He’s engaged to the woman he dated after me

[Anonymous]

When we went together he wasn’t sure about marriage. That’s the main reason we broke up. Now I see on Instagram he’s engaged to her and it’s been less than a year. Mr It’s Just A Paper is engaged and there me who wanted to marry him single AF and haven’t had a decent date in months. And my birthday is in 2 weeks. Life sucks.

[Anonymous]

Console yourself by popping some popcorn and watching When Harry Met Sally. At least you’ll have a laugh for a couple of hours.

Sorry, OP. Life totally sucks sometimes.

[Anonymous]

My ex did this. They divorced within 2 years.

[Anonymous]

OP, you weren't the one


(and he wasn't the one)

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry, OP. That is so hurtful. Try to remember that if he didn't love you enough to marry you, he wasn't the right guy for you and you deserve better. Trust me, it is well worth waiting for the guy who is madly in love with you and dying to marry you. Once you experience that, and you will, you'll be so happy it didn't work out with that other dude. In the meantime, be extra kind to yourself.

[Anonymous]

This had happened to multiple women I know and me. They put a lot of work into the guy and he really just wasn’t as into them but enjoyed the status quo of living together, sex, household stuff, someone to go out with and always says he’s not interested in marriage as an institution etc. They break up after 2-4 years. Everyone is just over or just under 30 at this point. Guy realizes he does want to get married and have kids just not to that first woman. Goes on a couple dates, finds the next long term relationship and is engaged within a year of seeing her. It sucks but it is what it is.
I took longer but found a great guy who did want to get married in general and to me specifically because he loved me. Most of my other girlfriends found someone too. Just took longer than the guys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This had happened to multiple women I know and me. They put a lot of work into the guy and he really just wasn’t as into them but enjoyed the status quo of living together, sex, household stuff, someone to go out with and always says he’s not interested in marriage as an institution etc. They break up after 2-4 years. Everyone is just over or just under 30 at this point. Guy realizes he does want to get married and have kids just not to that first woman. Goes on a couple dates, finds the next long term relationship and is engaged within a year of seeing her. It sucks but it is what it is.
I took longer but found a great guy who did want to get married in general and to me specifically because he loved me. Most of my other girlfriends found someone too. Just took longer than the guys.

And this is why you don’t live with a guy before you’re engaged.

These guys found a woman who made them work for it a bit - they didn’t give the guy all the benefits of marriage with no commitment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you weren't the one


(and he wasn't the one)

This. I dated my ex, a great guy, for almost a decade, and I wasn't interested in marriage at the time. The next guy I dated seriously is now my husband. It happens, it sucks, but keep in mind that if he wasn't interested then, he wasn't the guy for you.

[Anonymous]

This story is as old as time. Happened to me, too. Doesn’t make it any less painful knowing you’re not alone— but please know you’re not alone, OP. Many of us have been there and all I can tell you is that it happened for a good reason, and you will be happy again. In the meantime, fill that sad place in your heart with good things— take care of yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This story is as old as time.

Uh, not really. That story is called "your parents pick your husband for you."

[Anonymous]

He must have turned “30” and whoever he was dring at that exact point in time, or hung around for years until he aged, gets the ring.
It’s what he told himself years ago. Silly, but true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you weren't the one


(and he wasn't the one)

Simple as this.

[Anonymous]

That is the whole point of dating. To find the person who you do want to marry.

You weren't that person for him. Likely you have dated others who weren't that person for you.

Yeah it sucks when one person thinks they found Simone but it isn't reciprocated. It isn't personal, it is dating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That is the whole point of dating. To find the person who you do want to marry.

You weren't that person for him. Likely you have dated others who weren't that person for you.

Yeah it sucks when one person thinks they found Simone but it isn't reciprocated. It isn't personal, it is dating.

Then you shouldn’t proclaim that you never want to get married.

[Anonymous]

Every pot has a lid. If I had married the first guy that asked me I would’ve been in a crappy marriage.

You can and will survive.