Is my co-worker flirting with me?

[Anonymous]

A co-worker has said a few things to me in recent months that have me wondering if he's flirting. I would find it very hard to believe, but... here are a couple of examples:

1) We were working on a very demanding project, and were trading emails over the weekend (exclusively work related). I mentioned that I looked forward to a weekend soon when I didn't have to work. He said, "Yeah I agree. I think we’ll normalize soon. I owe you lunch… and dinner… and breakfast… and whatever else it is you want."

2) We recently spoke on the phone after not interacting for a couple of weeks, and when we were saying our goodbyes, he said something like, "It's good to hear your voice." I wasn't sure what to say so I said, "likewise" and then he kind of giggled. I said "talk to you later" and hung up.

It's possible that someone would say those things in a friendly/platonic manner, right? He's a big networker/relationship builder, so I have always chalked up these instances to that, but the more they happen, the more I wonder.

[Anonymous]

Turn him in to HR. #metoo

[Anonymous]

No.

[Anonymous]

There are ways to say those things without intentions of getting in your pants

[Anonymous]

Hard to say. But the bigger question: are you flirting back?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hard to say. But the bigger question: are you flirting back?

No, I'm not. He's very attractive, yet I'm not really attracted to him in a romantic or sexual way.

[Anonymous]

No, that's not flirting. It's two people, working hard on a project, interacting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Turn him in to HR. #metoo

GMAFB

[Anonymous]

I can see it both ways. I've known men who were big networkers and were flirty like that with everyone. Especially if he's good looking, he may be trying to use his looks to get ahead.

[Anonymous]

The second is more weird to me than the first. The first is similar to things people in my office say all the time, and they're definitely not flirting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can see it both ways. I've known men who were big networkers and were flirty like that with everyone. Especially if he's good looking, he may be trying to use his looks to get ahead.

This is how I think he may be, so I am hoping that's all it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hard to say. But the bigger question: are you flirting back?

No, I'm not. He's very attractive, yet I'm not really attracted to him in a romantic or sexual way.

If you're not attracted to him, then it's sexual harassment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The second is more weird to me than the first. The first is similar to things people in my office say all the time, and they're definitely not flirting.

I agree

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hard to say. But the bigger question: are you flirting back?

No, I'm not. He's very attractive, yet I'm not really attracted to him in a romantic or sexual way.

If you're not attracted to him, then it's sexual harassment.

That’s laughable. I’m not being sexually harassed.

-OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hard to say. But the bigger question: are you flirting back?

No, I'm not. He's very attractive, yet I'm not really attracted to him in a romantic or sexual way.

If you're not attracted to him, then it's sexual harassment.

That’s laughable. I’m not being sexually harassed.

-OP

If it makes you feel uncomfortable, then what he's doing should be reported to HR.