Marriage is miserable: why does everyone want to get married?
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Anonymous
| Because when it's good it means having a best friend and partner to ride the rollercoaster with. My life is better with my DH, even if there are times he annoys me or makes me mad, because he loves me, makes me laugh, introduces me to new things/people/ideas that I'd otherwise be too set in my ways to ever explore, picks up the slack when I need a break, and pays half of the bills. We've only been married for 10 years but he has made me more patient, flexible, and open-minded than I was before we were together. I am happier most days than I would be without him, and the days that I think it would be easier to fly solo are not THAT bad so as to outweigh the good. |
Anonymous
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Marriage can be great. The problem is that it can become stale, people sometimes change and become less compatible as a result, or every now and then it just runs its course -- but people stay married anyway.
Marriage, at its legal heart (though not the emotional one), is a contract. It should have a renewal clause. That is, it should expire after a certain period of time -- say, 20 years, long enough to raise a child -- unless both parties agree to renew it. That would encourage people to work on their marriages over time to keep them fresh and satisfying to both parties. And it would create larger pools of marriagable partners in the cases where people decided they would be better of alone or with someone else. |
Anonymous
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People get married because it's what we're to do.
There's a social hierarchy and a certain status to being married. I personally think it's overrated even the good ones but that's how our society is structured |
Anonymous
This reasoning right here is why so many people are miserable. Being unmarried doesn't mean you are lonely. Being single doesn't mean you are lonely. People can be lonely |
Anonymous
| I am happy that I am married. Nit always happy with DH and he is not always happy with me. But glad I am married. IMO still beats the alternative. I love having a partner. |
Anonymous
You don't actually know if it beats the alternative. |
Anonymous
Some of us have lived both ways, so yes we do actually know. |
Anonymous
Really? Tell that to Barack Obama and Bill Clinton and Kamala Harris and millions of other productive successful adults who grew up raised by single moms - and single dads too, I’m sure. I know more messed up people who grew up in toxic marriage backwash than I do that grew up with a strong single parent. |
Anonymous
Well... I was single until I got married.... |
Anonymous
| Marriage is fine. Don't ya think that you need somebody? Don't ya think that you need someone? Everybody needs somebody. |
Anonymous
Its a special kind of terrible lonely being married to a verbally abusive or addicted partner. The shame of being lonely within marriage makes it worse. I dont feel lonely anymore as a divorced mom.....I have my kids to keep me company and I enjoy my own company and am very independent. |