actually hitting on you are very slim

[Anonymous]

Did you ever get your neck issue fixed?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you wish he was flirting with you? You've hung on to this story since last summer? It sounds like the first few minutes of a doctor porn video. [/quote

I was thinking the same thing. From OP's username, it sounds like she is the kind of woman who thinks men who are being polite (or in this case, doing their jobs) find her irresistible.

Agree. Also, by the details she’s given (long hair, a shirt that has an open neckline) it sounds as though she’s WAY overthinking this.

[Anonymous]

Um, no. It sounds like he moved your long hair off your back and then palpated the area of your back that hurts, right? How is that hitting on you?