I’m 33 and just started dating a 47 yo

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Anonymous wrote:It's really great until he is 55 and you are 40 and don't get me started about 60 and 45 or 65 and 50.

I'm 55, have visible abs, bench 300#, and have a very high libido. I don't have to settle for 40 or over.

Funny. I was at the pool and a dude flexed and said guess my age. I said 60? He was 57, "6-pack abs" but damn bitch, the skin and the chicken legs and the hair... You think u look 40ish...nah. That's men's ability to be delusional about how they really look.

Enjoy your tick rock the clock is ticking date. It amazing what women will settle for when they want a baby.

I didn't say I think I look 40-ish. I don't think that at all.

I do know that I have a better physique than my 30-something coworkers (who are all skinnyfat) let alone the guys my age who are total wrecks. That's obvious even without anyone taking their clothes off.

I'm not dating women who want babies so your final comment is way off base. Are you one of these bitter old women who can't stand it that some men can date younger, and thus feel compelled to attack the women who choose those men?

In your head. You don't look better than a 30 something even an overweight one. I guess there are some incels you look better than, congrats. [You have no idea what you're talking about. You haven't seen me, or my coworkers, so you can't make that judgment. You're just shrieking insults because you got nothing. Sad!]

I'm not bitter or old, I'm just sick of old men not staying in their lane. Listen, I'm glad your healthy... say, I try to stay healthy. [I'm sick of bitter old women telling me to "stay in my lane". It's not for you to tell me what my lane is. If I can date 20- and 30-something women, then that's my lane, whether you like it or not.]

You seem to have very little spiritual growth in your almost 60 years, sad. [Which has what to do with the age of the women I date?]

But I have 6 pack abs and saying how much you bench is so 80's pops... do you also have a mustang? Your skin is old, your hair is old, your way of thinking is old, your vision of life is old, you are old... it's fine... you are suppose to be old.... be realistic. [Again, you haven't seen me in person so you have no clue how "old" I look. I'd call this your
cri de cœur except it is the product of butthurt so cri de derriere is more like it. Or maybe cri d'une dame de chat.

"Realism" is determined in the field. If I am able to date 20- and 30-somethings, which I am, then my view of myself is realistic.]

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Almost 30 here and completely agree with you. PP might be fit but he probably has old, saggy, wrinkled skin which his 30’s coworkers do not. The idea of dating someone almost twice my age, and especially someone who pathetically compares himself to much younger men, is sickening to me. I’m sure young men would feel the same about me when I’m almost 60, which is fine.

Nah. I always stayed out of the sun, so my skin is pretty good.

You don't like older men. That's fine. But there is a significant percentage of women in their 20s and 30s who are willing to date older men. And a significant percentage that actively prefer older men. That's all that matters to me. Your opinion about it... does not matter to me.

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Almost 30 here and completely agree with you. PP might be fit but he probably has old, saggy, wrinkled skin which his 30’s coworkers do not. The idea of dating someone almost twice my age, and especially someone who pathetically compares himself to much younger men, is sickening to me. I’m sure young men would feel the same about me when I’m almost 60, which is fine.

Nah. I always stayed out of the sun, so my skin is pretty good.

You don't like older men. That's fine. But there is a significant percentage of women in their 20s and 30s who are willing to date older men. And a significant percentage that actively prefer older men. That's all that matters to me. Your opinion about it... does not matter to me.

No significant percentage. You can say significant number because 1% is a large number, low percentage.

It's fine... but all the 20's and 30's you creep out in the process... the other 99% that you hit on and they turn you down.

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Anonymous wrote:It's really great until he is 55 and you are 40 and don't get me started about 60 and 45 or 65 and 50.

I'm 55, have visible abs, bench 300#, and have a very high libido. I don't have to settle for 40 or over.

Funny. I was at the pool and a dude flexed and said guess my age. I said 60? He was 57, "6-pack abs" but damn bitch, the skin and the chicken legs and the hair... You think u look 40ish...nah. That's men's ability to be delusional about how they really look.

Enjoy your tick rock the clock is ticking date. It amazing what women will settle for when they want a baby.

