Boyfriend Texts Ex-wife Too Often
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Anonymous
| I was laying in the bed with boyfriend and saw a text on his phone come through from his ex-wife. I asked him what it was about because it was late. He wouldn't show me the text, but said it had to do with one of their children. They haven't been divorced long (6 mos) and I'm concerned that he's not over her. We started dating a year before their divorce was final and they fought a lot over every detail of custody, the house and alimony. He shared a lot with me about how mean and vindictive she was. Anyway, this morning I looked at his texts and saw that he sent her a Merry Christmas text and a Happy New Year text. Why is he being nice to her? Like why does he even still care to do this? I get that they have kids, but this seems a little too buddy, buddy for me. Should I be concerned that he's not over her? |
Anonymous
| he’s still sleeping with her (and you). |
Anonymous
| You think it's overkill to send a nice text to the mother of your children? |
Anonymous
| Merry Christmas and Happy New Year are too buddy for people who have children together?!? You sound a bit insecure. |
Anonymous
| Get another bed partner, OP. This guy misses his children - and their mother. |
Anonymous
| Been divorced 5 years. We still send Merry Christmas, Happy New Year, Happy Birthday, Happy Mother's or Father's day texts. We are very much over each other, but maintain a positive co-parenting relationship. He also wished my Husband a Happy new year by text, and bought us both a small Christmas gift & got us a card. |
Anonymous
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Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!!!
THAT is your smoking gun? Are you high? |
Anonymous
Divorced man here. I send occasional texts to my ex. Sent her a Merry Christmas one, none for New Years. Usually send her a birthday and Mother’s Day text. They mean nothing more to me than wishing her well. She’s the mother of my children and being nice to each other provides many benefits when we occasionally have to be in the same room. |
Anonymous
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Been there, done that. It didn't end well for me. Good luck.
You are the rebound relationship. Some of them do work out. Not many. |
Anonymous
I do feel insecure. I've never been married and after witnessing how horrible their divorce was I just figured she would be way out of the picture and they would only communicate about their children. It wasn't a good marriage. I didn't expect them to become friends after the divorce. This time last year they absolutely hated each other. So yes, I'm insecure. I'm wondering if this communication will lead to something else. |
Anonymous
Even after divorce?? They went back to their ex-spouse? |
Anonymous
| You started sleeping with this guy ONE YEAR BEFORE he was even divorced. That’s nuts. He needed at least a year or two post divorce before having a relationship. Sorry but this will not last. He’s probably too scared to be alone. Never get involved with a married man. I do not care if he separated or intends to get divorced. It shows such a lack of strength of character on both your parts. |
Anonymous
Was your divorce amicable? They fought the whole way through. - Op |
Anonymous
Great, thanks. I'm seriously wondering. - Op |
Anonymous
Plus 1. He is the mother of his children. They shared many good years together. |