If you married someone you don't love, why did you do it? How did it end?

[Anonymous]

So?

[Anonymous]

People still do it for cultural, religious, and financial reasons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People still do it for cultural, religious, and financial reasons.

Seriously? Does the other person know about that they are being married without being loved?
What a hell of a hell.

[Anonymous]

Marriages in history have always been about the combining of wealth and connections.

There are some who marry ( or don't marry) for financial reasons.

Love is a choice. A soul mate is a gift.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People still do it for cultural, religious, and financial reasons.

Seriously? Does the other person know about that they are being married without being loved?
What a hell of a hell.

Yes, people usually know. Not every culture marries for love. And often these non-love match marriages last longer.

[Anonymous]

Everyone else was doing it and I wanted a wedding. Divorced within two years.

[Anonymous]

I loved him at the time but for many reasons I fell out of love. Sadly it happens and ended in divorce. That is a long story made short!

[Anonymous]

I got married bc I wanted kids and he was a nice guy. Not the love of my life, not the best sex ever, but perfect timing as we both wanted to settle down. It has been 17 years and been fine/good. Occasionally I miss the passion of my younger years/lovers but not often. Good is good.

[Anonymous]

Accidentally got pregnant and thought it was the right thing to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I got married bc I wanted kids and he was a nice guy. Not the love of my life, not the best sex ever, but perfect timing as we both wanted to settle down. It has been 17 years and been fine/good. Occasionally I miss the passion of my younger years/lovers but not often. Good is good.

Same here. 10 years of marriage, 2 kids, we are very good co-parents, great friends, occasionally good lovers. Life is good although I sometimes miss the passion and wonder if I made a mistake. But I mostly consider that I want to work on my marriage and bring more love into it. And it seems doable. So for the moment no regrets

[Anonymous]

Social pressure, fear of making a mistake not getting married, fear of getting old (dumb...I was 30), fear I would not find anyone else and I was not over my ex so I did not think it mattered who I married—it was never going to be who I wanted.

It’s been the worst mistake and has been a very long time. Almost 10 years. Plan to divorce next year. It never should have happened.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I got married bc I wanted kids and he was a nice guy. Not the love of my life, not the best sex ever, but perfect timing as we both wanted to settle down. It has been 17 years and been fine/good. Occasionally I miss the passion of my younger years/lovers but not often. Good is good.

Similar story. Married 6 years, 2 kids mostly good.
I love him but not in the love of my life sort of way (although he feels that way about me). We have shared goals and a life. I'm happy with the kidde we've built together and I don't see it changing. A nice stable life. We enjoy each other's company.

[Anonymous]

I felt like I was stuck and wasn't sure where else to go. It wasn't my dream but it's been fine, just different than I hoped. If I was given a do over, I think I would risk a different path but I'm not unhappy.

[Anonymous]

Bored Larlo?

We did it for any number of reasons. Big you know what, big wallet, big fun, big choose your pick.

[Anonymous]

All those 30-year-olds who post on here bemoaning their singlehood should definitely read this thread! Don’t marry someone out of fear you’re getting old.