He’s engaged to the woman he dated after me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He didn’t by you full stop.
It’s bit because he turned 30 .

It’s bit because you leaving him devastated him so much he quickly married the next.


He didn’t want you. Deal with it. Learn to put less value in a man so when’s one rejects you it’s not so devastating you need to tell yourself lies to cope.

He didn’t want to marry you, Maybe the next guy will.

I disagree, and I have been through this. I broke up with him, because in my heart, I knew he would not make me happy, in the long run. It devastated both of us, because we were so much in love. We probably will always think of each other as the loves of our lives - but, it was not practical for us to be together. He married the next one that came along for a few reasons: He was almost 30, and she was older (by a couple years), so she wanted to be married yesterday. She gave him some prerequisites that he had to accomplish before they married. He did not want to go through another tremendous loss, so he satisfied the prerequisites. All (all) of his closest friends were married, he had been in several of their weddings, which had an impact. He thought we were going to settle down, he was already of the mindset to settle down. When she came along, she and he were in position to get married - not necessarily to each other, but they both wanted to be married, to settle down - it was timing, along with not wanting to go through such a huge loss again.

Oh sweetheart, you can keep telling yourself this to make you feel better since you are the one who let HIM get away. But that regret you are feeling won't always be with him the way it will with you, if it exists for him at all at this point. He found a woman who WANTED him (and whom he wanted enough to CHASE (i.e., the prerequisites you mentioned required him to show that he was willing to go after her). I've no doubt that he wished for a time it was you. But you settled that matter and he moved on.
Best of luck to you as you seek to do the same.

I have it by best source possible that my post is exactly what happened. Why is it so difficult for you to accept? Are you the next one that came along, and he was going to marry you no matter what? You act like it. No need to be sorry forms, at all. If you were a nicer person, I would actually be sorry for you. Instead I will say: may you get everything you deserve. Oh, and good luck!

[Anonymous]

* for me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a guy who did this. Left girlfriends saying I wasn't ready for marriage then got engaged shortly after to someone else

How many times have you been engaged?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a guy who did this. Left girlfriends saying I wasn't ready for marriage then got engaged shortly after to someone else

How many times have you been engaged?

Once .. To my wife

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a guy who did this. Left girlfriends saying I wasn't ready for marriage then got engaged shortly after to someone else

And? How’s your post helpful?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He didn’t by you full stop.
It’s bit because he turned 30 .

It’s bit because you leaving him devastated him so much he quickly married the next.


He didn’t want you. Deal with it. Learn to put less value in a man so when’s one rejects you it’s not so devastating you need to tell yourself lies to cope.

He didn’t want to marry you, Maybe the next guy will.

I disagree, and I have been through this. I broke up with him, because in my heart, I knew he would not make me happy, in the long run. It devastated both of us, because we were so much in love. We probably will always think of each other as the loves of our lives - but, it was not practical for us to be together. He married the next one that came along for a few reasons: He was almost 30, and she was older (by a couple years), so she wanted to be married yesterday. She gave him some prerequisites that he had to accomplish before they married. He did not want to go through another tremendous loss, so he satisfied the prerequisites. All (all) of his closest friends were married, he had been in several of their weddings, which had an impact. He thought we were going to settle down, he was already of the mindset to settle down. When she came along, she and he were in position to get married - not necessarily to each other, but they both wanted to be married, to settle down - it was timing, along with not wanting to go through such a huge loss again.

Oh sweetheart, you can keep telling yourself this to make you feel better since you are the one who let HIM get away. But that regret you are feeling won't always be with him the way it will with you, if it exists for him at all at this point. He found a woman who WANTED him (and whom he wanted enough to CHASE (i.e., the prerequisites you mentioned required him to show that he was willing to go after her). I've no doubt that he wished for a time it was you. But you settled that matter and he moved on.
Best of luck to you as you seek to do the same.

