Is it weird to be a virgin after 35?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not a reason to judge or make fun of someone, but it is highly unusual for a healthy adult.

I agree its unusual but I am a healthy adult. Never cheated, never did drugs, never slept with anyone at 15 like my healthy physician did or the single teen moms I went to high school with. I just haven't experienced a hard driven life yet as most wild and carefree dc transplants have.

Well what are you waiting for? There's also options between being a virgin and having sex at 15/being "wild". You seem to have a weird hangup about transplants too. Being "a local" is cool if you're in Paris or NYC or London. DC? Ehhh.

[Anonymous]

The weird part is your attitude and responses in this thread, which is what would be a red flag for people.

I was a virgin until marriage at 26 for religious reasons but I still had a sex drive before then, was tempted many times, and definitely did not judge others for making different choices and having sex!!!

[Anonymous]

Here are all the bizarre, judgey comments OP has made (copied word for word) where she describes the degraded morals of those who do have sex versus her own pure self. OP - you have seriously messed up attitudes about sex. This is why you aren't having sex and/or why men are running away from you. Like the very first posters said, virgins at age 35 ALWAYS have baggage - and here is yours:

- I am probably more reserved than most DC UM women but I wouldn't sleep with a guy until I know I love him
- He is dating a younger woman with lower self esteem
- I dont place an importance on sex. That's the thing. I think other things are important. Personality, experiences, interests, long conversations
- Oh I also come from a culture where my mother was wealthy and sleeping with a man right away has always been low class
- The girls who are se x u ally abused usually have a high sex drive or become morbidly obese or anorexic.
- I agree its unusual but I am a healthy adult. Never cheated, never did drugs, never slept with anyone at 15 like my healthy physician did or the single teen moms I went to high school with. I just haven't experienced a hard driven life yet as most wild and carefree dc transplants have.
- My ex was a huge liar but rich so girls didn't care.
- He knew it was a lost cause and looked for a woman who was from the same country I was from but she's like twice my size and 5 inches shorter than me. He is white so we had different cultures. However she has had a harder life with more life and sex u al experience probably.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here are all the bizarre, judgey comments OP has made (copied word for word) where she describes the degraded morals of those who do have sex versus her own pure self. OP - you have seriously messed up attitudes about sex. This is why you aren't having sex and/or why men are running away from you. Like the very first posters said, virgins at age 35 ALWAYS have baggage - and here is yours:

- I am probably more reserved than most DC UM women but I wouldn't sleep with a guy until I know I love him
- He is dating a younger woman with lower self esteem
- I dont place an importance on sex. That's the thing. I think other things are important. Personality, experiences, interests, long conversations
- Oh I also come from a culture where my mother was wealthy and sleeping with a man right away has always been low class
- The girls who are se x u ally abused usually have a high sex drive or become morbidly obese or anorexic.
- I agree its unusual but I am a healthy adult. Never cheated, never did drugs, never slept with anyone at 15 like my healthy physician did or the single teen moms I went to high school with. I just haven't experienced a hard driven life yet as most wild and carefree dc transplants have.
- My ex was a huge liar but rich so girls didn't care.
- He knew it was a lost cause and looked for a woman who was from the same country I was from but she's like twice my size and 5 inches shorter than me. He is white so we had different cultures. However she has had a harder life with more life and sex u al experience probably.

Thank you ma'am! I expected you to come out from under your rock as the prominent dc um defensive and snarky calling the kettle black troll you are!

Wow that took a lot of work! How many hours do you spend on here doing nothing?

Nope they're running towards me but I am rejecting them. I don't want to lay on my back for just anyone. If you got to where you are by doing that more power to you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here are all the bizarre, judgey comments OP has made (copied word for word) where she describes the degraded morals of those who do have sex versus her own pure self. OP - you have seriously messed up attitudes about sex. This is why you aren't having sex and/or why men are running away from you. Like the very first posters said, virgins at age 35 ALWAYS have baggage - and here is yours:

- I am probably more reserved than most DC UM women but I wouldn't sleep with a guy until I know I love him
- He is dating a younger woman with lower self esteem
- I dont place an importance on sex. That's the thing. I think other things are important. Personality, experiences, interests, long conversations
- Oh I also come from a culture where my mother was wealthy and sleeping with a man right away has always been low class
- The girls who are se x u ally abused usually have a high sex drive or become morbidly obese or anorexic.
- I agree its unusual but I am a healthy adult. Never cheated, never did drugs, never slept with anyone at 15 like my healthy physician did or the single teen moms I went to high school with. I just haven't experienced a hard driven life yet as most wild and carefree dc transplants have.
- My ex was a huge liar but rich so girls didn't care.
- He knew it was a lost cause and looked for a woman who was from the same country I was from but she's like twice my size and 5 inches shorter than me. He is white so we had different cultures. However she has had a harder life with more life and sex u al experience probably.

Thank you ma'am! I expected you to come out from under your rock as the prominent dc um defensive and snarky calling the kettle black troll you are!

Wow that took a lot of work! How many hours do you spend on here doing nothing?

