He’s engaged to the woman he dated after me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That is the whole point of dating. To find the person who you do want to marry.

You weren't that person for him. Likely you have dated others who weren't that person for you.

Yeah it sucks when one person thinks they found Simone but it isn't reciprocated. It isn't personal, it is dating.

Then you shouldn’t proclaim that you never want to get married.

Wait why? If anything it’s the opposite. You should absolutely tell the girl you don’t want to marry, that you don’t want to marry. Even if you really just mean “marry her.” Otherwise she will think she just needs to keep waiting.

[Anonymous]

If a man hasn't at least discussed marriage intentions after a year of dating, he isn't serious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That is the whole point of dating. To find the person who you do want to marry.

You weren't that person for him. Likely you have dated others who weren't that person for you.

Yeah it sucks when one person thinks they found Simone but it isn't reciprocated. It isn't personal, it is dating.

Then you shouldn’t proclaim that you never want to get married.

He probably didn't want to get married at that point. There are many people who didn't want to ever marry or have kids until they met that one person and the relationship made them feel differently.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When we went together he wasn’t sure about marriage. That’s the main reason we broke up. Now I see on Instagram he’s engaged to her and it’s been less than a year. Mr It’s Just A Paper is engaged and there me who wanted to marry him single AF and haven’t had a decent date in months. And my birthday is in 2 weeks. Life sucks.

It happens all the time. Don’t take it personally.

[Anonymous]

You sound like one of George Clooney's exes.

[Anonymous]

OP, this is how it works:

Women:
A man is acceptable or unacceptable

Men:
A woman is unacceptable
A woman is acceptable but I would never marry her
I would marry her in a second

Other posters are correct. The guy who dates a woman for a long time, is never going to marry her, dumps him and he winds up married to someone else within a year.

[Anonymous]

I would love to hear why men do this.

[Anonymous]

Princess Beatrice. Dated a guy for 10 years. They broke up and he was engaged the next year.

[Anonymous]

When someone tells you they’re not ready for marriage, it just means they’re not ready for marriage with you.

Most people would like to get married or eventually will. I’m sure plenty don’t, but I dare say most want this. So if someone tells you this, it’s probably a clue to move on if marriage is your end game.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would love to hear why men do this.

Men will date women they wouldn’t marry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Princess Beatrice. Dated a guy for 10 years. They broke up and he was engaged the next year.

Do you have friends? Real life experience with love and relationships? People you actually know? It’s quite sad that a grown woman’s only contribution to relationship threads involve celebrities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When we went together he wasn’t sure about marriage. That’s the main reason we broke up. Now I see on Instagram he’s engaged to her and it’s been less than a year. Mr It’s Just A Paper is engaged and there me who wanted to marry him single AF and haven’t had a decent date in months. And my birthday is in 2 weeks. Life sucks.

He’s a weak man. How do I know? The whole “I’m it ready for marriage” line he fed you. Too much of a coward, or too unaware of his own feelings, to be honest and tell you he didn’t see himself marrying you.
You don’t want to spend your life with a weak person who’s afraid of conflict and honesty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would love to hear why men do this.

Men want sex. Having a girlfriend is guaranteed sex. Keep the girlfriend get the sex. Dump the girlfriend when the right one comes along and continue to have sex.

[Anonymous]

Pp— “not ready” not “it ready”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Princess Beatrice. Dated a guy for 10 years. They broke up and he was engaged the next year.

Do you have friends? Real life experience with love and relationships? People you actually know? It’s quite sad that a grown woman’s only contribution to relationship threads involve celebrities.

That's pretty harsh. I'm not the Beatrice poster, but why would you find that sad? Nothing wrong with pointing out that someone well known has been in a situation like OP's. And it doesn't mean that that poster doesn't have friends.