People that never marry - What’s their life like?

[Anonymous]

Please share stories about people that never married or had kids.

Honestly, it seems like it would be awesome. Less responsibility, more money, more time to explore interests.

[Anonymous]

I’ve never married but I have 2 kids through donor sperm. I love my life. I love my kids. We have a lot of fun, hugs, and kids. We live in a great neighborhood and I have a close network of friends.

I don’t have the financial security of being able to rely on someone else but I also don’t have the headaches of having to consult with someone.

[Anonymous]

Depends on the person.

My sister never married nor had children. She is a hateful vindictive person and could never manage a healthy long-term relationship because of her personality. Thus, she never married and had kids.

[Anonymous]

My husband has a couple of buddies in his circle who never married. They are getting lonely at this point and have been reaching out.

[Anonymous]

49, never been married and no children. Have a house and a rental house. Good salary and in good shape. No drugs and no drinking. I did my fair share of drinking in my 20’s. Easy going and don’t have any complaints.

I don’t travel by air because it’s a pain. Come and go as I please. Have cousins within a half an hour drive. Friends within 10 minute drive.

[Anonymous]

I know two women that never married.

- Just turned 40, lives with her parents. Has a great career in higher ed where she "mothers" her students. Lovely personality, hilarious and smart. Really pretty. Has VERY high standards for who a man would need to be to date. Says she would love to experience having a child but not willing to have one on her own or settle for a guy that's not just right. She has time to pursue all of her hobby interests.

- 35 years old and gorgeous. Special ed and yoga teacher. Mentors through boys and girls club. Says she's very happy to not be married and does not want to deal with a man. Owns her own home.

Both of these women have shared a bit of sadness about not having a child but otherwise, they are truly happy. They both volunteer and spend lots of time with other kids. They are such beautiful people. But very, very high standards for a potential mate.

[Anonymous]

Heaven. Absolute heaven.

[Anonymous]

Single Mom by Choice, and i adopted my daughter Never married. Getting married was never a goal.

I love my freedom. All decisions are mine.

I do like dating. I am not a desperado looking to settle for a 3rd-rate partner. Once i turned 40 every guy i dated told me they finally felt like they are not dating a women who was desperate for a husband/sperm donor. I had control of my life. I was disappointed by 2 men in my 20s/30s whom I would have married, but seeing them years later i am so happy it did not work out. Turns out one had been a secret alcoholic and another a womanizer. Both of them were twice-divorced. Glad i ended up not being one of the ex-wives. I loved them for sure; but they were terrible husbands.

Not a lot of money. I had to continually ask my parents for some financial help. They basically said I was getting my i(small) inheritance in advance; which was fine with me. I need a washer/dryer now, not when they are dead. But travel is important for me and i have taken my daughter all over the country and we have been to Europe 3 times, for 2 weeks at a time. Hostels and 2-star hotels and rentals make it very possible. Eating on the cheap. Once you have the airfare, all is doable.

Life had been pretty free and easy.

My sister ended up a single mom via divorce. She is angry, bitter, depressed. Kind of a nutcase. She was depending on a man to give her a good life. It did not come to be.

[Anonymous]

I'm 45 with a child. Never married and so badly want to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Single Mom by Choice, and i adopted my daughter Never married. Getting married was never a goal.

I love my freedom. All decisions are mine.

I do like dating. I am not a desperado looking to settle for a 3rd-rate partner. Once i turned 40 every guy i dated told me they finally felt like they are not dating a women who was desperate for a husband/sperm donor. I had control of my life. I was disappointed by 2 men in my 20s/30s whom I would have married, but seeing them years later i am so happy it did not work out. Turns out one had been a secret alcoholic and another a womanizer. Both of them were twice-divorced. Glad i ended up not being one of the ex-wives. I loved them for sure; but they were terrible husbands.

Not a lot of money. I had to continually ask my parents for some financial help. They basically said I was getting my i(small) inheritance in advance; which was fine with me. I need a washer/dryer now, not when they are dead. But travel is important for me and i have taken my daughter all over the country and we have been to Europe 3 times, for 2 weeks at a time. Hostels and 2-star hotels and rentals make it very possible. Eating on the cheap. Once you have the airfare, all is doable.