I have it by best source possible that my post is exactly what happened. Why is it so difficult for you to accept? Are you the next one that came along, and he was going to marry you no matter what? You act like it. No need to be sorry forms, at all. If you were a nicer person, I would actually be sorry for you. Instead I will say: may you get everything you deserve. Oh, and good luck!

NP here. Is your source your ex?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a guy who did this. Left girlfriends saying I wasn't ready for marriage then got engaged shortly after to someone else

And? How’s your post helpful?

To help her know there was nothing wrong with her. The timing just didn't work out

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He didn’t by you full stop.
It’s bit because he turned 30 .

It’s bit because you leaving him devastated him so much he quickly married the next.


He didn’t want you. Deal with it. Learn to put less value in a man so when’s one rejects you it’s not so devastating you need to tell yourself lies to cope.

He didn’t want to marry you, Maybe the next guy will.

I disagree, and I have been through this. I broke up with him, because in my heart, I knew he would not make me happy, in the long run. It devastated both of us, because we were so much in love. We probably will always think of each other as the loves of our lives - but, it was not practical for us to be together. He married the next one that came along for a few reasons: He was almost 30, and she was older (by a couple years), so she wanted to be married yesterday. She gave him some prerequisites that he had to accomplish before they married. He did not want to go through another tremendous loss, so he satisfied the prerequisites. All (all) of his closest friends were married, he had been in several of their weddings, which had an impact. He thought we were going to settle down, he was already of the mindset to settle down. When she came along, she and he were in position to get married - not necessarily to each other, but they both wanted to be married, to settle down - it was timing, along with not wanting to go through such a huge loss again.

I will answer if it is not the hostile PP, because that one is ridiculous - and angry!

I know from ex and from mutual friends and him. We both acknowledge it, and are at peace with it, to PPs utter dismay. He is married to a much more practical choice (actually we both are), and that is okay. PP being so upset about it is hilarious! PP sounds like she has either never dated, hates men, they hate her (I can see why), or all of the above.

Oh sweetheart, you can keep telling yourself this to make you feel better since you are the one who let HIM get away. But that regret you are feeling won't always be with him the way it will with you, if it exists for him at all at this point. He found a woman who WANTED him (and whom he wanted enough to CHASE (i.e., the prerequisites you mentioned required him to show that he was willing to go after her). I've no doubt that he wished for a time it was you. But you settled that matter and he moved on.
Best of luck to you as you seek to do the same.

I have it by best source possible that my post is exactly what happened. Why is it so difficult for you to accept? Are you the next one that came along, and he was going to marry you no matter what? You act like it. No need to be sorry forms, at all. If you were a nicer person, I would actually be sorry for you. Instead I will say: may you get everything you deserve. Oh, and good luck!

NP here. Is your source your ex?

[Anonymous]

I don't know why so many are being so unnecessarily harsh. No one knows why OP's ex got engaged; it could be one or more of many reasons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He didn’t by you full stop.
It’s bit because he turned 30 .

It’s bit because you leaving him devastated him so much he quickly married the next.


He didn’t want you. Deal with it. Learn to put less value in a man so when’s one rejects you it’s not so devastating you need to tell yourself lies to cope.

He didn’t want to marry you, Maybe the next guy will.

I disagree, and I have been through this. I broke up with him, because in my heart, I knew he would not make me happy, in the long run. It devastated both of us, because we were so much in love. We probably will always think of each other as the loves of our lives - but, it was not practical for us to be together. He married the next one that came along for a few reasons: He was almost 30, and she was older (by a couple years), so she wanted to be married yesterday. She gave him some prerequisites that he had to accomplish before they married. He did not want to go through another tremendous loss, so he satisfied the prerequisites. All (all) of his closest friends were married, he had been in several of their weddings, which had an impact. He thought we were going to settle down, he was already of the mindset to settle down. When she came along, she and he were in position to get married - not necessarily to each other, but they both wanted to be married, to settle down - it was timing, along with not wanting to go through such a huge loss again.

I will answer if it is not the hostile PP, because that one is ridiculous - and angry!

