Was my doctor hitting on me?

[Anonymous]

Probably not, but impossible for us to tell. The important thing here is that you’re not comfortable with him, so you need to find a different GP. That is your take away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Probably not, but impossible for us to tell. The important thing here is that you’re not comfortable with him, so you need to find a different GP. That is your take away.

I agree. I don't know why people are telling OP not to assume anything. There are some mixed messages going on here which do not reflect professional behavior on the part of the doctor. Of course, the doctor's behavior may not mean anything - it may have all been part of the exam - but there shouldn't be a "flirty vibe" in the examining room and if it makes OP uncomfortable she should switch doctors.

[Anonymous]

with a name like "lovelylady", I would imagine you are seeking attention and looking for any clue to validate your belief that he was hitting on you.... SO, if it gives you a boast of confidence, run with it!

[Anonymous]

Maybe he’s your soul mate.

Just kidding. This post reads like a really bad piece of fiction. First of all, what do you mean it was summer? Have you been dwelling on this since last year? Your doctor was not flirting with you and is not hitting on you, “lovely lady.”

[Anonymous]

Only way to tell, drop the top next go round

[Anonymous]

OP needs a good therapist. And a new physician who isn’t giving patients hugs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP needs a good therapist. And a new physician who isn’t giving patients hugs.

Yes- what PP wrote. I don’t know if he was hitting on you, but doctors should not hug. Maybe if you’ve been given a horrible diagnosis but still..too risky for them.

[Anonymous]

You’re insane. I have migraines that are often triggered By tension in my traps. He moved your hair and massages your shoulders to see if that would cause the muscle to relax. The exercise he gave is a stretch for that region.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP needs a good therapist. And a new physician who isn’t giving patients hugs.

My doctor is a hugger. I have no problem with that. He isn’t flirting with me. He is just a genuinely kind doctor.

[Anonymous]

Lovelylady wrote:I was having some problems with headaches that my doctor thought could be neck related. I said my old physical therapist said there might be something wrong with my T3 vertebrae. (I meant to say C3 but I told him T3 by accident).

He went to examine me but didn't say anything about the exam before doing so. He went behind me (to the side) as I was sitting and moved my long hair off my back, sweeping it over one shoulder. Then he sort of massaged both sides of my shoulder blades just in one area. He did this for about 15-20 seconds in silence. I don't even know what he would be looking for or if this represented an examination of the T3. All he said was that I had good posture, and then he told me an exercise I could do.

By the way, he was touching my bare skin because my top had a bit of a low back to it (it was summer and normally my hair would cover my back). Maybe he just felt comfortable with me because I have known him for some time? However, there has been a bit of a flirty vibe from him in general (being touchy-feely, squeezing my shoulder, giving me compliments, telling me he enjoys my company, that I'm a nice person, lots of eye contact, etc.).

This doctor is my PCP (GP). I have NO way of knowing whether this was a legitimate exam or if he was actually HITTING on me! The other things he's done (giving me hugs and compliments) have added to my confusion. Your thoughts?! I especially welcome thoughts from medical professionals.

Wait... wha??

You're still dwelling on something that occurred almost a year ago?

Shouldn't that alone tell you that he was NOT flirting with you?

[Anonymous]

Obvious troll post people. Let it die.

[Anonymous]

Was this last year and you're still thinking about it?

[Anonymous]

Checking or caressing? Plus "it was summer." When was this? If this was months ago I say you are nuts.

[Lovelylady]

For those who are wondering, I used to live in DC but I am living in the southern hemisphere for the time being so summer wasn't that long ago! Just a couple of months.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Probably not, but impossible for us to tell. The important thing here is that you’re not comfortable with him, so you need to find a different GP. That is your take away.

Exactly.

What have you done to move on to a situation in which you feel comfortable?