Husband made plans without me Thanksgiving morning

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Anonymous wrote:If it weren't for women there would be no thanksgiving huge meals. Men wouldn't know their grandparents . Men would be fine with it. This kind of thread is why men die 10 years younger than women. The institutional drama is damaging.

This is total BS. There would be Sunday football and they would see family more often. They would be fine with a beer and a pizza. Family gatherings don't have to be family drama, it's just women make up some Norman Rockwell imagine in their head.

Women make things so complicated.

Oh, please. What is there not to love about turkey, mashed potatoes, stuffing, gravy, mac & cheese, green beans w/bacon, pumpkin pie and other delicious treats?

And you get to eat this wonderful food while watching t.v., drinking beer and/or sipping on a glass of wine. How good is that?

Sounds like a food coma to me...and don't act like you only eat like that one day a year.

I just finished a meal of leftover brussels sprouts and chicken breast. It was the first food I'd had since Sunday evening and it tasted darned good. I will be cooking and looking very much forward to Thanksgiving. Love, love turkey day. Yum.

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Anonymous wrote:I didn't read every PP, but how long have you been married?

I really don't see the big deal about this, but then again I have hosted DH's family for TG for the past 23 years.. He's fee to do whatever he wants in the morning.

My advice is to ease up and learn to relax about it. Otherwise I don't see a long marriage in your future.

You sound like a 1950s doormat. But if that keeps your marriage happy, I’m sure your DH loves it!

Enough with the 1950s doormat stuff. Just because you don’t boss around your husband and keep a scoreboard of chores on the refrigerator doesn’t make you a doormat. You seem to be the only dolt who can’t understand this.

If you marry well, you don’t need to boss someone around or keep a chart; your DH acts like a responsible adult and does his share. It’s sad when women come on here and expect it’s one extreme or the other. Maybe marry better with #2, cupcake.

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Anonymous wrote:If it weren't for women there would be no thanksgiving huge meals. Men wouldn't know their grandparents . Men would be fine with it. This kind of thread is why men die 10 years younger than women. The institutional drama is damaging.

This is total BS. There would be Sunday football and they would see family more often. They would be fine with a beer and a pizza. Family gatherings don't have to be family drama, it's just women make up some Norman Rockwell imagine in their head.

Women make things so complicated.

Oh, please. What is there not to love about turkey, mashed potatoes, stuffing, gravy, mac & cheese, green beans w/bacon, pumpkin pie and other delicious treats?

And you get to eat this wonderful food while watching t.v., drinking beer and/or sipping on a glass of wine. How good is that?

Nothing is wrong with that or any other Thank giving dinner menu. It's not really that complicated either, especially if you are not a martyr ... assign guests a dish, make a few the day before and relax.

It's not like she didn't think she could go for a hike the morning of the dinner, she is just pissed her H is doing something without her. #princessAlert

Call me a princess, too, because I would be really disappointed in dh if he just upped and ditched me and the kids to go golfing with his buddies on the holidays and then expected to be served a feast when they all got back to our house. I think I might be tempted to tell him where he could stick those golf clubs as a matter of fact

Every time you have friends over for dinner your H isn't allowed to do anything else all day except prepare?

Nobody said he can't help when he gets home, set up the bar the night before, etc.

Huh? We were talking very specifically about a *Holiday*. Yes, I expect my husband to spend time with me and the kids on a holiday. If he made other plans w/o even discussing them with me I would be upset.

If you and your own spouse do your own thing on holidays and meet up for meals, good for you. That's not how we do things in our house.

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Guys - it’s 2018. Men don’t just waltz out of the house to golf with their buddies while their wife and kids stay home preparing Thanksgiving Dinner for *their* friends! My God, have we gotten anywhere in this country?!

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Anonymous wrote:Guys - it’s 2018. Men don’t just waltz out of the house to golf with their buddies while their wife and kids stay home preparing Thanksgiving Dinner for *their* friends! My God, have we gotten anywhere in this country?!

eh, my dad always helped my mom with the cooking when I was a kid and they were pretty traditional people. This business of a man ditching his family to do his own thing on Thanksgiving is both foreign and sad to me.

Maybe that flies in some families but it isn't anything that I've ever dealt with.

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Anonymous wrote:Guys - it’s 2018. Men don’t just waltz out of the house to golf with their buddies while their wife and kids stay home preparing Thanksgiving Dinner for *their* friends! My God, have we gotten anywhere in this country?!

eh, my dad always helped my mom with the cooking when I was a kid and they were pretty traditional people. This business of a man ditching his family to do his own thing on Thanksgiving is both foreign and sad to me.

Maybe that flies in some families but it isn't anything that I've ever dealt with.

My H helps with all the cooking and plays football every thanksgiving morning.

Why does it take all day to make dinner? Why can't you make some things the night before with your H?

Pretty much all you do once the Turkey is in is baste it? How do you need all hands on deck for that?

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Anonymous wrote:If it weren't for women there would be no thanksgiving huge meals. Men wouldn't know their grandparents . Men would be fine with it. This kind of thread is why men die 10 years younger than women. The institutional drama is damaging.

