GuHetero women should stay out of gay spaces?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Straight people are welcome to join their gay friends at the gay bar. But a large gaggle of all straight women is obnoxious. I’m lesbian and have encountered straight women who are uncomfortable around me in my own community because they think the gay bar is a zoo for them to ogle hot gay men only. Get outta here!

Not sure what any of this has to do with trans women and bathrooms, but OP — you do know trans and gay people arent the same? LGB don’t agree with everything the T community does.

Another lesbian here and I don't go out much anymore because I have young kids but damn, this shit used to drive me C R A Z Y for the reasons you describe! Most of my friends (before kids) are/were gay men so I would frequent the kinds of spaces that these gaggles of women would fall up into, and you're exactly right, I ended up feeling kind of uncomfortable in my own community.

[Anonymous]

I am a “biological woman” and IDGAF who is in the restroom with me. So IDK that it is “biological women” making this argument about restrooms; I think it’s people who are highly susceptible to anti-trans organizing from RWNJs.

[Anonymous]

It’s funny how LGBT people are fixated on making women’s spaces “inclusive” of men with penises hanging out, but then men’s spaces are sacrosanct. The bachelorettes are making gay bars “inclusive,” OK? Deal with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s funny how LGBT people are fixated on making women’s spaces “inclusive” of men with penises hanging out, but then men’s spaces are sacrosanct. The bachelorettes are making gay bars “inclusive,” OK? Deal with it.

This is really interesting and I never thought about it before. This totally changes flipped my perspective.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We need to lay to rest the bachelorette/bachelor parties. They are dumb and harassing in every location.

Gender reveals are next.

That was my thought exactly! Bachelor/ette parties in public spaces are dumb and probably annoying to other guests, regardless of sexual orientation or gender.

Gender reveals are dumb too. Newsflash: nobody cares about your dumb wedding or the gender of your child.

I would add bridal and baby showers to the list as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s funny how LGBT people are fixated on making women’s spaces “inclusive” of men with penises hanging out, but then men’s spaces are sacrosanct. The bachelorettes are making gay bars “inclusive,” OK? Deal with it.

Where on earth do you think that penises are hanging out? In in a women's restroom? Do you not understand how stalls work?

Besides, not the lesbians on this thread who find the presence of bachelorette parties and other large groups of cishet women in gay spaces annoying. This isn't about preserving male spaces, because there are almost zero "gay male" bars in 2021. This is about ensuring that queer spaces remain safe for queer people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you know these female-bodied people don’t identify as men? This thread is premised on a transphobic assumption.

Obviously. The givaway was the "trans women are a threat to biological women" assertion that a surprising number of posters seem to just let slide.

[Anonymous]

Bars are a public accommodation, so imo we should be extra cautious to err on the side of welcoming.

I mean, bachelorette parties are annoying at a straight bar, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s funny how LGBT people are fixated on making women’s spaces “inclusive” of men with penises hanging out, but then men’s spaces are sacrosanct. The bachelorettes are making gay bars “inclusive,” OK? Deal with it.

This is really interesting and I never thought about it before. This totally changes flipped my perspective.

I think you are a sock puppet troll.

Cis/hetero people are the majority. The majority doesn't get to invade the very rare spaces for minorities. The world is your safe space. If you are a woman who claims to be afraid of trans women, they are you an idiot or a liar. Look at the statistics on assault. It's cis hetero men you should be afraid of.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s funny how LGBT people are fixated on making women’s spaces “inclusive” of men with penises hanging out, but then men’s spaces are sacrosanct. The bachelorettes are making gay bars “inclusive,” OK? Deal with it.

This is really interesting and I never thought about it before. This totally changes flipped my perspective.

I think you are a sock puppet troll.

Cis/hetero people are the majority. The majority doesn't get to invade the very rare spaces for minorities. The world is your safe space. If you are a woman who claims to be afraid of trans women, they are you an idiot or a liar. Look at the statistics on assault. It's cis hetero men you should be afraid of.

1) I'm not sure what a sock puppet troll is, but thank you?
2) That is the most ignorant thing I have ever heard - clearly from someone who isn't aware of how large and vast the world is.
3) All this poster is talking about is how men somehow seem to always hold onto men-only spaces while women are constantly forced to change theirs. Nothing to do with the nonsense about safety you are rambling about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s funny how LGBT people are fixated on making women’s spaces “inclusive” of men with penises hanging out, but then men’s spaces are sacrosanct. The bachelorettes are making gay bars “inclusive,” OK? Deal with it.

Where on earth do you think that penises are hanging out? In in a women's restroom? Do you not understand how stalls work?

Besides, not the lesbians on this thread who find the presence of bachelorette parties and other large groups of cishet women in gay spaces annoying. This isn't about preserving male spaces, because there are almost zero "gay male" bars in 2021. This is about ensuring that queer spaces remain safe for queer people.

Inclusion goes both ways, honey. Not so great when it’s your space being invaded, is it? Oh, well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s funny how LGBT people are fixated on making women’s spaces “inclusive” of men with penises hanging out, but then men’s spaces are sacrosanct. The bachelorettes are making gay bars “inclusive,” OK? Deal with it.

This is really interesting and I never thought about it before. This totally changes flipped my perspective.

PP here. I couldn’t care less. You can’t exclude women from gay male spaces, so I guess you’ll just have to stay mad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s funny how LGBT people are fixated on making women’s spaces “inclusive” of men with penises hanging out, but then men’s spaces are sacrosanct. The bachelorettes are making gay bars “inclusive,” OK? Deal with it.

Where on earth do you think that penises are hanging out? In in a women's restroom? Do you not understand how stalls work?

Besides, not the lesbians on this thread who find the presence of bachelorette parties and other large groups of cishet women in gay spaces annoying. This isn't about preserving male spaces, because there are almost zero "gay male" bars in 2021. This is about ensuring that queer spaces remain safe for queer people.

Inclusion goes both ways, honey. Not so great when it’s your space being invaded, is it? Oh, well.

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