Guy Acting Weird After Sex..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been dating a guy for around a month. We have been on 5 dates. He hadn’t made a move, and I decided I wanted to. I said something like “ Do you want to f*ck already”, and he laughed, but still didn’t make a move. I ended up making the first move and we had sex, which was very good in my opinion. Now he is acting weird. Barely kissed me in the morning, and turned down sex this morning. I’m very confused. He pursued me, and asked me out for every date we had. He seemed to enjoy sex last night. I feel like it was going well, and I just don’t understand why he’s acting weird. We are supposed to hang out tonight, but I’m almost feel like canceling.

How is he acting weird? He hasn't made a move because he didn't want to. You didn't listen, and decided what YOU want is more important and pressured him into sex. In your opinion, sex was very good; well, if your opinion is good, who cares what he thinks?

Here's the right answer that everyone is coddling you not to hear: He didn't want to have sex with you. You pressured him to sleep with you. The morning after, he still doesn't want to have sex with you. He is acting weird because you pressured him to do something he didn't want, and now you are surprised he isn't kissing your feet and sending you flowers.

Open your eyes. See the word beyond "in my opinion." For a change, look at a person in front of you and read the signals they are so clearly sending you.

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No straight man turns down sex with a woman he has willingly gone on five dates with. He has another relationship or multiple flingsnin rotation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been dating a guy for around a month. We have been on 5 dates. He hadn’t made a move, and I decided I wanted to. I said something like “ Do you want to f*ck already”, and he laughed, but still didn’t make a move. I ended up making the first move and we had sex, which was very good in my opinion. Now he is acting weird. Barely kissed me in the morning, and turned down sex this morning. I’m very confused. He pursued me, and asked me out for every date we had. He seemed to enjoy sex last night. I feel like it was going well, and I just don’t understand why he’s acting weird. We are supposed to hang out tonight, but I’m almost feel like canceling.

How is he acting weird? He hasn't made a move because he didn't want to. You didn't listen, and decided what YOU want is more important and pressured him into sex. In your opinion, sex was very good; well, if your opinion is good, who cares what he thinks?

Here's the right answer that everyone is coddling you not to hear: He didn't want to have sex with you. You pressured him to sleep with you. The morning after, he still doesn't want to have sex with you. He is acting weird because you pressured him to do something he didn't want, and now you are surprised he isn't kissing your feet and sending you flowers.

Open your eyes. See the word beyond "in my opinion." For a change, look at a person in front of you and read the signals they are so clearly sending you.

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No straight man turns down sex with a woman he has willingly gone on five dates with. He has another relationship or multiple flingsnin rotation.

OP here. I explained the reason why.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been dating a guy for around a month. We have been on 5 dates. He hadn’t made a move, and I decided I wanted to. I said something like “ Do you want to f*ck already”, and he laughed, but still didn’t make a move. I ended up making the first move and we had sex, which was very good in my opinion. Now he is acting weird. Barely kissed me in the morning, and turned down sex this morning. I’m very confused. He pursued me, and asked me out for every date we had. He seemed to enjoy sex last night. I feel like it was going well, and I just don’t understand why he’s acting weird. We are supposed to hang out tonight, but I’m almost feel like canceling.

How is he acting weird? He hasn't made a move because he didn't want to. You didn't listen, and decided what YOU want is more important and pressured him into sex. In your opinion, sex was very good; well, if your opinion is good, who cares what he thinks?

Here's the right answer that everyone is coddling you not to hear: He didn't want to have sex with you. You pressured him to sleep with you. The morning after, he still doesn't want to have sex with you. He is acting weird because you pressured him to do something he didn't want, and now you are surprised he isn't kissing your feet and sending you flowers.

Open your eyes. See the word beyond "in my opinion." For a change, look at a person in front of you and read the signals they are so clearly sending you.

.

No straight man turns down sex with a woman he has willingly gone on five dates with. He has another relationship or multiple flingsnin rotation.

I may not turn down ice cream if you put it in a bowl and place it in front of me, but I'm not getting off my ass to drive to the store, buy it, bring it home and scoop it.

For my relationship, I'm looking for a guy who will move heaven and earth to be with me, especially have sex with me! "Not turn down" is not really my standard. It shouldn't be OP's either.

His reasons don't really matter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. For the poster saying I took an advantage of him, I didn’t. If he told me no, or pushed me away, I would have listened. As a sexual abuse survivor, I would never pressure anyone, or do something they’re uncomfortable doing. I did make the first move, but he wanted to move to the bedroom. We had sex 3 times, 2 of which he initiated after we had sex the first time.

We had dinner last night and he actually himself. I just flat out asked him if he was okay with the situation, and he said he was. He then explained he wanted to have sex with me but was nervous because he has issues with his testosterone and ejaculation. Sex is usually fine, but sometimes he ejaculates early, or not at all. He was embarrassed about ejaculating too early, and me thinking he was bad in bed. The morning after he was tired, and wasn’t sure he could have sex after the night of 3 times. Everything is good and he assured me he had fun. He also said the comment I made turned him on.