I didn't say I think I look 40-ish. I don't think that at all.

I do know that I have a better physique than my 30-something coworkers (who are all skinnyfat) let alone the guys my age who are total wrecks. That's obvious even without anyone taking their clothes off.

I'm not dating women who want babies so your final comment is way off base. Are you one of these bitter old women who can't stand it that some men can date younger, and thus feel compelled to attack the women who choose those men?

In your head. You don't look better than a 30 something even an overweight one. I guess there are some incels you look better than, congrats. [You have no idea what you're talking about. You haven't seen me, or my coworkers, so you can't make that judgment. You're just shrieking insults because you got nothing. Sad!]

I'm not bitter or old, I'm just sick of old men not staying in their lane. Listen, I'm glad your healthy... say, I try to stay healthy. [I'm sick of bitter old women telling me to "stay in my lane". It's not for you to tell me what my lane is. If I can date 20- and 30-something women, then that's my lane, whether you like it or not.]

You seem to have very little spiritual growth in your almost 60 years, sad. [Which has what to do with the age of the women I date?]

But I have 6 pack abs and saying how much you bench is so 80's pops... do you also have a mustang? Your skin is old, your hair is old, your way of thinking is old, your vision of life is old, you are old... it's fine... you are suppose to be old.... be realistic. [Again, you haven't seen me in person so you have no clue how "old" I look. I'd call this your
cri de cœur except it is the product of butthurt so cri de derriere is more like it. Or maybe cri d'une dame de chat.

"Realism" is determined in the field. If I am able to date 20- and 30-somethings, which I am, then my view of myself is realistic.]

The lady doth protest to much.

Listen dude, you found a couple sad sacks/desperate to couple chicks ... good for you, enjoy... stop acting like it's the norm. The rest of us 30-somethings want you to back down because you are old, stop hitting on us. Stay in your lane.

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Almost 30 here and completely agree with you. PP might be fit but he probably has old, saggy, wrinkled skin which his 30’s coworkers do not. The idea of dating someone almost twice my age, and especially someone who pathetically compares himself to much younger men, is sickening to me. I’m sure young men would feel the same about me when I’m almost 60, which is fine.

Nah. I always stayed out of the sun, so my skin is pretty good.

You don't like older men. That's fine. But there is a significant percentage of women in their 20s and 30s who are willing to date older men. And a significant percentage that actively prefer older men. That's all that matters to me. Your opinion about it... does not matter to me.

DP.. you must be bad at statistics. I don't think you understand what "significant percentage" means. +10 years you are looking at close to 2%. + 20 years you are looking at less than 1%. What semi-intelligent person thinks that is a "significant %"?

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I don't know what just happened to those images

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one of my besties married at these same ages. granted they were both first marriages so no kids involved.
now that she's 47 and her husband is 61, she is very concerned about his aging and health. my husband is our age and its quite interesting the different worries she has now with an older husband. i recall when they first got together how cool it seemed she was dating an established, older man. now that phase has passed and i almost feel bad for her and what the next decade or so will entail for her and their kids.

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Anonymous wrote:one of my besties married at these same ages. granted they were both first marriages so no kids involved.
now that she's 47 and her husband is 61, she is very concerned about his aging and health. my husband is our age and its quite interesting the different worries she has now with an older husband. i recall when they first got together how cool it seemed she was dating an established, older man. now that phase has passed and i almost feel bad for her and what the next decade or so will entail for her and their kids.

This was me in my 20s. I liked older men.. more mature and established. Now that I'm almost 50, I can't imagine being married to someone in their late 60s. My DH is 55, and I think that's about as old as I want to go. Retirement and old age issues are really becoming apparent.

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Almost 30 here and completely agree with you. PP might be fit but he probably has old, saggy, wrinkled skin which his 30’s coworkers do not. The idea of dating someone almost twice my age, and especially someone who pathetically compares himself to much younger men, is sickening to me. I’m sure young men would feel the same about me when I’m almost 60, which is fine.

Nah. I always stayed out of the sun, so my skin is pretty good.

You don't like older men. That's fine. But there is a significant percentage of women in their 20s and 30s who are willing to date older men. And a significant percentage that actively prefer older men. That's all that matters to me. Your opinion about it... does not matter to me.

