Concerned about socioeconomic difference within our family

[Anonymous]

This is a fake post. OP keeps posting about how hard it is to be rich when others around them aren’t. I think it’s the same as this person:

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/994516.page

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a fake post. OP keeps posting about how hard it is to be rich when others around them aren’t. I think it’s the same as this person:

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/994516.page

^You just reposted the link to this thread. Did you mean to post this recent one from Finance:
https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1031962.page

And the OP keeps posting how hard it is to be “poorer” than her sister and SIL. If it’s not a troll, she doesn’t ever take any advice.

[Anonymous]

Not you again. Insufferable!! Cannot bear another one of these ridiculous threads from OP.

[Anonymous]

You make 500k/ year. I have zero sympathy for you.

[Anonymous]

I hope you are a troll otherwise you are seriously disconnected from reality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't get it. I have friends that made $2 million a year and then got a windfall from a business sale over $100 million. They live in a gigantic house, 24/7 nanny, etc. They are also deeply unhappy. I don't wish for that!

The problem is that this is a tale you tell yourself to justify why you aren’t as rich as them. On a while they have no greater problems than other sociology economic statuses, just different. In fact some studies point out that they have less problems.

[Anonymous]

Of all the things that you’ll have to worry about when you have kids, this one ranks pretty low. A much bigger concern of yours should be not raising spoiled brats. For starters, read the book, Choking on the Silver Spoon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I married into a MC family when I married my DH. I grew up UMC/UC when I was younger so I know that lifestyle well. Unfortunately my parents mismanaged their money so I do not have a trust fund or what have you as is customary of my set. Together DH and I make a good income now in our early thirties. 500K or so depending on how his business does per year. We are pretty happy considering. Both our sisters however, happened to marry significantly wealthy men. One is marrying an investment banker and they aren't even 30th yet and live a life very few can afford. The other is marrying a well-to-do techie who is obviously a tech superstar in addition to coming from a wealthy family who own many properties and constantly gift them getaways and other fun treats.

I know my husband and I are fortunate but now compared to the drastically different lifestyles of our immediate siblings...we feel...less than. And I am working through my own feelings and coming to terms with having a very wealthy sister in law and sister, in the back of my mind, I worry about the financial discrepancy any children we have might feel. It must be odd for a little child to grow up with cousins who live fabulously wealthy lives.

I am unsure how to navigate this issue which I know from experience will eventually come up. Advice? Thoughts?

These feelings are normal but useless and stressful. You live life according to your circumstances, be honest about it and don’t try to keep up when you can’t. It’s luck not a character flaw so no need to feel inferior. When feeling bad, think about having to do it with $50k income instead of $500k and you’ll instantly feel better.

[Anonymous]

But, this might matter. Wait until they all take their jets to go places and you have to meet them at the "public airport" like a poor to go on vacation with them. Or, they will have their own yacht and you will be the moocher passenger. Their kids will go to top privates or boarding schools and you will be in MCPS These things might come up. Are you willing to spend every dime you have to keep up with them or not? Since your parents blew your trust, you have no safety net.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It must be very difficult to live off of only $500k a year. Sorry you are poor.

LOL! Seriously, you are so out of touch OP.

[Anonymous]

Definitely 1000+ troll. She always writes about sisters and sister-in-laws.