Jeeze Louise lady. This info would have helped. The man needs a rest. Not all guys have the ability to ejaculate 10 times a day and HE TOLD YOU THAT. You are way overthinking this. I go back to my prior advice. Be calm. Don’t chase. Everything is okay unless you guys talk and decide it’s not okay.

And by the way you can be conservative and a feminist. They’re not mutually exclusive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. He could have a girlfriend, but he’s not married. We hung out twice at his place, and I stayed the night at his place. I agree it was a little wrong to say that, but oh well. I was a little tipsy ( rarely drink), and I don’t sleep around, but I understand it’s hard for him to know that. He’s not religious or anything. He also has been very touchy since our first date. I did make a move after he laughed, but it’s not like I forced him. He’s the one that wanted to move from the couch to his bed, and we had sex multiple times last night. He kissed me this morning, but it was quick, and said he was “ too tired” for sex. I let because I had plans, and started to feel weird. He texted me “ How was breakfast” like an hour ago, but now I just feel weird.

It sounds like you’re acting just as weird as you perceive him to be. If you cancel your date tonight, you’re confirming an reservations he had. Maybe he wasn’t really ready for sex and he just went along because he was close to being ready and got caught up in the moment. Then he felt awkward I. The morning. Imagine how you’d like to be treated.

Sounds like she’s going to MeToo him in about six months.

You can argue that it’s overblown but that fear is animating many men these days even otherwise liberal ones. I’ve been a Democrat for 15 years and I still follow the Pence rule.

OP here. No MeTOO move for me. I’m a conservative. I’m not a feminist.

For a conservative, you're way too concerned with whether a guy wants to have sex with you, and not enough with whether he actually feels anything for you, and whether having sex with you means anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. He could have a girlfriend, but he’s not married. We hung out twice at his place, and I stayed the night at his place. I agree it was a little wrong to say that, but oh well. I was a little tipsy ( rarely drink), and I don’t sleep around, but I understand it’s hard for him to know that. He’s not religious or anything. He also has been very touchy since our first date. I did make a move after he laughed, but it’s not like I forced him. He’s the one that wanted to move from the couch to his bed, and we had sex multiple times last night. He kissed me this morning, but it was quick, and said he was “ too tired” for sex. I let because I had plans, and started to feel weird. He texted me “ How was breakfast” like an hour ago, but now I just feel weird.

It sounds like you’re acting just as weird as you perceive him to be. If you cancel your date tonight, you’re confirming an reservations he had. Maybe he wasn’t really ready for sex and he just went along because he was close to being ready and got caught up in the moment. Then he felt awkward I. The morning. Imagine how you’d like to be treated.

Sounds like she’s going to MeToo him in about six months.

You can argue that it’s overblown but that fear is animating many men these days even otherwise liberal ones. I’ve been a Democrat for 15 years and I still follow the Pence rule.

[Anonymous]

OP, it sounds like you are extremely high drive and it's quite possible that he is not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. He could have a girlfriend, but he’s not married. We hung out twice at his place, and I stayed the night at his place. I agree it was a little wrong to say that, but oh well. I was a little tipsy ( rarely drink), and I don’t sleep around, but I understand it’s hard for him to know that. He’s not religious or anything. He also has been very touchy since our first date. I did make a move after he laughed, but it’s not like I forced him. He’s the one that wanted to move from the couch to his bed, and we had sex multiple times last night. He kissed me this morning, but it was quick, and said he was “ too tired” for sex. I let because I had plans, and started to feel weird. He texted me “ How was breakfast” like an hour ago, but now I just feel weird.

It sounds like you’re acting just as weird as you perceive him to be. If you cancel your date tonight, you’re confirming an reservations he had. Maybe he wasn’t really ready for sex and he just went along because he was close to being ready and got caught up in the moment. Then he felt awkward I. The morning. Imagine how you’d like to be treated.

Sounds like she’s going to MeToo him in about six months.

You can argue that it’s overblown but that fear is animating many men these days even otherwise liberal ones. I’ve been a Democrat for 15 years and I still follow the Pence rule.

OP here. No MeTOO move for me. I’m a conservative. I’m not a feminist.

For a conservative, you're way too concerned with whether a guy wants to have sex with you, and not enough with whether he actually feels anything for you, and whether having sex with you means anything.