Nope they're running towards me but I am rejecting them. I don't want to lay on my back for just anyone. If you got to where you are by doing that more power to you!

If this is OP (and I'm not sure that it is), yes, you have serious issues. You think anyone who has sex outside of marriage is a wh0re. Even I - who was another late-in-life virgin in one of these posts -- know that you can't string a guy along for two years unless you are both fundamentally religious or purposefully celibate. I just waited until it felt comfortable, and it was no big deal. Are there some people who I think claim that they're all modern and can have all kinds of casual sex but deep down are really also looking for a relationship and think that sex will get them love? Yes. But most people in a relationship as a couple who are out of high school or maybe college are having sex and it's not a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here are all the bizarre, judgey comments OP has made (copied word for word) where she describes the degraded morals of those who do have sex versus her own pure self. OP - you have seriously messed up attitudes about sex. This is why you aren't having sex and/or why men are running away from you. Like the very first posters said, virgins at age 35 ALWAYS have baggage - and here is yours:

- I am probably more reserved than most DC UM women but I wouldn't sleep with a guy until I know I love him
- He is dating a younger woman with lower self esteem
- I dont place an importance on sex. That's the thing. I think other things are important. Personality, experiences, interests, long conversations
- Oh I also come from a culture where my mother was wealthy and sleeping with a man right away has always been low class
- The girls who are se x u ally abused usually have a high sex drive or become morbidly obese or anorexic.
- I agree its unusual but I am a healthy adult. Never cheated, never did drugs, never slept with anyone at 15 like my healthy physician did or the single teen moms I went to high school with. I just haven't experienced a hard driven life yet as most wild and carefree dc transplants have.
- My ex was a huge liar but rich so girls didn't care.
- He knew it was a lost cause and looked for a woman who was from the same country I was from but she's like twice my size and 5 inches shorter than me. He is white so we had different cultures. However she has had a harder life with more life and sex u al experience probably.

Thank you ma'am! I expected you to come out from under your rock as the prominent dc um defensive and snarky calling the kettle black troll you are!

Wow that took a lot of work! How many hours do you spend on here doing nothing?

Nope they're running towards me but I am rejecting them. I don't want to lay on my back for just anyone. If you got to where you are by doing that more power to you!

You are officially sick, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not a reason to judge or make fun of someone, but it is highly unusual for a healthy adult.

I agree its unusual but I am a healthy adult. Never cheated, never did drugs, never slept with anyone at 15 like my healthy physician did or the single teen moms I went to high school with. I just haven't experienced a hard driven life yet as most wild and carefree dc transplants have.

Well what are you waiting for? There's also options between being a virgin and having sex at 15/being "wild". You seem to have a weird hangup about transplants too. Being "a local" is cool if you're in Paris or NYC or London. DC? Ehhh.

Uh we have a pandemic going on! Its not exactly the best time to be wild and carefree! I sense snark but I will ignore it. Never said being a local was cool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here are all the bizarre, judgey comments OP has made (copied word for word) where she describes the degraded morals of those who do have sex versus her own pure self. OP - you have seriously messed up attitudes about sex. This is why you aren't having sex and/or why men are running away from you. Like the very first posters said, virgins at age 35 ALWAYS have baggage - and here is yours:

- I am probably more reserved than most DC UM women but I wouldn't sleep with a guy until I know I love him
- He is dating a younger woman with lower self esteem
- I dont place an importance on sex. That's the thing. I think other things are important. Personality, experiences, interests, long conversations
- Oh I also come from a culture where my mother was wealthy and sleeping with a man right away has always been low class
- The girls who are se x u ally abused usually have a high sex drive or become morbidly obese or anorexic.
- I agree its unusual but I am a healthy adult. Never cheated, never did drugs, never slept with anyone at 15 like my healthy physician did or the single teen moms I went to high school with. I just haven't experienced a hard driven life yet as most wild and carefree dc transplants have.
- My ex was a huge liar but rich so girls didn't care.
- He knew it was a lost cause and looked for a woman who was from the same country I was from but she's like twice my size and 5 inches shorter than me. He is white so we had different cultures. However she has had a harder life with more life and sex u al experience probably.

Thank you ma'am! I expected you to come out from under your rock as the prominent dc um defensive and snarky calling the kettle black troll you are!

Wow that took a lot of work! How many hours do you spend on here doing nothing?

Nope they're running towards me but I am rejecting them. I don't want to lay on my back for just anyone. If you got to where you are by doing that more power to you!

If this is OP (and I'm not sure that it is), yes, you have serious issues. You think anyone who has sex outside of marriage is a wh0re. Even I - who was another late-in-life virgin in one of these posts -- know that you can't string a guy along for two years unless you are both fundamentally religious or purposefully celibate. I just waited until it felt comfortable, and it was no big deal. Are there some people who I think claim that they're all modern and can have all kinds of casual sex but deep down are really also looking for a relationship and think that sex will get them love? Yes. But most people in a relationship as a couple who are out of high school or maybe college are having sex and it's not a big deal.

Never strung him along.

