I’m 33 and just started dating a 47 yo

[Anonymous]

Good idea or not? I’m divorced with a 4yo and 6yo, he has a 13yo and a 16yo (!). I didn’t expect to be so keen on a guy that much older, but I am. He’s gorgeous, extremely fit, fun, funny, smart - we get on really well. What’s the long term outlook if you’ve BTDT?

[Anonymous]

He's only dating you because you both have kids and baggage.

[Anonymous]

My parents were 20 years apart. No big deal.

[Anonymous]

why tf are you asking a bunch of strangers like wtf

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t do it, but you do you?

Also, are you really going to break up with your BF based on anon responses online? I don’t understand what you’re trying to get out of asking the question.

[Anonymous]

Pretend like there is no internet and no DCUM and you had to decide on your own. Whatever you come up with, do that.

Of course, now that I think about it, what some people used to do is ask all their friends, coworkers, and relatives what they should do. I guess you could do that too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good idea or not? I’m divorced with a 4yo and 6yo, he has a 13yo and a 16yo (!). I didn’t expect to be so keen on a guy that much older, but I am. He’s gorgeous, extremely fit, fun, funny, smart - we get on really well. What’s the long term outlook if you’ve BTDT?

ED, Chronic Illness, Perhaps a pension if you marry well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t do it, but you do you?

Also, are you really going to break up with your BF based on anon responses online? I don’t understand what you’re trying to get out of asking the question.

Just curious about people with experience with this (or similar) age gap.

[Anonymous]

Why on earth would you ask DCUM this question.

The answers from women will be no, unless those women are dating much older men.

Men will encourage you.

End of thread.

[Anonymous]

I have two good friends who married "old" men. They are pampered and loved. The men really take great care of them. It has made me reconsider my own biases.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have two good friends who married "old" men. They are pampered and loved. The men really take great care of them. It has made me reconsider my own biases.

I am 32 and my husband is 49. This is my experience as well. He dotes on me more than any man around my age ever did. Who knows what the future holds but the “now” is really good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My parents were 20 years apart. No big deal.

Np. I don't think you are the authority on your parents' relationship. It is natural you think that it is "no big deal' but have you asked them about the challenges? Let me guesd mom was 20 yrs younger. Think about it at sge 20 your spouse is born. That is creepy. Sorry!

Op, you are young with kids and divorced? I would focus on fun e kids and less on the old man
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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good idea or not? I’m divorced with a 4yo and 6yo, he has a 13yo and a 16yo (!). I didn’t expect to be so keen on a guy that much older, but I am. He’s gorgeous, extremely fit, fun, funny, smart - we get on really well. What’s the long term outlook if you’ve BTDT?

Ian ru. On behalf of the others, thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Good idea or not? I’m divorced with a 4yo and 6yo, he has a 13yo and a 16yo (!). I didn’t expect to be so keen on a guy that much older, but I am. He’s gorgeous, extremely fit, fun, funny, smart - we get on really well. What’s the long term outlook if you’ve BTDT?

Ian ru. On behalf of the others, thank you.

That should say I am 47. On behalf of my age cohort, thank you.

[Anonymous]

It's really great until he is 55 and you are 40 and don't get me started about 60 and 45 or 65 and 50.