Boyfriend Texts Ex-wife Too Often

[Anonymous]

^ for your ex Husband, this is image management. If you get along OK with him then he can say all is good and he doesn’t have to feel
bad about himself. It’s all so screwed up in their head. It’s good that you can dissociate from the bs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^ for your ex Husband, this is image management. If you get along OK with him then he can say all is good and he doesn’t have to feel
bad about himself. It’s all so screwed up in their head. It’s good that you can dissociate from the bs.

Bingo. I am the confused PP from before. This is exactly it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You are too insecure to be in this relationship. She’s going to be in his life forever so you either trust him or don’t but doesn’t sound like you do so move on.

No, his children are in his life forever, NOT his ex.

He needs to draw straight lines with his ex and his own personal life with OP. If he wants to be all chummy with his unstable ex, they should have stayed married.

I agree, OP needs to be upfront with him. The ex is not part of any package, sure they need to talk but keep it to the bare minimum.

Why? I mean, I keep contact with my own ex to a bare minimum, but that's not a hard and fast rule. I know others who have great relationships with their ex-partners. There's no "right" way to be divorced, and OP can either accept that her partner is choosing the "more contact" way or not accept it, but she can't tell her boyfriend how to run his life or relationships. [/quote

She can tell him as partners what's not working for their relationship. He will need to decide how much he values his relationship with OP. She doesn't have kids so I'm betting that's a big plus in his eyes since he has his hands full as it is. Every other day is too much to be talking to a ex.
He'll most likely want to keep his relationship versus another failure, but OP needs to convey her feelings.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You are too insecure to be in this relationship. She’s going to be in his life forever so you either trust him or don’t but doesn’t sound like you do so move on.

No, his children are in his life forever, NOT his ex.

He needs to draw straight lines with his ex and his own personal life with OP. If he wants to be all chummy with his unstable ex, they should have stayed married.

I agree, OP needs to be upfront with him. The ex is not part of any package, sure they need to talk but keep it to the bare minimum.

Why? I mean, I keep contact with my own ex to a bare minimum, but that's not a hard and fast rule. I know others who have great relationships with their ex-partners. There's no "right" way to be divorced, and OP can either accept that her partner is choosing the "more contact" way or not accept it, but she can't tell her boyfriend how to run his life or relationships.

She can tell him as partners what's not working for their relationship. He will need to decide how much he values his relationship with OP. She doesn't have kids so I'm betting that's a big plus in his eyes since he has his hands full as it is. Every other day is too much to be talking to a ex.
He'll most likely want to keep his relationship versus another failure, but OP needs to convey her feelings.

Again, though, why? Does she think he is spending too much actual physical time texting? That's a real reason. What is not a real reason is: "I think you are being divorced wrong."

[Anonymous]

OP, the guy is divorced and so why stress over this? The wife will not have anything to do with this guy since the divorce was acrimonious and there was cheating involved. Wife is most likely done with this guy.