Were you a part of our relationship to say so? No one forced him to stay. He wanted to.

Why are you putting words in my mouth? I never said anywhere that having sex outside marriage makes you a ho. Wow the drama seekers on here! You have major issues lady major issues! Argue with someone who you actually know and who isn't anon?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here are all the bizarre, judgey comments OP has made (copied word for word) where she describes the degraded morals of those who do have sex versus her own pure self. OP - you have seriously messed up attitudes about sex. This is why you aren't having sex and/or why men are running away from you. Like the very first posters said, virgins at age 35 ALWAYS have baggage - and here is yours:

- I am probably more reserved than most DC UM women but I wouldn't sleep with a guy until I know I love him
- He is dating a younger woman with lower self esteem
- I dont place an importance on sex. That's the thing. I think other things are important. Personality, experiences, interests, long conversations
- Oh I also come from a culture where my mother was wealthy and sleeping with a man right away has always been low class
- The girls who are se x u ally abused usually have a high sex drive or become morbidly obese or anorexic.
- I agree its unusual but I am a healthy adult. Never cheated, never did drugs, never slept with anyone at 15 like my healthy physician did or the single teen moms I went to high school with. I just haven't experienced a hard driven life yet as most wild and carefree dc transplants have.
- My ex was a huge liar but rich so girls didn't care.
- He knew it was a lost cause and looked for a woman who was from the same country I was from but she's like twice my size and 5 inches shorter than me. He is white so we had different cultures. However she has had a harder life with more life and sex u al experience probably.

Thank you ma'am! I expected you to come out from under your rock as the prominent dc um defensive and snarky calling the kettle black troll you are!

Wow that took a lot of work! How many hours do you spend on here doing nothing?

Nope they're running towards me but I am rejecting them. I don't want to lay on my back for just anyone. If you got to where you are by doing that more power to you!

You are officially sick, OP.

Lol 😆 thanks ma'am. Spread your drama elsewhere and seek therapy for your time spent doing nothing. Maybe find something more productive to do?

[Anonymous]

um yea.. I was 30 and had intimacy issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not a reason to judge or make fun of someone, but it is highly unusual for a healthy adult.

I agree its unusual but I am a healthy adult. Never cheated, never did drugs, never slept with anyone at 15 like my healthy physician did or the single teen moms I went to high school with. I just haven't experienced a hard driven life yet as most wild and carefree dc transplants have.

Sure. But I think the vast majority of people who have sex before 35 aren’t hard driven or wild or carefree. They just...do sex before 35. Because it would be unusual not to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not a reason to judge or make fun of someone, but it is highly unusual for a healthy adult.

I agree its unusual but I am a healthy adult. Never cheated, never did drugs, never slept with anyone at 15 like my healthy physician did or the single teen moms I went to high school with. I just haven't experienced a hard driven life yet as most wild and carefree dc transplants have.

Sure. But I think the vast majority of people who have sex before 35 aren’t hard driven or wild or carefree. They just...do sex before 35. Because it would be unusual not to.

That is a carefree attitude though. In other words... everyone is doing it so I will too attitude. Most people I know slept with someone for that reason and to not die a virgin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here are all the bizarre, judgey comments OP has made (copied word for word) where she describes the degraded morals of those who do have sex versus her own pure self. OP - you have seriously messed up attitudes about sex. This is why you aren't having sex and/or why men are running away from you. Like the very first posters said, virgins at age 35 ALWAYS have baggage - and here is yours:

- I am probably more reserved than most DC UM women but I wouldn't sleep with a guy until I know I love him
- He is dating a younger woman with lower self esteem
- I dont place an importance on sex. That's the thing. I think other things are important. Personality, experiences, interests, long conversations
- Oh I also come from a culture where my mother was wealthy and sleeping with a man right away has always been low class
- The girls who are se x u ally abused usually have a high sex drive or become morbidly obese or anorexic.
- I agree its unusual but I am a healthy adult. Never cheated, never did drugs, never slept with anyone at 15 like my healthy physician did or the single teen moms I went to high school with. I just haven't experienced a hard driven life yet as most wild and carefree dc transplants have.
- My ex was a huge liar but rich so girls didn't care.
- He knew it was a lost cause and looked for a woman who was from the same country I was from but she's like twice my size and 5 inches shorter than me. He is white so we had different cultures. However she has had a harder life with more life and sex u al experience probably.

Thank you ma'am! I expected you to come out from under your rock as the prominent dc um defensive and snarky calling the kettle black troll you are!

Wow that took a lot of work! How many hours do you spend on here doing nothing?

Nope they're running towards me but I am rejecting them. I don't want to lay on my back for just anyone. If you got to where you are by doing that more power to you!

You are officially sick, OP.

Sick and sounds batshit crazy which can't be helping in the relationship department.

[Anonymous]

Wow. Guess what, OP! Sex is fun. Most of us start having fun as we become adults.

It is very very weird to not have had sex by 35. Get thee to a nunnery, sounds like a good fit for you.

[Anonymous]

Tell them you decided to leave the convent.