I agree. Some sexual abuse victims see sex as a means to get men to like them and combat their low self-esteme. To me it sounds like OP might have that kind of personality where she expected him to like her more because she slept with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. He could have a girlfriend, but he’s not married. We hung out twice at his place, and I stayed the night at his place. I agree it was a little wrong to say that, but oh well. I was a little tipsy ( rarely drink), and I don’t sleep around, but I understand it’s hard for him to know that. He’s not religious or anything. He also has been very touchy since our first date. I did make a move after he laughed, but it’s not like I forced him. He’s the one that wanted to move from the couch to his bed, and we had sex multiple times last night. He kissed me this morning, but it was quick, and said he was “ too tired” for sex. I let because I had plans, and started to feel weird. He texted me “ How was breakfast” like an hour ago, but now I just feel weird.

It sounds like you’re acting just as weird as you perceive him to be. If you cancel your date tonight, you’re confirming an reservations he had. Maybe he wasn’t really ready for sex and he just went along because he was close to being ready and got caught up in the moment. Then he felt awkward I. The morning. Imagine how you’d like to be treated.

Sounds like she’s going to MeToo him in about six months.

You can argue that it’s overblown but that fear is animating many men these days even otherwise liberal ones. I’ve been a Democrat for 15 years and I still follow the Pence rule.

OP here. No MeTOO move for me. I’m a conservative. I’m not a feminist.

For a conservative, you're way too concerned with whether a guy wants to have sex with you, and not enough with whether he actually feels anything for you, and whether having sex with you means anything.

I agree. Some sexual abuse victims see sex as a means to get men to like them and combat their low self-esteme. To me it sounds like OP might have that kind of personality where she expected him to like her more because she slept with him.

OP here. Not at all. I’ve never been with a guy who didn’t make the first move, or want as much sex as possible. I don’t have low self-esteem. I love sex and wanted to have sex with him. I just wasn’t expecting that I would have to make the first move.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he was turned on so said yes but in hindsight is grossed out by you being conservative. Any woman (or person for that matter) who says she’s not a feminist is woefully ignorant about what feminism is. Maybe he doesn’t want to be with a woman who doesn’t think she should have the same opportunities as any human. I mean, that’s strangely self loathing and hateful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. He could have a girlfriend, but he’s not married. We hung out twice at his place, and I stayed the night at his place. I agree it was a little wrong to say that, but oh well. I was a little tipsy ( rarely drink), and I don’t sleep around, but I understand it’s hard for him to know that. He’s not religious or anything. He also has been very touchy since our first date. I did make a move after he laughed, but it’s not like I forced him. He’s the one that wanted to move from the couch to his bed, and we had sex multiple times last night. He kissed me this morning, but it was quick, and said he was “ too tired” for sex. I let because I had plans, and started to feel weird. He texted me “ How was breakfast” like an hour ago, but now I just feel weird.

It sounds like you’re acting just as weird as you perceive him to be. If you cancel your date tonight, you’re confirming an reservations he had. Maybe he wasn’t really ready for sex and he just went along because he was close to being ready and got caught up in the moment. Then he felt awkward I. The morning. Imagine how you’d like to be treated.

Sounds like she’s going to MeToo him in about six months.

You can argue that it’s overblown but that fear is animating many men these days even otherwise liberal ones. I’ve been a Democrat for 15 years and I still follow the Pence rule.

OP here. No MeTOO move for me. I’m a conservative. I’m not a feminist.

For a conservative, you're way too concerned with whether a guy wants to have sex with you, and not enough with whether he actually feels anything for you, and whether having sex with you means anything.

I agree. Some sexual abuse victims see sex as a means to get men to like them and combat their low self-esteme. To me it sounds like OP might have that kind of personality where she expected him to like her more because she slept with him.

OP here. Not at all. I’ve never been with a guy who didn’t make the first move, or want as much sex as possible. I don’t have low self-esteem. I love sex and wanted to have sex with him. I just wasn’t expecting that I would have to make the first move.

You wouldn't have had to if he was into you, honestly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe he was turned on so said yes but in hindsight is grossed out by you being conservative. Any woman (or person for that matter) who says she’s not a feminist is woefully ignorant about what feminism is. Maybe he doesn’t want to be with a woman who doesn’t think she should have the same opportunities as any human. I mean, that’s strangely self loathing and hateful.

No, that's not it. He isn't into it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe he was turned on so said yes but in hindsight is grossed out by you being conservative. Any woman (or person for that matter) who says she’s not a feminist is woefully ignorant about what feminism is. Maybe he doesn’t want to be with a woman who doesn’t think she should have the same opportunities as any human. I mean, that’s strangely self loathing and hateful.

No, that's not it. He isn't into it.

Lol you found a real winner. Y’all will make a lovey 1950s couple. Make sure you ask him who he’s voting for before you go to the polls.

[Anonymous]

You had sex 3 times and then we’re begging for more in the morning? Have you ever heard of “hard to get”?

[Anonymous]

If you are a self described conservative OP, he may be really really confused right now. Probably not what he expected, and it doesn't sound like you are compatible. Also, he may just be exhausted.