Was my doctor hitting on me?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:With usename like "Lovelylady" you must think highly of you. Get a life.

+1 OP is the one hitting on doctors

[Anonymous]

If he didn’t pull a Joe Biden, he wasn’t hitting on you.

[Anonymous]

I am going to turn it around....My doctor (F) was clearly hitting on me (55 yo man) because she put her stethoscope on my chest....And it lingered.

[Anonymous]

This is very normal for a physical therapist, a DO, a chiropractor, etc. I am a physical therapist and this is very normal. I mean, unless the guy was groaning or breathing in your ear, mumbling "Forget about the copay..."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am going to turn it around....My doctor (F) was clearly hitting on me (55 yo man) because she put her stethoscope on my chest....And it lingered.

The better indicator is whether she performs a hernia check after you've indicated that you have sore throat.

[Anonymous]

There is always that one man who thinks a waitress is into him, because she smiled politely to his lame jokes.

[Anonymous]

Lovelylady wrote:I was having some problems with headaches that my doctor thought could be neck related. I said my old physical therapist said there might be something wrong with my T3 vertebrae. (I meant to say C3 but I told him T3 by accident).

He went to examine me but didn't say anything about the exam before doing so. He went behind me (to the side) as I was sitting and moved my long hair off my back, sweeping it over one shoulder. Then he sort of massaged both sides of my shoulder blades just in one area. He did this for about 15-20 seconds in silence. I don't even know what he would be looking for or if this represented an examination of the T3. All he said was that I had good posture, and then he told me an exercise I could do.

By the way, he was touching my bare skin because my top had a bit of a low back to it (it was summer and normally my hair would cover my back). Maybe he just felt comfortable with me because I have known him for some time? However, there has been a bit of a flirty vibe from him in general (being touchy-feely, squeezing my shoulder, giving me compliments, telling me he enjoys my company, that I'm a nice person, lots of eye contact, etc.).

This doctor is my PCP (GP). I have NO way of knowing whether this was a legitimate exam or if he was actually HITTING on me! The other things he's done (giving me hugs and compliments) have added to my confusion. Your thoughts?! I especially welcome thoughts from medical professionals.

He could lose his license for that, so he might actually like you, but he'd not going to do anything about it and neither should you.

[Anonymous]

He could lose his license for that, so he might actually like you, but he'd not going to do anything about it and neither should you.

Oh yea, must be that!

[Anonymous]

Op - are you both single? Date him if you want. Did you mind the touching? Stop with the speculation.

[Anonymous]

1) The hug part is weird

2) when I was in my 20’s a doctor asked me out at the end of my new employee physical. He said he knew it was wrong but he was “afraid he would never see me again”

Hello—we were going to be working at the same hospital!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe he’s your soul mate.

Just kidding. This post reads like a really bad piece of fiction. First of all, what do you mean it was summer? Have you been dwelling on this since last year? Your doctor was not flirting with you and is not hitting on you, “lovely lady.”

hahahah thank yo for making me laugh out loud with this response!! "Just kidding"

[Anonymous]

Have not read a thing but how would you explain to DH that you were hopeful your DOC wanted you?

[Anonymous]

No he was giving the examination required. He was probably checking to see if the area felt tight and might need a chiropractor or a remedial massage.

If you had a cough he might listen to your lungs would you then think he his trying to touch your breasts. Go to a female gp if you think you are so hot a medical practitioner can't help himself around you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He may not have been but this is why they now teach medical students to “talk before they touch” in order for you the patient to understand why they are palpating the area. The lines are def blurred so it is so important to communicate!

Yes but as he knows her as a return patient he probably didn't think he needed to as much, little does he know he might get a sexual harassment case from it. Ugh poor doctors these days it must be so hard for them.

[Anonymous]

I agree with many of the previous posters that you should leave a practice if your interaction with a doctor makes you personally uncomfortable for any reason. I did so as a young woman when a new OB/Gyn in a city I had recently moved to decided to perform a rather prolonged breast exam during my first appointment with him in my eighth month of pregnancy. It made me feel uncomfortable and so I immediately went and found another practice to deliver my baby.

That said, I have had exams with specialists for back or joint injuries over the years, that have involved touching similar to what you describe, including on my posterior area. In some cases the doctors have engaged in an easy, complimentary rapport, I think it is their way of connecting with patients and securing continued business. In those cases, I have taken the touching as professionally intended and taken no offense.