Question for white guys who date black women

[Anonymous]

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Black women are statistically the least likely to date outside their race (guilty as charged!). If a non-Black man is interested in a black woman, online might be a less rejection-prone way to gauge her interest.

I am curious about these statistics. I am 56-year-old divorced white man who dated a black woman (post-divorce) for about a year.

The prejudice we encountered from her family was unbelievable.

Her two brothers, both of which had dated white women, gave my girlfriend a hard time because they felt that by dating me, she was sending her daughter the message that black men were not good enough for her. When she asked them what message they sent her nephews when they dated white women, they answered that black women were the core of their families and that if they did not date (and marry) solely black men, it would mean the end of black families.

Her sister wanted to know more about our time together and believe that I was an experiment that my girlfriend would get out of her system. BTW - this sister never said anything like this to her brothers about dating white women.

I’m the PP 29 year old dating a white male. I’ve had to deal with some of the same thing, initially with my mother. But once she met my BF she said she wasn’t thrilled that he was white but that he was much nicer than anyone else I had dated and they had all been AA.

[Anonymous]

I’m the PP 29 year old dating a white male. I’ve had to deal with some of the same thing, initially with my mother. But once she met my BF she said she wasn’t thrilled that he was white but that he was much nicer than anyone else I had dated and they had all been AA.

PP, did you feel that there was a double standard in this area?

My girlfriend was the most upset by the fact that her family did not really notice when her brothers dated white women, but all felt the need to talk to her when she started dating me (a white guy.)

[Anonymous]

I like big butts and I cannot lie

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I like big butts and I cannot lie

sarah palin, is that you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I like big butts and I cannot lie

sarah palin, is that you?

You found me hiding in Alaska!

[Anonymous]

Twenty years ago I asked a black woman out on a date and she very pleasantly declined saying that she only dated black men. Was she a racist? There was no tone of racism in her comment. I never did ask another black woman out mostly due to a lack of opportunity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Twenty years ago I asked a black woman out on a date and she very pleasantly declined saying that she only dated black men. Was she a racist? There was no tone of racism in her comment. I never did ask another black woman out mostly due to a lack of opportunity.

Not necessarily. She may just not be attracted to white men, which doesn't make her a racist, per se. It's like saying a man only dates women with big boobs, or blondes or blondes with big boobs. You get my meaning?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Twenty years ago I asked a black woman out on a date and she very pleasantly declined saying that she only dated black men. Was she a racist? There was no tone of racism in her comment. I never did ask another black woman out mostly due to a lack of opportunity.

Not necessarily. She may just not be attracted to white men, which doesn't make her a racist, per se. It's like saying a man only dates women with big boobs, or blondes or blondes with big boobs. You get my meaning?

It's not like that at all and you sound unintelligent. Get my meaning?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Twenty years ago I asked a black woman out on a date and she very pleasantly declined saying that she only dated black men. Was she a racist? There was no tone of racism in her comment. I never did ask another black woman out mostly due to a lack of opportunity.

Not necessarily. She may just not be attracted to white men, which doesn't make her a racist, per se. It's like saying a man only dates women with big boobs, or blondes or blondes with big boobs. You get my meaning?

If a black man asked out a white woman and she said I only date white men you can be darn sure he'd consider her a racist.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Twenty years ago I asked a black woman out on a date and she very pleasantly declined saying that she only dated black men. Was she a racist? There was no tone of racism in her comment. I never did ask another black woman out mostly due to a lack of opportunity.

Not necessarily. She may just not be attracted to white men, which doesn't make her a racist, per se. It's like saying a man only dates women with big boobs, or blondes or blondes with big boobs. You get my meaning?

It's not like that at all and you sound unintelligent. Get my meaning?

How is it not like that at all? Lots of people have physical preferences and only date those with that physical characteristic.

Some people are attracted to the darker look, so they like to date only those who have the darker coloring.
Some people are attracted to tall people, so they like to date only tall people.
Some women are only attracted to men who are super buff, so they only date super buff men.
Some tall men are attracted to petite women, so they only date petite women.
Some men like chunky women, so they date only chunky women.

etc...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Twenty years ago I asked a black woman out on a date and she very pleasantly declined saying that she only dated black men. Was she a racist? There was no tone of racism in her comment. I never did ask another black woman out mostly due to a lack of opportunity.

