Husband made plans without me Thanksgiving morning

[Anonymous]

He can't figure out why I'm so mad. We always do something together - go for a walk, hike, etc. Last night I saw an area bike ride with a whole bunch of folks Thanksgiving morning and asked if he'd be interested. No, he said because he's already playing golf that morning with a group of folks. I knew nothing about this, and I'm really pissed. If I tried to pull something like this heads would roll and I would never hear the end of it. I get "shouldn't we have talked about this" for waaaaay less than a holiday morning. But it's a holiday and he's choosing to spend the whole morning off doing something without me. While I get dinner ready for his friends we're hosting, but that's a different story.

How bad is this? How would you deal with this?? It's not like I can tell him not to go, but damn, this really hurt my feelings, but it seems my feelings don't matter.

[Anonymous]

Stop whining. Grow up.

[Anonymous]

I'd just go do the area bike ride with a friend. You do your thing, he does his thing, and you both meet up later. No big deal.

[Anonymous]

Tell him you're doing X and Y that day but if he expects Z and Q he needs to stay home and help cook/set the table, etc.

WTF? Do you literally do all the work for Thanksgiving, for HIS friends? If so, you have bigger problems than a damn bike ride.

[Anonymous]

I would tell him you have plans that morning as well, so he will need to figure out where to order a Thanksgiving meal and when he’s going to pick it up.

[Anonymous]

Do you not get enough time together usually?

[Anonymous]

Read him the riot act, then schedule something for yourself and don't lift a finger cooking that day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would tell him you have plans that morning as well, so he will need to figure out where to order a Thanksgiving meal and when he’s going to pick it up.

Exactly this.

[Anonymous]

It would hurt me if my dh made plans on a FAMILY holiday without me. I'd at least cuss his a$$ out and make him cancel.

[Anonymous]

I agree with the people telling you to go do your bike ride and tell your husband to handle dinner for HIS friends (unless he’s picked up the slack for you under similar circumstances in the past.) If he doesn’t want to do that then you BOTH stay home and cook dinner/ready the house for guests. You could also tell the friends it’s potluck and start making assignments.

[Anonymous]

You’re being unreasonable. Get a grip and stop being so controlling. It’s not like his plans interfere with going to grandma’s.

[Anonymous]

Most guys do something that mirn

[Anonymous]

Most guys do something like a run, football or golf that morning.

I think you are overreacting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most guys do something that mirn

What I believe you are trying so eloquently to say is that we need to go back to the 1950s and she should just be happy he isn't underfoot while she spends the day in the kitchen.

[Anonymous]

Are you sure he isn't visiting his other family?