Handsy Teenage Boy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
EWE

OP don't listen to this. Listen to your gut and no you do not need a therapist for protecting your kid.

This behavior is inappropriate period.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not all physical contact is sexual, and you are setting your daughter up for a word of issues if you teach her to fear any physical contact from boys/men. If there is something specific about his contact that is sending up red flags, or if it seems to be making your daughter uncomfortable, then you should absolutely speak up. Otherwise, continue to talk to your daughter about her right to say no if someone’s touch makes her uncomfortable, but don’t teach her to fear all boys/men simply for being boys/men.

This. Also, not all boys are malicious, infact they are mostly oblivious. He cannot wrestle with her so he is tickling her. You said that it was not sexual and your DD enjoys the attention.

This. I think he's probably just treating her like the little kid she's always been to him. There's nothing wrong with tickling my fully grown cousins and siblings and I still have tickling fights. And there's nothing wrong with an older cousin spending time with a younger cousin. Some of my best memories are of hanging with my older cousins and siblings .

I understand that OP was molested and that makes her hypervigilent but that doesn't make her correct. In fact many times I see survivors of abuse wrongly inject abuse into situations . This is especially true when their own children reach the age they were when the abuse started.
The thing to do here is for OP to continue to remind her daughter she can always tell anyone not to touch her and she can always come to her or her dad if something is bothering her. She can also suggest another activity for the kids to do. Op should also see a therapist.

EWE

OP don't listen to this. Listen to your gut and no you do not need a therapist for protecting your kid.

This behavior is inappropriate period.

The OP has already confirmed that it was NOT sexual.

Either read the whole thread or don't post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just say no more, hands to yourself, you guys are too old for this. Say it in front of his parents and they should get the hint. If not, and he keeps doing it then next time say I already told you no tickle games. It’s getting too wild. If it continues then there is an issue.

This is exactly right. Just say this. No need to sit and stew, just cut off the nonsense . Who cares if anyone thinks you are being sensitive or weird.