Not necessarily. She may just not be attracted to white men, which doesn't make her a racist, per se. It's like saying a man only dates women with big boobs, or blondes or blondes with big boobs. You get my meaning?

If a black man asked out a white woman and she said I only date white men you can be darn sure he'd consider her a racist.

As a PP stated, it depends on how she declined... was she "very pleasant"? Or did she decline with a look of pure disgust? Maybe she's just not into black men?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Twenty years ago I asked a black woman out on a date and she very pleasantly declined saying that she only dated black men. Was she a racist? There was no tone of racism in her comment. I never did ask another black woman out mostly due to a lack of opportunity.

Not necessarily. She may just not be attracted to white men, which doesn't make her a racist, per se. It's like saying a man only dates women with big boobs, or blondes or blondes with big boobs. You get my meaning?

If a black man asked out a white woman and she said I only date white men you can be darn sure he'd consider her a racist.

As a PP stated, it depends on how she declined... was she "very pleasant"? Or did she decline with a look of pure disgust? Maybe she's just not into black men?

Assume she said it pleasantly. He'd still consider her a racist but a pleasant one!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Twenty years ago I asked a black woman out on a date and she very pleasantly declined saying that she only dated black men. Was she a racist? There was no tone of racism in her comment. I never did ask another black woman out mostly due to a lack of opportunity.

Not necessarily. She may just not be attracted to white men, which doesn't make her a racist, per se. It's like saying a man only dates women with big boobs, or blondes or blondes with big boobs. You get my meaning?

If a black man asked out a white woman and she said I only date white men you can be darn sure he'd consider her a racist.

As a PP stated, it depends on how she declined... was she "very pleasant"? Or did she decline with a look of pure disgust? Maybe she's just not into black men?

Assume she said it pleasantly. He'd still consider her a racist but a pleasant one!

I think she'd be a bigot and not a racist. Racism is really about power and control and bigotry is severe prejudice against another group.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Twenty years ago I asked a black woman out on a date and she very pleasantly declined saying that she only dated black men. Was she a racist? There was no tone of racism in her comment. I never did ask another black woman out mostly due to a lack of opportunity.

Not necessarily. She may just not be attracted to white men, which doesn't make her a racist, per se. It's like saying a man only dates women with big boobs, or blondes or blondes with big boobs. You get my meaning?

If a black man asked out a white woman and she said I only date white men you can be darn sure he'd consider her a racist.

Most white men aren’t asking out black women. So are you saying that they are racists? Because the non-ask, especially online where it takes very little to message someone, is the same as saying you exclude dating certain races.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Also, women, like most everyone else, are always staring at their phones, or are wearing headphones, which are both generally signals for f*ck off, I’m busy in my own world, obsessing over all the beautiful people and their beautiful lives, and wondering why no one will approach me so I can have a normal, human relationship.

Bitter

No, it's a real issue. It's called "thumbing."

https://www.elitedaily.com/p/what-is-thumbing-this-habit-is-the-reason-you-never-get-hit-on-22594266

"What Is Thumbing? This Habit Is The Reason You Never Get Hit On

"...According to Maria Avgitidis, a matchmaker and the founder of Agape Match who coined the term, thumbing is when you scroll or swipe on your phone out of boredom. Whether you're waiting in line at a coffee shop or waiting for your friend to meet you at a bar, it's hard to resist pulling out your phone and thumbing through social media when you're by yourself in public. It's an easy way to pass the time, and it gives you the "security of looking busy." There's nothing wrong with it. Pretty much everyone does it.

"But if you secretly hope for a public meet-cute, Avgitidis suggests putting your phone away in public. In her opinion, staring at your phone is basically the equivalent of wearing a giant "DO NOT DISTURB" sign around your neck. "A phone can give a sense of security," Avgitidis says, "but the mere presence of it can create an obstacle" to conversations with cute strangers."