This is total BS. There would be Sunday football and they would see family more often. They would be fine with a beer and a pizza. Family gatherings don't have to be family drama, it's just women make up some Norman Rockwell imagine in their head.

Women make things so complicated.

Oh, please. What is there not to love about turkey, mashed potatoes, stuffing, gravy, mac & cheese, green beans w/bacon, pumpkin pie and other delicious treats?

And you get to eat this wonderful food while watching t.v., drinking beer and/or sipping on a glass of wine. How good is that?

Nothing is wrong with that or any other Thank giving dinner menu. It's not really that complicated either, especially if you are not a martyr ... assign guests a dish, make a few the day before and relax.

It's not like she didn't think she could go for a hike the morning of the dinner, she is just pissed her H is doing something without her. #princessAlert

Call me a princess, too, because I would be really disappointed in dh if he just upped and ditched me and the kids to go golfing with his buddies on the holidays and then expected to be served a feast when they all got back to our house. I think I might be tempted to tell him where he could stick those golf clubs as a matter of fact

Every time you have friends over for dinner your H isn't allowed to do anything else all day except prepare?

Nobody said he can't help when he gets home, set up the bar the night before, etc.

Huh? We were talking very specifically about a *Holiday*. Yes, I expect my husband to spend time with me and the kids on a holiday. If he made other plans w/o even discussing them with me I would be upset.

If you and your own spouse do your own thing on holidays and meet up for meals, good for you. That's not how we do things in our house.

every family I know goes to a 5K or plays football in the morning. It's bizarre to me that you need everybody at the house at 10 am "together",

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I think women should embrace that it's 2018 and drop the whole big event deal.

It will lengthen everybodies lives.

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Dayyyyummmm this thread deteriorated quickly

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Anonymous wrote:Guys - it’s 2018. Men don’t just waltz out of the house to golf with their buddies while their wife and kids stay home preparing Thanksgiving Dinner for *their* friends! My God, have we gotten anywhere in this country?!

eh, my dad always helped my mom with the cooking when I was a kid and they were pretty traditional people. This business of a man ditching his family to do his own thing on Thanksgiving is both foreign and sad to me.

Maybe that flies in some families but it isn't anything that I've ever dealt with.

My H helps with all the cooking and plays football every thanksgiving morning.

Why does it take all day to make dinner? Why can't you make some things the night before with your H?

Pretty much all you do once the Turkey is in is baste it? How do you need all hands on deck for that?

Well...it sounds as though you and your husband have agreed that he plays football on Thanksgiving morning. If your good with it that's what matter.

You might, however, have an issue if your husband casually mentioned to you that he and the guys were going to be going to the bar to watch football and eat chicken wings, instead of coming home to eat Thanksgiving dinner with his wife and kids. I suppose it could be argued that there will be plenty of leftovers so it's not like he won't be eating the food at some point.

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Anonymous wrote:If it weren't for women there would be no thanksgiving huge meals. Men wouldn't know their grandparents . Men would be fine with it. This kind of thread is why men die 10 years younger than women. The institutional drama is damaging.

This is total BS. There would be Sunday football and they would see family more often. They would be fine with a beer and a pizza. Family gatherings don't have to be family drama, it's just women make up some Norman Rockwell imagine in their head.

Women make things so complicated.

Oh, please. What is there not to love about turkey, mashed potatoes, stuffing, gravy, mac & cheese, green beans w/bacon, pumpkin pie and other delicious treats?

And you get to eat this wonderful food while watching t.v., drinking beer and/or sipping on a glass of wine. How good is that?

Nothing is wrong with that or any other Thank giving dinner menu. It's not really that complicated either, especially if you are not a martyr ... assign guests a dish, make a few the day before and relax.

It's not like she didn't think she could go for a hike the morning of the dinner, she is just pissed her H is doing something without her. #princessAlert

Call me a princess, too, because I would be really disappointed in dh if he just upped and ditched me and the kids to go golfing with his buddies on the holidays and then expected to be served a feast when they all got back to our house. I think I might be tempted to tell him where he could stick those golf clubs as a matter of fact

Every time you have friends over for dinner your H isn't allowed to do anything else all day except prepare?

Nobody said he can't help when he gets home, set up the bar the night before, etc.

Huh? We were talking very specifically about a *Holiday*. Yes, I expect my husband to spend time with me and the kids on a holiday. If he made other plans w/o even discussing them with me I would be upset.

If you and your own spouse do your own thing on holidays and meet up for meals, good for you. That's not how we do things in our house.

every family I know goes to a 5K or plays football in the morning. It's bizarre to me that you need everybody at the house at 10 am "together",

If your family runs a 5K every Thanksgiving morning or takes a bike ride or sits at home watching the Macy's Thanksgiving Day parade together with the grandparents....that is all fine. Whatever your family tradition is - do it.

