Bar Mitzvah Gift Amount at Wealthy Private Schools

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Anonymous wrote:
I have the same question. Not just how much to give - $36 sounds good to me, because I just feel like it's weird to give more for a classmate - but is it considered rude to turn down the invitation? My kid is super socially anxious and doesn't want to go to any of them, even though inviting the whole class seems to be the thing to do. But he will hardly know anyone there and it would probably just be kind of painful for him.

Will that be the case at all parties? How about his own parties? At some point do you want this to change?