Question for white guys who date black women

[Anonymous]

I’ve noticed on dating apps I get regularly approached by white guys. However in real life getting approached by them is rare? Any explanation for this? Is there something you look for when deciding to approach in person?

[Anonymous]

Maybe your pic looks better than IRL.

[Anonymous]

I have found that men of different races have different methods of “flirting”.

[Anonymous]

Approaching online gives a bit of room for rejection without an outright “Ew I don’t do that”. I think they are generally unsure how to approach irl.

[Anonymous]

White guys don't approach anyone in real life.

[Anonymous]

AA women here. American white men's communication styles are very different than other cultures. There is less emphasis put into being direct and aggressive with dating communication.


It doesn't help that there is a false narrative about black women and interracial dating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:AA women here. American white men's communication styles are very different than other cultures. There is less emphasis put into being direct and aggressive with dating communication.


It doesn't help that there is a false narrative about black women and interracial dating.

wut?

[Anonymous]

Women in general aren't very approachable, regardless of color.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:White guys don't approach anyone in real life.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:White guys don't approach anyone in real life.

This.

White guy here and I’d partially agree with this. There’s a constant drumbeat of stories about women being put in uncomfortable situations by men who are interested in them. Honestly, dating apps give them the distance to not have to respond or feel threatened, or, to be interested. I get a charge out of introducing myself, talking to and learning about someone that I think is attractive, but it’s not always the same experience for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:White guys don't approach anyone in real life.

This.

White guy here and I’d partially agree with this. There’s a constant drumbeat of stories about women being put in uncomfortable situations by men who are interested in them. Honestly, dating apps give them the distance to not have to respond or feel threatened, or, to be interested. I get a charge out of introducing myself, talking to and learning about someone that I think is attractive, but it’s not always the same experience for them.

That is sad men feel like they can't even approach women anymore

[Anonymous]

Black women are statistically the least likely to date outside their race (guilty as charged!). If a non-Black man is interested in a black woman, online might be a less rejection-prone way to gauge her interest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:White guys don't approach anyone in real life.

This.

White guy here and I’d partially agree with this. There’s a constant drumbeat of stories about women being put in uncomfortable situations by men who are interested in them. Honestly, dating apps give them the distance to not have to respond or feel threatened, or, to be interested. I get a charge out of introducing myself, talking to and learning about someone that I think is attractive, but it’s not always the same experience for them.

That is sad men feel like they can't even approach women anymore

I know a guy who was very interested in dating a woman in real life. He did not feel like he could approach her. He saw she was on a dating website
so he signed up for the website specifically so he could introduce himself to her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve noticed on dating apps I get regularly approached by white guys. However in real life getting approached by them is rare? Any explanation for this? Is there something you look for when deciding to approach in person?

The reality is white women don't get approached by white men anymore in real life, either. The white men wimp out and use the dating sites to approach women of all races.

Best of luck with your dating.

[Anonymous]

Yep, dating apps are much safer places for men to start talking to women. I think a lot of men are more comfortable online.

As a woman, I prefer being approached online as well. You aren't on the spot to respond and you can chat more than you would in a guy approaching you IRL. One thing you don't know is how well the guy will communicate in real life until you meet him.