DP.. you must be bad at statistics. I don't think you understand what "significant percentage" means. +10 years you are looking at close to 2%. + 20 years you are looking at less than 1%. What semi-intelligent person thinks that is a "significant %"?

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+1. I can see why this guy is going for younger ladies. His mental age is very low compared to his actual age, so the idiots among us would certainly go for him, especially if they’re inexperienced or damaged in some way. Heck, he could try going for teenagers but they might think he wants to kidnap them.

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My SIL (DH's sis) is 33 and married a guy who is 48. Her stepdaughters are 13 and 19. She has a 9 year old from her first marriage. We all find the relationship strange. He is closer in age to SIL's mom than he is to her. The 19 year old hates SIL, in part because SIL swings between wanting to be besties and being a parent. Although I imagine the mere 13 year age difference (so, yes, SIL is closer in age to her stepdaughter than she is to her husband) causes no small bit of resentment.

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I say gross. My dad was 17 years older than my mom. It really aged her. Find someone younger OP and with less baggage.

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Anonymous wrote:My SIL (DH's sis) is 33 and married a guy who is 48. Her stepdaughters are 13 and 19. She has a 9 year old from her first marriage. We all find the relationship strange. He is closer in age to SIL's mom than he is to her. The 19 year old hates SIL, in part because SIL swings between wanting to be besties and being a parent. Although I imagine the mere 13 year age difference (so, yes, SIL is closer in age to her stepdaughter than she is to her husband) causes no small bit of resentment.

I agree that this is not a good age gap but I doubt it’s fair to put the 19 year old’s resentment on the stepmom. The 19 year old was probably used to being a mini wife and would resent any stepmom married to her dad.

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Anonymous wrote:My SIL (DH's sis) is 33 and married a guy who is 48. Her stepdaughters are 13 and 19. She has a 9 year old from her first marriage. We all find the relationship strange. He is closer in age to SIL's mom than he is to her. The 19 year old hates SIL, in part because SIL swings between wanting to be besties and being a parent. Although I imagine the mere 13 year age difference (so, yes, SIL is closer in age to her stepdaughter than she is to her husband) causes no small bit of resentment.

I agree that this is not a good age gap but I doubt it’s fair to put the 19 year old’s resentment on the stepmom. The 19 year old was probably used to being a mini wife and would resent any stepmom married to her dad.

That is gross.

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Anonymous wrote:My SIL (DH's sis) is 33 and married a guy who is 48. Her stepdaughters are 13 and 19. She has a 9 year old from her first marriage. We all find the relationship strange. He is closer in age to SIL's mom than he is to her. The 19 year old hates SIL, in part because SIL swings between wanting to be besties and being a parent. Although I imagine the mere 13 year age difference (so, yes, SIL is closer in age to her stepdaughter than she is to her husband) causes no small bit of resentment.

I agree that this is not a good age gap but I doubt it’s fair to put the 19 year old’s resentment on the stepmom. The 19 year old was probably used to being a mini wife and would resent any stepmom married to her dad.

That is gross.

Yeah but it’s a common dynamic. Daughters don’t want anyone dating their dads, for the most part. And an oldest daughter is likely to feel more threatened by that.

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Anonymous wrote:Man here...55 yo. Good skin (no blemishes, few wrinkles as I have a dad bod), full head of hair in original color. When I am clean shaven, people think I am in my 30's. Plumbing works fine.

Down side is bad internal genetics. "Blessed" with a cancer gene which has resulted in stage 4 cancer. I also have genetically high cholesterol, which has resulted in 4 stents.

My beard comes in grey, and makes me look my age.

Oh, and I had been able to bench 200 until I blew out my shoulder.

I doubt anyone really thinks you are in your 30’s. “You look so young!” Is one of those things people say to be polite. Good on you for making it through your medical scares.

I think it is true. and by 30's, I mean late 30's. Like close to 40. But, on the inside, medically, I have the body older than my age. Heart disease, kidney disease (from cancer) and diabetes. And arthritis. Just because someone looks younger does not mean they are healthy.