I’m 33 and just started dating a 47 yo

[Anonymous]

My grandparents were 20 years apart and had a beautiful marriage by all accounts. But she was widowed in her 50s and started developing Alzheimer’s soon after. A sad end to a blissful life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My grandparents were 20 years apart and had a beautiful marriage by all accounts. But she was widowed in her 50s and started developing Alzheimer’s soon after. A sad end to a blissful life.

It's nice to imagine that was true. But I doubt you have any clue how their marriage really was.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My grandparents were 20 years apart and had a beautiful marriage by all accounts. But she was widowed in her 50s and started developing Alzheimer’s soon after. A sad end to a blissful life.

It's nice to imagine that was true. But I doubt you have any clue how their marriage really was.

Do you?

[Anonymous]

Is he divorced too or still married? Are you planning on getting your children together? How did you meet?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My grandparents were 20 years apart and had a beautiful marriage by all accounts. But she was widowed in her 50s and started developing Alzheimer’s soon after. A sad end to a blissful life.

It's nice to imagine that was true. But I doubt you have any clue how their marriage really was.

I mean, that’s my mother and her siblings’ account. If anyone outside a marriage knows what’s going on it’s going to be your (8!) kids.

[Anonymous]

What celebrity does he most resemble?

[Anonymous]

How is his stamina?

[Anonymous]

Does he take ED meds?

[Anonymous]

I think your potential relationship has the same chance as any other.

The age difference really is not significant at your age(s.)

Just keep in mind that blending families can be very challenging.

That is where I would place my concern.

Good luck to you both!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's really great until he is 55 and you are 40 and don't get me started about 60 and 45 or 65 and 50.

I'm 55, have visible abs, bench 300#, and have a very high libido. I don't have to settle for 40 or over.

[Anonymous]

It is a perfect age difference for him in that he gets a still-energetic, beautiful and youthful partner. And it is a perfect age difference for you in that it is very unlikely that he will ever leave you for a younger partner. So enjoy the next 15 years together because by the time the he is 62 the 14-year age difference between the two of you will will suddenly widen into a more prominent gap. He will be old and you will still be and feel relatively young. What happens to many women with significantly older partners is that they prematurely settle into old age as well -- retirement, older friends, slower pace of life. The good news is that you won't need tp work hard like so many women to keep up a youthful body and face as you age because you will always seem young to your older partner. Go for it and enjoy

[Anonymous]

I’m 48 and my husband is 65 and we’ve been together 17 years. He can still rock it.

[Anonymous]

I know some 70 year olds who kick ass. Heck, I know an 87 year old who travels to 20 or more countries a year and has a better memory and sharper focus than almost anyone I know. Anecdotes - yes, but so are what others are offering.

[Anonymous]

Men die earlier. Date within your age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does he take ED meds?

ED meds at that age likely mean other vascular issues. It’s not a given that a healthy man needs meds at 45, 55 or even 65.