Back when I was growing up in the 70's we pretty much all hung out at home watching the parade on t.v., helping with food prep, playing games. We do the same sort of thing now. I wouldn't necessarily be opposed to doing a 5K but that is something I do pretty much every day anyway. Thanksgiving is I cook, hang out with my family, cook and watch football. That's how we do it. Don't like what we do? Fine. Do your own thing as a family.

[Anonymous]

The fact that OP’s DH is going out golfing isn’t a big deal. The big deal is that OP was never on board with it, which could be a bigger part of the problem

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guys - it’s 2018. Men don’t just waltz out of the house to golf with their buddies while their wife and kids stay home preparing Thanksgiving Dinner for *their* friends! My God, have we gotten anywhere in this country?!

eh, my dad always helped my mom with the cooking when I was a kid and they were pretty traditional people. This business of a man ditching his family to do his own thing on Thanksgiving is both foreign and sad to me.

Maybe that flies in some families but it isn't anything that I've ever dealt with.

My H helps with all the cooking and plays football every thanksgiving morning.

Why does it take all day to make dinner? Why can't you make some things the night before with your H?

Pretty much all you do once the Turkey is in is baste it? How do you need all hands on deck for that?

Well...it sounds as though you and your husband have agreed that he plays football on Thanksgiving morning. If your good with it that's what matter.

You might, however, have an issue if your husband casually mentioned to you that he and the guys were going to be going to the bar to watch football and eat chicken wings, instead of coming home to eat Thanksgiving dinner with his wife and kids. I suppose it could be argued that there will be plenty of leftovers so it's not like he won't be eating the food at some point.

The thread has officially jumped the shark.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:If it weren't for women there would be no thanksgiving huge meals. Men wouldn't know their grandparents . Men would be fine with it. This kind of thread is why men die 10 years younger than women. The institutional drama is damaging.

This is total BS. There would be Sunday football and they would see family more often. They would be fine with a beer and a pizza. Family gatherings don't have to be family drama, it's just women make up some Norman Rockwell imagine in their head.

Women make things so complicated.

Oh, please. What is there not to love about turkey, mashed potatoes, stuffing, gravy, mac & cheese, green beans w/bacon, pumpkin pie and other delicious treats?

And you get to eat this wonderful food while watching t.v., drinking beer and/or sipping on a glass of wine. How good is that?

Sounds like a food coma to me...and don't act like you only eat like that one day a year.

NP.
You’re an idiot. Every single person in this country lives for the sleepy effect of turkey. That’s exactly what thanksgiving is about. Eating until you’re so stuffed you roll yourself away from the table. It’s a FEAST!

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Anonymous wrote:If it weren't for women there would be no thanksgiving huge meals. Men wouldn't know their grandparents . Men would be fine with it. This kind of thread is why men die 10 years younger than women. The institutional drama is damaging.

This is total BS. There would be Sunday football and they would see family more often. They would be fine with a beer and a pizza. Family gatherings don't have to be family drama, it's just women make up some Norman Rockwell imagine in their head.

Women make things so complicated.

Oh, please. What is there not to love about turkey, mashed potatoes, stuffing, gravy, mac & cheese, green beans w/bacon, pumpkin pie and other delicious treats?

And you get to eat this wonderful food while watching t.v., drinking beer and/or sipping on a glass of wine. How good is that?

Nothing is wrong with that or any other Thank giving dinner menu. It's not really that complicated either, especially if you are not a martyr ... assign guests a dish, make a few the day before and relax.

It's not like she didn't think she could go for a hike the morning of the dinner, she is just pissed her H is doing something without her. #princessAlert

Call me a princess, too, because I would be really disappointed in dh if he just upped and ditched me and the kids to go golfing with his buddies on the holidays and then expected to be served a feast when they all got back to our house. I think I might be tempted to tell him where he could stick those golf clubs as a matter of fact

Every time you have friends over for dinner your H isn't allowed to do anything else all day except prepare?

Nobody said he can't help when he gets home, set up the bar the night before, etc.

Huh? We were talking very specifically about a *Holiday*. Yes, I expect my husband to spend time with me and the kids on a holiday. If he made other plans w/o even discussing them with me I would be upset.

If you and your own spouse do your own thing on holidays and meet up for meals, good for you. That's not how we do things in our house.

every family I know goes to a 5K or plays football in the morning. It's bizarre to me that you need everybody at the house at 10 am "together",

If your family runs a 5K every Thanksgiving morning or takes a bike ride or sits at home watching the Macy's Thanksgiving Day parade together with the grandparents....that is all fine. Whatever your family tradition is - do it.

Back when I was growing up in the 70's we pretty much all hung out at home watching the parade on t.v., helping with food prep, playing games. We do the same sort of thing now. I wouldn't necessarily be opposed to doing a 5K but that is something I do pretty much every day anyway. Thanksgiving is I cook, hang out with my family, cook and watch football. That's how we do it. Don't like what we do? Fine. Do your own thing as a family.

Since this was your family tradition your H is held hostage to do exactly what you did as a child? What about his traditions or desires?

Trying to repeat your childhood for your children is the highest for of narcissism.

Let your H have some say in his life and stop controlling every moment to fullfil your delusional idea of perfect.