Question for white guys who date black women

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:White guys don't approach anyone in real life.

This.

White guy here and I’d partially agree with this. There’s a constant drumbeat of stories about women being put in uncomfortable situations by men who are interested in them. Honestly, dating apps give them the distance to not have to respond or feel threatened, or, to be interested. I get a charge out of introducing myself, talking to and learning about someone that I think is attractive, but it’s not always the same experience for them.

That is sad men feel like they can't even approach women anymore

There is a subset of women who think a man they don't know approaching them ANYWHERE is "creepy." You'll see various threads on this site where women describe being approached at the work (don't shi*t where you eat), gym, grocery store, their children's school, etc. as "creepy." It's hard to know a priori if a woman falls into this camp, so many guys prefer approaching online to avoid being labeled a "creep."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve noticed on dating apps I get regularly approached by white guys. However in real life getting approached by them is rare? Any explanation for this? Is there something you look for when deciding to approach in person?

The reality is white women don't get approached by white men anymore in real life, either. The white men wimp out and use the dating sites to approach women of all races.

Best of luck with your dating.

Wimp out? I think white guys - actually guys in general - cannot afford to have guards down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:White guys don't approach anyone in real life.

This.

White guy here and I’d partially agree with this. There’s a constant drumbeat of stories about women being put in uncomfortable situations by men who are interested in them. Honestly, dating apps give them the distance to not have to respond or feel threatened, or, to be interested. I get a charge out of introducing myself, talking to and learning about someone that I think is attractive, but it’s not always the same experience for them.

That is sad men feel like they can't even approach women anymore

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:White guys don't approach anyone in real life.

This.

Agree.

[Anonymous]

Also, women, like most everyone else, are always staring at their phones, or are wearing headphones, which are both generally signals for f*ck off, I’m busy in my own world, obsessing over all the beautiful people and their beautiful lives, and wondering why no one will approach me so I can have a normal, human relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also, women, like most everyone else, are always staring at their phones, or are wearing headphones, which are both generally signals for f*ck off, I’m busy in my own world, obsessing over all the beautiful people and their beautiful lives, and wondering why no one will approach me so I can have a normal, human relationship.

Bitter

[Anonymous]

Slightly off topicc- I'm a black woman (married) but get hit on through Wirds With Friends. Always white guys. I have to shut off the chat function. It's super creepy. I need to unlink it from Facebook with my photo somehow.

Do people actually meet that way too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:White guys don't approach anyone in real life.

not unless I have my lawyer with me. (You never know these days ).

[Anonymous]

And my wife. Mike Pence was prescient.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:White guys don't approach anyone in real life.

This.

White guy here and I’d partially agree with this. There’s a constant drumbeat of stories about women being put in uncomfortable situations by men who are interested in them. Honestly, dating apps give them the distance to not have to respond or feel threatened, or, to be interested. I get a charge out of introducing myself, talking to and learning about someone that I think is attractive, but it’s not always the same experience for them.

That is sad men feel like they can't even approach women anymore

+1

Not sad. Good for women who don’t wabt to be bothered while shopping, working out, walking their dog, or even working. Women who are looking know how to signal romantic interest. If men are too deficient to differentiate between a woman who is simply responding to be polite and one who is actually romantically interested, they need to sit out dating for a while.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Slightly off topicc- I'm a black woman (married) but get hit on through Wirds With Friends. Always white guys. I have to shut off the chat function. It's super creepy. I need to unlink it from Facebook with my photo somehow.

Do people actually meet that way too?

That is so annoying. I get that too and they drop off when you don’t respond; fine by me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:White guys don't approach anyone in real life.

Though I know it’s not good to generalize, this has been my experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:White guys don't approach anyone in real life.

This.

White guy here and I’d partially agree with this. There’s a constant drumbeat of stories about women being put in uncomfortable situations by men who are interested in them. Honestly, dating apps give them the distance to not have to respond or feel threatened, or, to be interested. I get a charge out of introducing myself, talking to and learning about someone that I think is attractive, but it’s not always the same experience for them.

That is sad men feel like they can't even approach women anymore

+1

Not sad. Good for women who don’t wabt to be bothered while shopping, working out, walking their dog, or even working. Women who are looking know how to signal romantic interest. If men are too deficient to differentiate between a woman who is simply responding to be polite and one who is actually romantically interested, they need to sit out dating for a while.

LOL no. Women need to start making the first move. What you posted is just BS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:White guys don't approach anyone in real life.

This.

White guy here and I’d partially agree with this. There’s a constant drumbeat of stories about women being put in uncomfortable situations by men who are interested in them. Honestly, dating apps give them the distance to not have to respond or feel threatened, or, to be interested. I get a charge out of introducing myself, talking to and learning about someone that I think is attractive, but it’s not always the same experience for them.

That is sad men feel like they can't even approach women anymore

Most men don’t know how to do it respectfully. It’s not that they can’t, it’s that they lack the skill set.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:White guys don't approach anyone in real life.

This.

White guy here and I’d partially agree with this. There’s a constant drumbeat of stories about women being put in uncomfortable situations by men who are interested in them. Honestly, dating apps give them the distance to not have to respond or feel threatened, or, to be interested. I get a charge out of introducing myself, talking to and learning about someone that I think is attractive, but it’s not always the same experience for them.

That is sad men feel like they can't even approach women anymore

+1

Not sad. Good for women who don’t wabt to be bothered while shopping, working out, walking their dog, or even working. Women who are looking know how to signal romantic interest. If men are too deficient to differentiate between a woman who is simply responding to be polite and one who is actually romantically interested, they need to sit out dating for a while.

LOL no. Women need to start making the first move. What you posted is just BS.

As a woman, I agree with the poster above you. You need to be able to read people better, it’s not BS.