Life had been pretty free and easy.

My sister ended up a single mom via divorce. She is angry, bitter, depressed. Kind of a nutcase. She was depending on a man to give her a good life. It did not come to be.

Relying on your parents for financial help in your 40s doesn’t sound like all the decisions are yours. Although it’s probably free and easy.

Not sure how you see yourself as so superior to your sister.

[Anonymous]

My brother in his mid 50s never married. Great guy, lots of friends, good job. Spoils his nieces and nephews. Not sure what he’d say about his life, but from where I sit being locked in the houses with my spouse and kids it sounds like heaven!

[Anonymous]

Most of the women i personally know/hang out with are never-married. I guess like seeks like. We are 40s-50s. Some are moms, many are not. We love our jobs and our hobbies. Life seems pretty simple and satisfactory.

[Anonymous]

Rich!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Single Mom by Choice, and i adopted my daughter Never married. Getting married was never a goal.

I love my freedom. All decisions are mine.

I do like dating. I am not a desperado looking to settle for a 3rd-rate partner. Once i turned 40 every guy i dated told me they finally felt like they are not dating a women who was desperate for a husband/sperm donor. I had control of my life. I was disappointed by 2 men in my 20s/30s whom I would have married, but seeing them years later i am so happy it did not work out. Turns out one had been a secret alcoholic and another a womanizer. Both of them were twice-divorced. Glad i ended up not being one of the ex-wives. I loved them for sure; but they were terrible husbands.

Not a lot of money. I had to continually ask my parents for some financial help. They basically said I was getting my i(small) inheritance in advance; which was fine with me. I need a washer/dryer now, not when they are dead. But travel is important for me and i have taken my daughter all over the country and we have been to Europe 3 times, for 2 weeks at a time. Hostels and 2-star hotels and rentals make it very possible. Eating on the cheap. Once you have the airfare, all is doable.

Life had been pretty free and easy.

My sister ended up a single mom via divorce. She is angry, bitter, depressed. Kind of a nutcase. She was depending on a man to give her a good life. It did not come to be.

Relying on your parents for financial help in your 40s doesn’t sound like all the decisions are yours. Although it’s probably free and easy.

Not sure how you see yourself as so superior to your sister.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Single Mom by Choice, and i adopted my daughter Never married. Getting married was never a goal.

I love my freedom. All decisions are mine.

I do like dating. I am not a desperado looking to settle for a 3rd-rate partner. Once i turned 40 every guy i dated told me they finally felt like they are not dating a women who was desperate for a husband/sperm donor. I had control of my life. I was disappointed by 2 men in my 20s/30s whom I would have married, but seeing them years later i am so happy it did not work out. Turns out one had been a secret alcoholic and another a womanizer. Both of them were twice-divorced. Glad i ended up not being one of the ex-wives. I loved them for sure; but they were terrible husbands.

Not a lot of money. I had to continually ask my parents for some financial help. They basically said I was getting my i(small) inheritance in advance; which was fine with me. I need a washer/dryer now, not when they are dead. But travel is important for me and i have taken my daughter all over the country and we have been to Europe 3 times, for 2 weeks at a time. Hostels and 2-star hotels and rentals make it very possible. Eating on the cheap. Once you have the airfare, all is doable.

Life had been pretty free and easy.

My sister ended up a single mom via divorce. She is angry, bitter, depressed. Kind of a nutcase. She was depending on a man to give her a good life. It did not come to be.

Relying on your parents for financial help in your 40s doesn’t sound like all the decisions are yours. Although it’s probably free and easy.

Not sure how you see yourself as so superior to your sister.

You sound very bitter. You must be divorced.

I detect reading comprehension problems. (I am a teacher; I'm good at spotting these things.) I do not *rely*on my parents. They give me great gifts like a new washer/dryer. I bought a new car and my dad gave me a month's payment as a Christmas present. They paid my au pair's salary one month. Really thoughtful gifts like that. Much better than a new sweater.

I wouldn't trade my watch-my-pennies life for your bitterness for a moment. Plus, my boyfriends are hot.