I know from ex and from mutual friends and him. We both acknowledge it, and are at peace with it, to PPs utter dismay. He is married to a much more practical choice (actually we both are), and that is okay. PP being so upset about it is hilarious! PP sounds like she has either never dated, hates men, they hate her (I can see why), or all of the above.

Oh sweetheart, you can keep telling yourself this to make you feel better since you are the one who let HIM get away. But that regret you are feeling won't always be with him the way it will with you, if it exists for him at all at this point. He found a woman who WANTED him (and whom he wanted enough to CHASE (i.e., the prerequisites you mentioned required him to show that he was willing to go after her). I've no doubt that he wished for a time it was you. But you settled that matter and he moved on.
Best of luck to you as you seek to do the same.

I have it by best source possible that my post is exactly what happened. Why is it so difficult for you to accept? Are you the next one that came along, and he was going to marry you no matter what? You act like it. No need to be sorry forms, at all. If you were a nicer person, I would actually be sorry for you. Instead I will say: may you get everything you deserve. Oh, and good luck!

NP here. Is your source your ex?

Oops see third section above. ^^^

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t want to be the next one that came along, OP. She could have been anyone, as far as your ex is concerned.

I told my ex he was going to marry the next one and he actually admitted: “you are darn right I will!” I think it is quite common, to avoid more heartbreak.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a guy who did this. Left girlfriends saying I wasn't ready for marriage then got engaged shortly after to someone else

Why did you do this?
Did you really not believe in marriage until you met the woman you got engaged to?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every pot has a lid. If I had married the first guy that asked me I would’ve been in a crappy marriage.

You can and will survive.

Like other PPs have said- it’s all about timing, age, heartbreak, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Every pot has a lid. If I had married the first guy that asked me I would’ve been in a crappy marriage.

You can and will survive.

Like other PPs have said- it’s all about timing, age, heartbreak, etc.

Or finding the right person for you. Him not wanting to marry you doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He didn’t by you full stop.
It’s bit because he turned 30 .

It’s bit because you leaving him devastated him so much he quickly married the next.


He didn’t want you. Deal with it. Learn to put less value in a man so when’s one rejects you it’s not so devastating you need to tell yourself lies to cope.

He didn’t want to marry you, Maybe the next guy will.

I disagree, and I have been through this. I broke up with him, because in my heart, I knew he would not make me happy, in the long run. It devastated both of us, because we were so much in love. We probably will always think of each other as the loves of our lives - but, it was not practical for us to be together. He married the next one that came along for a few reasons: He was almost 30, and she was older (by a couple years), so she wanted to be married yesterday. She gave him some prerequisites that he had to accomplish before they married. He did not want to go through another tremendous loss, so he satisfied the prerequisites. All (all) of his closest friends were married, he had been in several of their weddings, which had an impact. He thought we were going to settle down, he was already of the mindset to settle down. When she came along, she and he were in position to get married - not necessarily to each other, but they both wanted to be married, to settle down - it was timing, along with not wanting to go through such a huge loss again.

Oh sweetheart, you can keep telling yourself this to make you feel better since you are the one who let HIM get away. But that regret you are feeling won't always be with him the way it will with you, if it exists for him at all at this point. He found a woman who WANTED him (and whom he wanted enough to CHASE (i.e., the prerequisites you mentioned required him to show that he was willing to go after her). I've no doubt that he wished for a time it was you. But you settled that matter and he moved on.
Best of luck to you as you seek to do the same.

I have it by best source possible that my post is exactly what happened. Why is it so difficult for you to accept? Are you the next one that came along, and he was going to marry you no matter what? You act like it. No need to be sorry forms, at all. If you were a nicer person, I would actually be sorry for you. Instead I will say: may you get everything you deserve. Oh, and good luck!

My god! You are you full of yourself. Your ex and friend are lying to you to spare your feelings. Pp is right if he wanted to marry you he would have. That’s not mean that’s reality.