Sleepovers-anyone else refuse to host or let their kids go to one?

[Anonymous]

I am PARANOID about sleepovers. For these reasons:

1. Having someone else's kid getting hurt at my house. My kids have play dates but a parent always stays (because we are friends too) and I feel comfortable with that but I would never let another kid spend the night because it freaks me out. What if the kid has some kid of allergic reaction etc...

2. Lice. I mean a sleepover just seems like a great way to get/have it spread.

3. I always thought the whole concept was weird.

I am a pretty chill parent in most other ways but sleepovers are non negotiable. Anyone else?

[Anonymous]

Same here ,
We don’t go to sleepovers and we don’t host sleepovers. Sleepovers are overrated and not nessasary. As of Lice kids can get it even without sleepovers .

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous]Same here ,
We don’t go to sleepovers and we don’t host sleepovers. Sleepovers are overrated and not nessasary. As of Lice kids can get it even without sleepovers .[/quote]

Op here. Yes I know they can get lice anywhere-but I feel like a sleepover if someone has lice is a pretty sure way to get it.

[Anonymous]

My kids aren't that age yet. I understand your fear of liability, but isn't the risk of hosting sleepovers basically the same as the risk of having any kind of drop-off party or playdate at your home during the daytime? Kids can get hurt and have allergic reactions or lice in the daytime too.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, I’m a pretty strict parent about a lot of things but think the anti-sleepover parents are nuts and your kids are going to hold it against you as they grow up.

The chances of anything going seriously wrong are so slim- most kids know their allergies by sleepover age. If you are friends with the families you know the kids and their potential issues. Don’t have sleepovers with kids you don’t know, but get over it and don’t rain on your kids’ fun.

And lice isn’t the end of the world. Teach your kid not to share their hairbrush and pillow.

[Anonymous]

omg my kids are in college now and lice was the exact reason i discouraged it. My daughter still ended up with lice twice from day camp!!!!

[Anonymous]

You are mot a chill parent. No play dates without their parents? How old are the children?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, I’m a pretty strict parent about a lot of things but think the anti-sleepover parents are nuts and your kids are going to hold it against you as they grow up.

The chances of anything going seriously wrong are so slim- most kids know their allergies by sleepover age. If you are friends with the families you know the kids and their potential issues. Don’t have sleepovers with kids you don’t know, but get over it and don’t rain on your kids’ fun.

And lice isn’t the end of the world. Teach your kid not to share their hairbrush and pillow.

+1.

I feel sorry for the kids that don’t get to experience sleepovers with friends because of their nutty parents.

[Anonymous]

Generally for a kinder (and younger) or maybe a 1st grader you stay for the first, possibly the 2nd, play date so that you can see how the other parent is handling supervision, how the kids are getting along, the rooms your kid is playing in and whether or not your kid is being a good guest.

Once you feel comfortable with the other parent, you do drop offs. If the other parent is a friend you may hang around to chat - not because you have to for supervision purposes but because you want to hang out with your friend.

Sleepovers....have never been my fave thing, tbh. But we allowed them on occasion - our kids slept over at friends' houses and we allowed their friends to sleep over at our house. I never really relaxed when my kids were out of the house or they had friends over. But they loved them...

I could never understand the parents who want to do play dates every single weekend. That would wear me out. Plus, I would miss our family time together.

[Anonymous]

My child is in 4th and we don't yet. I'd prefer them at my house so I can supervise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Generally for a kinder (and younger) or maybe a 1st grader you stay for the first, possibly the 2nd, play date so that you can see how the other parent is handling supervision, how the kids are getting along, the rooms your kid is playing in and whether or not your kid is being a good guest.

Once you feel comfortable with the other parent, you do drop offs. If the other parent is a friend you may hang around to chat - not because you have to for supervision purposes but because you want to hang out with your friend.

Sleepovers....have never been my fave thing, tbh. But we allowed them on occasion - our kids slept over at friends' houses and we allowed their friends to sleep over at our house. I never really relaxed when my kids were out of the house or they had friends over. But they loved them...

I could never understand the parents who want to do play dates every single weekend. That would wear me out. Plus, I would miss our family time together.

Parents either want to dump their kids on someone or have kids play with other kids so they don't have to play with them.

[Anonymous]

I don’t like them just because nobody gets enough sleep and kids are a pain in the ass the next day. Otherwise, fine—we have friends we trade off with when we want to go to a concert or something. Kids have fun and we don’t have to pay out the nose for a late-night babysitter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am PARANOID about sleepovers. For these reasons:

1. Having someone else's kid getting hurt at my house. My kids have play dates but a parent always stays (because we are friends too) and I feel comfortable with that but I would never let another kid spend the night because it freaks me out. What if the kid has some kid of allergic reaction etc...

2. Lice. I mean a sleepover just seems like a great way to get/have it spread.

3. I always thought the whole concept was weird.

I am a pretty chill parent in most other ways but sleepovers are non negotiable. Anyone else?

NP As a parent we never really encouraged sleepovers but, my hs dd has a really good friend and they have sleepovers all the time. It is nice because each girl gets to see how different ( better and for worse) how other people live. My dd now appreciates the things we do as a family but, has learned a lot from the other mom so she appreciates her too.

Lice is not a reason to forbid sleepovers because why icky they do not kill. Just be open to the idea of sleepovers. Your kid may not like them so you need not worry but, it is good practice for when they go away to college.

[Anonymous]

I let my 9 yo sleepover at our next door neighbors house. They forbid their kids from going to sleepovers though - they don’t think kids should sleep out of the house. But our DD being over there keeps their kids from fighting with each other, so they relaxed their rules to allow hosting. It’s weird but works great for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am PARANOID about sleepovers. For these reasons:

1. Having someone else's kid getting hurt at my house. My kids have play dates but a parent always stays (because we are friends too) and I feel comfortable with that but I would never let another kid spend the night because it freaks me out. What if the kid has some kid of allergic reaction etc...

2. Lice. I mean a sleepover just seems like a great way to get/have it spread.

3. I always thought the whole concept was weird.

I am a pretty chill parent in most other ways but sleepovers are non negotiable. Anyone else?

Hysterical. You are so clearly not "chill" in any way. Bet you think you're funny, too.