Guy Acting Weird After Sex..

[Anonymous]

I’ve been dating a guy for around a month. We have been on 5 dates. He hadn’t made a move, and I decided I wanted to. I said something like “ Do you want to f*ck already”, and he laughed, but still didn’t make a move. I ended up making the first move and we had sex, which was very good in my opinion. Now he is acting weird. Barely kissed me in the morning, and turned down sex this morning. I’m very confused. He pursued me, and asked me out for every date we had. He seemed to enjoy sex last night. I feel like it was going well, and I just don’t understand why he’s acting weird. We are supposed to hang out tonight, but I’m almost feel like canceling.

[Anonymous]

Then cancel.

[Anonymous]

He is cheating on someone or is gay

[Anonymous]

What do you look like?

And I bet he’s married

[Anonymous]

He might have a virgin/whore complex. He wanted to date you not f*ck you and he’s conflicted because he liked it but doesn’t like what it means.

Dump him. Life’s too short.

[Anonymous]

I mean, with a comment like that, you made it pretty clear why you were dating him. Why would you expect him to take you seriously as a relationship partner after that comment?

[Anonymous]

Bizarre. I would be suspicion he has another relationship going on. I'd cancel seeing him tonight and not contact him anymore. If he still pursues you and asks you out again after that, I'd go out and see if things seem more normal/natural. If it still feels awkward, don't see him anymore and move on.

[Anonymous]

That was a skanky comment.

[Anonymous]

he is dating other women. Did you meet him online? or he has a wife or serious girlfriend and feels guilty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean, with a comment like that, you made it pretty clear why you were dating him. Why would you expect him to take you seriously as a relationship partner after that comment?

Uh, yeah. Also, while it was good for you, it might not have been good for him. Odd for a man to turn down sex with a new partner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That was a skanky comment.

Indeed.

[Anonymous]

Nice comment! You know how to get a man’s attention. He had sex with you but may figure that your comment is reflective of someone who says it frequently to random guys.

[Anonymous]

OP, has he contacted you today? I would not contact him and if he doesn’t get in touch with you, consider him in the past.

It seems like he wasn’t ready for sex with you for whatever reason, you pursued it verbally, didn’t respond to his cue where he just laughed and didn’t make a move, and then when you continued to pursue he didn’t want to tell you “no,” but by declining to kiss and declining more sex is another big clue.

It may have nothing to do with you, maybe he’s not over an ex or something, but I would not contact him again.

[Anonymous]

OP here. He could have a girlfriend, but he’s not married. We hung out twice at his place, and I stayed the night at his place. I agree it was a little wrong to say that, but oh well. I was a little tipsy ( rarely drink), and I don’t sleep around, but I understand it’s hard for him to know that. He’s not religious or anything. He also has been very touchy since our first date. I did make a move after he laughed, but it’s not like I forced him. He’s the one that wanted to move from the couch to his bed, and we had sex multiple times last night. He kissed me this morning, but it was quick, and said he was “ too tired” for sex. I let because I had plans, and started to feel weird. He texted me “ How was breakfast” like an hour ago, but now I just feel weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean, with a comment like that, you made it pretty clear why you were dating him. Why would you expect him to take you seriously as a relationship partner after that comment?

People can have sex and wants a serious relationship with the same partner. Most adults expect to have sex by 3-5 dates.