Husband and I butting heads about grandparents

[Anonymous]

Give me your unbiased opinion. Here are all pertinent facts:
It’s been two going on three weeks since our kids grandparents have seen them.
Weekend of 7/19, we are going away with them for a weeklong family reunion.
Kids are in summer day camp every weekday up until then, and all summer.
Both weekends until the 19th are super busy for us.
Grands want the kids to come over for a couple nights before the 19th, so it would mean missing camp, which is already paid for, though that loss is negligible.


Would you have the kids miss three days of camp to visit the grands, just days before they’ll be with them for a whole week? Kids have no opinion either way. My husband and I are butting heads about this. Hope I didn’t leave out anything important.

[Anonymous]

Seems unnecessary. Set up some phone calls or have your kids write to them from camp.

[Anonymous]

I did leave out that the only inconvenience for us is driving them there one evening. It’s 30 miles, but time depends on traffic. Usually an hour.

[Anonymous]

I would not pull my kids for this. I would offer to make it happen later in the summer/early in the school year instead, but pulling kids from camp is disruptive for them.

[Anonymous]

This is beyond stupid. Don’t do it.

[Anonymous]

No, that’s inconvenient and dumb.

[Anonymous]

Definitely not. My kids haven’t seen grands since February. They have prior commitments and will be with them for a week in two weeks.

[Anonymous]

Any decision is reasonable. Since you are posting here, obviously you feel strongly.

[Anonymous]

The grandparents are also going to be at the reunion the weekend of 7/19, am I reading that right?

I would not have kids skip camp. Three weeks isn't that long - we have overseas grandparents who go much longer. As kids get older their schedules get busier, and grandparent expectations sometimes need to be readjusted.

[Anonymous]

Stop with “grands.”

[Anonymous]

I can’t imagine having the patience to entertain, let alone indulge this level of ridiculousness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can’t imagine having the patience to entertain, let alone indulge this level of ridiculousness.

This. Seriously, haven't seen them in 2 weeks? Come on.

[Anonymous]

No. My kids would not miss camp to spend time with grandparents they were going to see five or fewer days later, unless the grandparents were actively dying.

[Anonymous]

I would absolutely do this unless kids didn’t wNt to. Time with grandparents way more important than time at camp.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would absolutely do this unless kids didn’t wNt to. Time with grandparents way more important than time at camp.

Did you miss the part where the "grands" saw them 2 weeks ago, and will be on vacation with them in another two weeks?