Sleepovers-anyone else refuse to host or let their kids go to one?

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Anonymous wrote:I do not find it strange that you won't host sleepovers or let your elementary school age kids attend one.

I am totally weirded out that you only do playdates where the parent always stays. Are your kids in K? Maybe 1st? If they are older than this, you'll probably have to cut the umbilical cord at some point. I mean, I have said no many times to parents I don't trust. But allowing no drop-off playdates at all is very strange and helicoptery.

My boys (they are twins) are in kindergarten. (OP here)

This entire thread makes a lot more sense. Parents will stop staying for play dates very soon. By December or June if it’s their first born.

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When the kids were younger (under 8) I only let them have sleepovers with parents that we trusted 100%, basically people who we were also friends with. Now they're 11 and 12 we let them have sleepover pretty much with any friends, as I think they're old enough to take care of themselves and call us if something goes awry.

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Anonymous wrote:My DH prosecutes sex offenders. He has seen a lot of cases of things happening at sleepovers, so we don't do them. I also have to say that I remember a friend's older brother coming and messing with me when I was sleeping at her house in HS. So I agree with this.

Exactly this. It takes one incident to change their lives forever. Why risk it?

Hate to break it to you but most are a family friend/known by child and not a stranger at a sleep over. You find sex offenders everywhere- school (teacher reactly in the news), church, etc. Your time would be better spent educating your child.

Don’t you think the people not letting their kids do sleepovers are also concerned about these scenarios as well? Don’t act like they aren’t educating their children. My parents never let me have sleepovers and to this day I am eternally grateful. Turns out a friend of mine in high school was molested by her father for years. Oh, and he molested two of our friends while at the house during a sleepover. My elementary aged children will not be sleeping at other people’s houses.

And as for the sports team in high school and overnight trips, we will likely go until kids are around 16. Don’t tell me they will be in college soon etc. Lots of development in maturity and judgment happens every year for kids. Big difference between 15 and 18.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, I’m a pretty strict parent about a lot of things but think the anti-sleepover parents are nuts and your kids are going to hold it against you as they grow up.

The chances of anything going seriously wrong are so slim- most kids know their allergies by sleepover age. If you are friends with the families you know the kids and their potential issues. Don’t have sleepovers with kids you don’t know, but get over it and don’t rain on your kids’ fun.

And lice isn’t the end of the world. Teach your kid not to share their hairbrush and pillow.

I was never allowed to go to sleep overs and I don’t feel like I missed anything and I don’t hold it against my parents. If it makes you uncomfortable then I wouldn’t do it at all. You are the parent of your children and you have a right to say no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, I’m a pretty strict parent about a lot of things but think the anti-sleepover parents are nuts and your kids are going to hold it against you as they grow up.

The chances of anything going seriously wrong are so slim- most kids know their allergies by sleepover age. If you are friends with the families you know the kids and their potential issues. Don’t have sleepovers with kids you don’t know, but get over it and don’t rain on your kids’ fun.

And lice isn’t the end of the world. Teach your kid not to share their hairbrush and pillow.

Agree. Not to mention they will be social piranhas by late elementary school and middle school. That is all the girls do. Sleepover and more sleepovers. I love love hosting them. It is a way to get to know the girls your kids hang out with and see the interactions.

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Parents are so insanely paranoid. Sleepovers are a rite of passage. Do you all just RSVP no to all the sleepover birthday parties or do you helicopters show up at 9pm to pick-up when the fun is just getting started.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH prosecutes sex offenders. He has seen a lot of cases of things happening at sleepovers, so we don't do them. I also have to say that I remember a friend's older brother coming and messing with me when I was sleeping at her house in HS. So I agree with this.

Exactly this. It takes one incident to change their lives forever. Why risk it?

Hate to break it to you but most are a family friend/known by child and not a stranger at a sleep over. You find sex offenders everywhere- school (teacher reactly in the news), church, etc. Your time would be better spent educating your child.

Don’t you think the people not letting their kids do sleepovers are also concerned about these scenarios as well? Don’t act like they aren’t educating their children. My parents never let me have sleepovers and to this day I am eternally grateful. Turns out a friend of mine in high school was molested by her father for years. Oh, and he molested two of our friends while at the house during a sleepover. My elementary aged children will not be sleeping at other people’s houses.

And as for the sports team in high school and overnight trips, we will likely go until kids are around 16. Don’t tell me they will be in college soon etc. Lots of development in maturity and judgment happens every year for kids. Big difference between 15 and 18.

16? LOL

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