Was my doctor hitting on me?

[Anonymous]

You peope are sooo naive. A man ia a man even in a white coat.

[Anonymous]

Was he erect?

[Anonymous]

I think you recently posted a very similar post in the past month or so. Get over yourself!

[Anonymous]

Lovelylady wrote:I was having some problems with headaches that my doctor thought could be neck related. I said my old physical therapist said there might be something wrong with my T3 vertebrae. (I meant to say C3 but I told him T3 by accident).

He went to examine me but didn't say anything about the exam before doing so. He went behind me (to the side) as I was sitting and moved my long hair off my back, sweeping it over one shoulder. Then he sort of massaged both sides of my shoulder blades just in one area. He did this for about 15-20 seconds in silence. I don't even know what he would be looking for or if this represented an examination of the T3. All he said was that I had good posture, and then he told me an exercise I could do.

By the way, he was touching my bare skin because my top had a bit of a low back to it (it was summer and normally my hair would cover my back). Maybe he just felt comfortable with me because I have known him for some time? However, there has been a bit of a flirty vibe from him in general (being touchy-feely, squeezing my shoulder, giving me compliments, telling me he enjoys my company, that I'm a nice person, lots of eye contact, etc.).

This doctor is my PCP (GP). I have NO way of knowing whether this was a legitimate exam or if he was actually HITTING on me! The other things he's done (giving me hugs and compliments) have added to my confusion. Your thoughts?! I especially welcome thoughts from medical professionals.

Ummmm.... doctors touch bare skin every day. Female and male physicians- it doesn’t mean they’re attracted to you or that you’re special. You really must be needy for attention. God knows what you think your OB/GYN is doing! It’s patients like you that pull the “ he touched me inappropriately “ and why so many male physicians have another person, likely a female, in the room. You’re a liability!

[Lovelylady]

It’s patients like you that pull the “ he touched me inappropriately “

I didn't say he touched me inappropriately. However, I did think it was odd that he went to touch me without explaining what he was doing. If he said what he was doing it would have made the exam feel more clinical in nature and I surely wouldn't have questioned his intentions.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I am sure you would not.

[Anonymous]

Lovelylady wrote:

It’s patients like you that pull the “ he touched me inappropriately “

I didn't say he touched me inappropriately. However, I did think it was odd that he went to touch me without explaining what he was doing. If he said what he was doing it would have made the exam feel more clinical in nature and I surely wouldn't have questioned his intentions.

Oh, come on OP. You really should get on with your life.

[Anonymous]

Lovelylady wrote:I was having some problems with headaches that my doctor thought could be neck related. I said my old physical therapist said there might be something wrong with my T3 vertebrae. (I meant to say C3 but I told him T3 by accident).

He went to examine me but didn't say anything about the exam before doing so. He went behind me (to the side) as I was sitting and moved my long hair off my back, sweeping it over one shoulder. Then he sort of massaged both sides of my shoulder blades just in one area. He did this for about 15-20 seconds in silence. I don't even know what he would be looking for or if this represented an examination of the T3. All he said was that I had good posture, and then he told me an exercise I could do.

By the way, he was touching my bare skin because my top had a bit of a low back to it (it was summer and normally my hair would cover my back). Maybe he just felt comfortable with me because I have known him for some time? However, there has been a bit of a flirty vibe from him in general (being touchy-feely, squeezing my shoulder, giving me compliments, telling me he enjoys my company, that I'm a nice person, lots of eye contact, etc.).

This doctor is my PCP (GP). I have NO way of knowing whether this was a legitimate exam or if he was actually HITTING on me! The other things he's done (giving me hugs and compliments) have added to my confusion. Your thoughts?! I especially welcome thoughts from medical professionals.

So this happened last summer? And you're still obsessing over it?

[Lovelylady]

No, this happened a couple of months ago.

[Anonymous]

Lovelylady wrote:No, this happened a couple of months ago.

Are you in the Southern Hemisphere? Because March definitely isn’t summer.

[Anonymous]

Are you in South America? I feel like this would be super weird for a US doctor, but things are different in other countries. I feel like some Latin men think women expect to be flirted with.

[Anonymous]

He touched your bare skin because DUH that's what doctors do. And why are you reminiscing over something that happened with your doctor LAST SUMMER? Go read a book or something.